It never ceases to amaze me how much people are so ignorant in this life. I was an abused child and all it did was screw me up for many years. It took years of counseling and self-medication to stop from trying to commit suicide. It then took even more years after that to re-learn how to live in society and unlearn everything I was taught when I was younger. My grandfather abused my father, my father abused me. But you know what? Me and my brother are the ones who are breaking the chain. The cycle of abuse stops here!
This whole threads disgusts me and makes me sick.
When a child does something bad, abuse is not the answer. I knew someone recently that hits there child and it doesn't stop the kid from doing anything. It teaches him violence. Now when other kids come over his house he hits them, he does some shocking things to girls that were his age and the parents laugh it off. He was only 8 years old.
A real man sits down with his kids and family and tells him why what he did was wrong. He explains it out. Their are other ways to punish a child. It's a coward that just abuses and walks away from the problem thereby not actually solving the problem. Communication is the key to every relationship. A real family man knows how to give compassion and understanding. A real man knows redemption.
I got a 4 year old niece. Never abused. When she does something wrong we talk it out and explain why it is wrong. Something my father never did with me and my friend never does with his kids. He hits them and then they do it again, he hits them and then they laugh in his face and do it again. She might lose TV privileges or toys but she is NEVER abused. She is a well behaved happy girl with lots of love. It makes me hurt inside to think that brats like my old friend's kid will grow up preying on my niece and possibly try to harm her someday. It breaks my heart.
It's ironic how my friend's 4 year old girl and 8 year old boy are completely crazy off the wall. They swear at me, they hit me. Keep in mind they like me a lot because I am great with kids and like gaming like they do. So they do it jokingly always laughing. He hits his kids, we don't. His kids are off the wall, our 4 year old is well behaved. One day they were having a family party and the kid was pushing himself on top of a girl in front of other kids. The mother came over and kids were laughing and she just told him to get off her and walked away. She didn't pull him into the other room and talk to him and explain how it is wrong. She acted like it was no big deal. He tries to punch people in the groin all the time and grab their buts. He's an 8 year old hornball.
The worst part about it is that nothing can be done because it's not against the law to spank your kid. It's not against the law to be verbally abusive. And people go all nuts if you sound like your trying to tell him how to raise their kids. Believe me I've had arguements with him on how hitting his kids only teaches violence. But he's too ignorant to understand and too stupid to see his kids just get worse and keep doing it. It makes them angry.
It sickens me that we have people who are jerks just having kids who will be jerks as well who will be filling our jail cells. Jails are in the US are 2-4 times overflowing.
Dwight had a chance to be a great father to that kid. To be a best friend and stepfather to him. To be an understanding loving person who works on projects with him or takes him to baseball games. But inside he choose to dump his anger any chance he could because he was obviously an angry man. He was the real wimp because he couldn't manage his own anger and just liked whine and complain like a child.
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