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Why does everyone feel like they have to get married and have kids?

posted 4 years ago by MovieBuff224 (5053)
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I totally understand for people who genuinely WANT those things, but you and I both know plenty of people who do it because they feel like it’s what you’re supposed to do by a certain age and are either unhappily married or divorced. Me personally, as selfish as it sounds, rather enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want. However, I realize this will eventually get old and I will get lonely, and based on how much I enjoy my nephews I’m fairly certain I want a family of my own. It’s just strange how almost everyone rushes to get married by 30-35 due to societal pressures.

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1466) 4 years ago

Well, I'm not sure if there are too many now who really care to get married. It seems like were hearing less and less of weddings now compared to years past. As for parenthood, many are just sadly scared sh^*less of it. Yes we've succeeded well at making the prospect of parenthood very daunting too many. And it makes little sense to me as to why we've allowed this. I thought having a functioning society would make life easier for us, but instead many of us now view procreation as an obstacle that should either be avoided altogether, or relegated to low priority. The way nature intended it, every time we have straight sex (yeah, sadly I now have to word it that way), procreation should result from it. But birth control and abortion have pretty much made parenthood entirely optional.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

You think we need MORE people breeding?

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1466) 4 years ago

It's what were supposed to do.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

What we are biologically wired to do is irrelevant for the most part, we have far surpassed the primitive state in which we evolved those instincts to survive as a species. We are not in any danger of going extinct, rather we are in immediate danger of overpopulating and destroying this planet.

[–] Quasimodo (16388) 4 years ago

We need more of the right kind of people breeding. What we have now is a system that punishes working people for having kids and rewards people on welfare for having kids. It is completely insane and our countries will pay for it big time.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

Yup exactly I agree w that

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1466) 4 years ago

No, I think were out of control with control. I don't think it's right at all dictating who should or should not have kids.

[–] Quasimodo (16388) 4 years ago

Well it's a lousy job but someone has to do it or we will all face the consequences of ignoring the cold inhuman hand of Natural Selection and it's necessary function.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I've often thought it's crazy that you need a license to get behind the wheel of a car but anyone can bring a child into this world, whether they have the skills or means to care for them or not.

I think the "biological right" to bear children is a crock. If you're not committed to making your child's life the best life it can be, you shouldn't have children.

[–] samoanjoes (57087) 4 years ago

Have you ever seen the film "Marty"?

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

No have you seen Clifford?

[–] samoanjoes (57087) 4 years ago

No. Marty deals with what you're talking about. A man feels pressured to get married at his age, I believe he's 33 in it, because everyone around town keeps putting the pressure on him.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

Ah ok, yeah

[–] mikethemartian (6789) 4 years ago

Is it just pressure from other people? I got the impression he was lonely.

[–] samoanjoes (57087) 4 years ago

I haven't seen it in about 15 years, but I recall a scene where he gets mad at his mom and he's like, "what do you want from. I'm a fat man who can't keep a girl".

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

i fell in love

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

That’s a perfect reason

[–] AndyKing1967 (38427) 4 years ago

My wife used rohypnol on me and then forced me to marry her.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

She nabbed you

[–] ShogunofYonkers (77601) 4 years ago

These women and their sneaky ways man!

[–] AndyKing1967 (38427) 4 years ago

I’m still being held hostage now.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Meh. I don't mind the idea of marriage but I'm so very, very happy I never had kids. The more I see of kids the more I realize that I'm not going to be in my golden years and regretting that decision.

[–] Mrmojo4700 (21544) 4 years ago

Well I have a sister who did not have kids and I wonder who is going to be there for her when she’s old. My parents are in their 70’s and I help them several times a week and as they get older I plan to assist them even more as needed. It just makes me think about people who don’t have children when they are up in age. Who will be there for them?

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I warn my son to get ready and be prepared to look after us in 15 to 20 years. I kind of feel sorry for people who have no kids. I don't think they realize how lonely it can get in old age.

[–] Mrmojo4700 (21544) 4 years ago

I know what you mean hownos. To me it’s like a life cycle: my parents cared for me and gave me the best life possible when I was young and now I’m doing the same for them. It just seems natural.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I've been more or less alone all my life. I'm just not the kind of person who should be having relationships. It doesn't bother me too much. I also live a pretty minimalist lifestyle. So in that way I think I think I can get along in communal life without too much of a problem. I'm already looking forward to moving to an over-55 community in a few years.

It's not ideal but what is?

[–] Quasimodo (16388) 4 years ago

The scientists need to get a wriggle on and invent a working artificial womb and then we can start to churn out designer children on an industrial scale and sterilize all the no-hopers. Onward and upward !

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

We need less people, period.

[–] MonStar (13023) 4 years ago

Women have a biological clock. The quality of their eggs deteriorate with age. Many find themselves infertile in their mid-30s. Having siblings who have children can create a drive to give them cousins.

For some parents, one of the greatest pleasures is to take their multiple toddlers to Buffalo Wild Wings... to annoy the hell out of single men sitting at nearby tables.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I'm someone who really likes to be left to my own thoughts, so when I have someone around me after a few hours, especially someone really chatty, it drives me insane.

I enjoy being single and couldn't imagine having a clingy wife always at my side.