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Lets be friends!


I've noticed this often with women notably over 40, on dating sites. But I'm sure younger women have said it too. I wonder if any men ever try using this line. They proposition it on whomever they may be conversing with, or they may even include it in their profiles. The line I'm talking about is "want to start as friends", or straight up state "starting as friends". When I read that, it's an instant turn off. Because since when should a healthy friendship start by one person dictating the course they feel it should or needs to take? Like seriously ladies, do you have a tumor or something? It seems the over 40 women where I live are all ridiculously out of touch with reality. And they wonder why they're lives seem to be in a perpetual state of being chronically single. Does anyone else here feel this way? What's your take on this ideology?

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It's a polite way of telling you they aren't interested in one night stands. They want an actual relationship, not just a fling.

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^^ this

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So what, you think that men are like dogs. Meaning that if you hold a treat in front of us and tell us you what you want will do whatever for the treat. And that treat being you....lol. You make it sound like relationships are some kind of business agreement, or transaction. If we meet you and bang you the same night, that's a relationship. Depending on how good you are for instance if you give us head without us damn near begging for it and have sex in different positions. Yeah, us guy's hate when a woman just wants to lay there like a dead fish or be a bent over statue and is an oral wimp on top of that. We want a woman that's fun to fuck! If you can blow our minds that way, men would want you as a full time gf.

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Men are like dogs. We all know this.

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Urgh, I’m disappointed… I thought I was about to make a new friend. 😞

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I agree. I thought someone was going to call for more friendliness on Moviechat!

Instead, it's just some jerk complaining about women who don't want to.put out immediately.

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Screw that! I'm not a jerk you are,

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I'm not a jerk, I'm a bitch! There's a distinct difference.

You, on the other hand, are definitely being a jerk.

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"I'm not a jerk, I'm a bitch!"

At the risk of causing offence to you *and* the OP, I think you're likely right on *both* counts.

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Good idea Otter. Want to be friends? 🙂

And, once again, I'm in agreement with you. I'm mystified by the OP's 'grievance' here.

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I'll be your friend

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Nice!

Are tou sure though? I am kind of high maintenance…

You’ll have to partake in my weekly « What did you watch » thread AND test your Witt’s at my guessing game.

R U still down?

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Can I just be a casual associate in that case

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Casual associate it is then.

But what, don’t you watch movies? Don’t you want to share your thoughts on movies you saw in a « MovieChat » site?

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Your game is TOO HARD.

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It might not be easy but if you make good use of the IMDb search tools at your disposition, it’s not TOO hard.

If you care to give it a try don’t hesitate to ask for help/tips. Either I or someone else will make a pleasure of coaching you.

Plus, the harder the game, the better the win! :)

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LOL! Same here.

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The other extreme is "I want marriage" that always strikes me as odd because sure that might be what they are aiming for but they seem to place getting married above actually getting to know the person first and seeing if marriage is even viable.

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DUDE...WE GET IT...YOU ARE A FRUSTRATED WEIRDO...STOP TYPING UP THREADS THAT RIDICULE WOMEN IN THE NAME OF YOUR PATHETIC LIBIDO.😘

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I THINK YOUR JUST A QUEER...LOL.

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Great comeback!


Psych!

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MAYBE I AM...WHAT OF IT?🤔

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We have our differences, but on this occasion, well played! 👏🏼

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So you want women to jump on a train to Poundtown the minute they meet you?

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No, not exactly. That's jumping too an extreme conclusion. But seriously, with the way so many women are now in the west the way they are, any man wanting to be in a relationship would have to be on drugs. Especially with older one's, particularly north of 40. They seem the most entitled by far. I mean, it's been proven now throughout our human evolution that men prefer young women, like in their 20's or 30's. Women in their 40's just can't compete. Even a chunky one in her 20's would likely be more sought after than one in her 40's who's still kind of hot. Because women over 40 are going by what I've heard are too old to start a family with. women over 40 almost always don't have nice bodies anything like women in their 20's and 30's. One of the most challenging things I find with older woman, is they're sickly. It seems there's always something gone seriously wrong with them health wise, from heart transplants, brain surgeries, organ failures and near death experiences etc. Yet, they still seem to think they're worthy of being placed on a pedestal as if they still have as much to offer as the younger women I've mentioned. Give me a break!

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Because you should be the only one in a relationship who has opinions or makes demands.

Uh-huh.

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Damn. This is rough.

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😄women over 40 just have enough life experience to stay away from the likes of you!

You clearly want a sexy little piece that you can jump on whenever you like. I'm so intrigued to know what you look like after writing all that. Like a Greek adonis I presume? 🤔

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Uhm, my gf is just over 40. It's seems the women in my area 40 and on are especially bad for having this attitude of entitlement. I do have respect for some more matured women I've come to know well. It's probably more so this way with the one's on dating app's lol. Of course the majority of them would be useless women who don't know how to make a relationship work. Which is why they're online. Do I think they should have self esteem? Of course I do! But the one's I'm talking about are spoiled brat's who've been pampered too much in life, so much so they think the world should revolve around them. I know both sex's can be arrogant and entitled, but women seem worse for it than men. Which is what's fueling the MGTOW movement. Does this help Columbo? Men now are criticized by the likes of your kind just for wanting what were suppose to want. Just for wanting to enjoy life. But were constantly villainized by your pathetic kind.

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Why are you on dating apps if you a girlfriend?

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I think the dude is having a hard time talking to women and is spending too much time online. 😀

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Seriously now, everyone who's dating over forty is going to have a bit of an "attitude", be what you refer to as "entitled", and pay attention to red flags - if they have ANY capacity to learn from experience. By that age, you had better have a clue what you really want, what you're willing to put up with, and what you won't even let near you - and you've also realized that if there's a basic incompatibility there's no point in wasting your own time or theirs. By forty, you needs to be past thinking "Will he or she like me?", and spend your dating time asking yourself "Do I like him or her?"!

So, I guess that means you're the one who's over forty, dating, but who doesn't have that capacity to learn from experience...




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By forty, you needs to be past thinking "Will he or she like me?", and spend your dating time asking yourself "Do I like him or her?"!


100% correct. Wise advice.

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Perfect 👏

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🤣THIS THREAD TURNED ON YOU,WEIRDO.

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So, they're entitled because they want a relationship and not just a shag with a random bloke from a dating site? I feel bad for your girlfriend.

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Dafuq?

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how old are you?

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At this point, it really would be a good thing to know.

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"Lets be friends." That's what I usually tell women.

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