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Why do people break up?

posted 5 years ago by BooBooCat (652)
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It's not a troll and I broke up with a few girlfriends in the past and been dumped. It's a genuine question.

I mean, isn't it more simple to work on the issues rather than just giving up? Because finding a new partner is way harder than stick to what we know. And I don't think that any issue cannot be fixed. Humans are made to overcome things and work on themselves.

I think about that because where I live a guy just murdered his children to take revenge on his ex (mother of the children). If the said ex wouldn't have dumped him, the children would still be alive. This saddens me.

[–] AndyKing1967 (39236) 5 years ago

Bloody Hell! That went dark very quickly.

[–] Mrmojo4700 (21602) 5 years ago

LMAO. that does indeed sum it up.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78051) 5 years ago

OOF😣

[–] Gubbio (3893) 5 years ago

Because finding a new partner is way harder than stick to what we know.

In other words, a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all???

I don't think so..... 🙄

[–] chilone (18067) 5 years ago

W3rD!

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Humans are incredibly fickle. You can't apply much logic to a lot of what humans do.

[–] snepts (11123) 5 years ago

So many people aren't psychologically capable of being in a committed relationship. Being together sounds like fun at first, but interest wanes, emotions boil, etc.

And on a slightly different note, many years ago I was close with a woman who was very devoted. I wasn't settled financially, and I didn't think she was "the one."
I often wonder if my life had gone better had I stuck with her, as she was very organized and grounded and understood privation. But I have a nagging feeling I might have always felt I could have done better, since I didn't know them what I know now and have had many life experiences since, good and not so, which I wouldn't have had I settled with her.

[–] sslssg (34634) 5 years ago

If a person is willing to kill their own children for revenge on their ex, what makes you think that they wouldn't kill that person and the children over a disagreement?

[–] chilone (18067) 5 years ago

That and the fact that he would (and did) probably says a lot about why she dumped him!

[–] nyctc7 (43948) 5 years ago

A reason:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygTV45X1yGI

[–] Otter (24464) 5 years ago

If the wife you speak of had grabbed a shovel and killed the murderous husband when he beat her up again, the children would still be alive. You DO realize that any relationship that ends in murder involved years of horrific abuse, don't you? Which is generally considered a good reason to end the relationship?

As for why sane and well-behaved people dump each other, it's because they realize that the other person will never be what they want in a mate, and the relationship will never make them happy. In other words, you can't polish a turd.

[–] BooBooCat (652) 5 years ago

And then, there are people who are obviously not happy together but stay together for some reason. Kinda unfair to people who actually try.

[–] Otter (24464) 5 years ago

Funny, your original post gave me the impression that you were in favor of staying together even if you're not happy! A lot of people who are afraid of looking for new relationships are, or at least, that's what they end up doing.

The sad fact is, that quite a lot of relationship problems can't be worked through, and sometimes there's no point in wasting your partner's time or your own in trying. If your partner just isn't what you want in a partner then better to say goodbye than to stick around and make them feel inadequate and resentful, or trying to change them, which also usually makes people feel inadequate and resentful. Yes, there's a point where you just have to accept your partner's flaws without complaint, but that can't happen unless there's a fairly solid relationship and a good degree of compatibility already in place. It's the difference between trying to polish a turd, and trying to polish a rough piece of jade.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I had a friend tell me that every relationship should be a learning experience. Maybe it’ll help you realize what you don’t want in a partner. It might help you reflect on your own faults so you can be a better companion in the next relationship. If you feel like you need to fix the person you’re with, she’s probably not the right gal for you.
Humans are made to overcome things and work on themselves. Maybe that’s what you need to do now. Focus on yourself, find your inner peace, and enjoy life. The right girl will come around when you’re ready. Trying to force a relationship to work because it’s easier than finding a new one is never a good reason to stay with someone.

[–] BooBooCat (652) 5 years ago

Hmmmm... I'm not single, I have a girlfriend... don't know why you made this assumption.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Lol sorry didn’t mean to make assumptions, just trying to give helpful advice. Probably because the title of your thread was WHY DO PEOPLE BREAK UP? My bad. Good luck with your lucky lady.😀