Do you get along with older people?
By older, I mean 60 years of age or more.
I do for the most part (unless I provoke them intentionally.)
Yep. Mom is 77 and we get along great. Age isn't an issue.
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Yes, I do.
shareMY WIFE JUST TURNED 55..ASK ME IN 5 YEARS...IM GUESSING THE ANSWER IS NO,THOUGH.
shareshe's much older than you.
share17 YEARS.
shareI could not imagine.
shareSHE WAS 39 WHEN WE MET,I WAS 22...16 YEARS LATER...HERE WE ARE,A 12 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PEOPLE THAN WHEN WE STARTED.
sharewhat did your parents think??
shareMY PARENTS ARE BOTH HIPPIES...THEY BALKED A BIT AT THE BEGINNING,BUT NOTHING TOO OVER THE TOP...IT WAS MY 80 YEAR OLD SEMI RACIST,BITTER MEAN GRANDMOTHER WHO WAS THE PROBLEM..I WAS HER CAREGIVER FOR THE LAST 20 YEARS OF HER LIFE AND HER JEALOUSY AND SEMI INTOLERANCE OF ME BRINGING A MUCH OLDER THEN MYSELF,FULL BLOODED GREEK WOMEN INTO THE HOUSE WAS THE STUFF OF LEGEND.
shareMy parents would have freaked but this age gap thing wasn't done back in the 80s.
shareMY 80 YEAR OLD SEMI RACIST,BITTER MEAN GRANDMOTHER [...] I WAS HER CAREGIVER FOR THE LAST 20 YEARS OF HER LIFE AND HER JEALOUSY AND SEMI INTOLERANCE OF ME BRINGING A MUCH OLDER THEN MYSELF
However, it seems that you're not really willing to take care of a 60s years old lady during your 40s. And that was predictable from day zero. She probably had lived long enough to know about life, and to know that this was going to happen.
It seems she was right.
And you still keep name-calling her.
I find fascinating how often people use insults and labels to shield themselves from thinking. It's not only in politics. It can be about family, or about personal relationships. This case, you keep labeling her so you don't need to think about the uncomfortable fact that, after all, she was the right one. share
YOU DIDNT KNOW MY GRANDMOTHER...THATS FOR SURE..YOU DONT KNOW MY WIFE OR I EITHER...SHE IS AN EVIL BITCH,BUT SHE IS MY EVIL BITCH..I HAVE TREATED HER LIKE A QUEEN FOR 16 YEARS,MY LOVE AND HONESTY ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE...
BTW...EVER BEEN TO A GROCERY STORE WITH AN ELDERLY WOMAN,AND BE ESCORTED OUT AND BANNED BECAUSE SHE CALLED CERTAIN NUTS "N****R TOES AND THROWS A FIT WHEN PEOPLE DONT CARE FOR IT.
OR HOW ABOUT,WHEN YOU WERE `6 DID YOU GRANDMOTHER BEAT YOU WITH A LAWN FLAMINGO BEACUSE YOU WERE LATE COMING HOME FOR WORK?
EVER HAVEYOUR GRANDMOTHER ASK A WAITRESS..."ARE YOU MILATO,CAUSE YOU DONT LOOK FULL DARKIE?"
AND I SPENT 20 YEARS WATCHING MOVIES,EATING DINNER AND BEING A GOOD GRANDSON TO HER DESPITE HER WHACKED BRAIN.
ASSUMPTION MAKES YOU LOOK SILLY.
SHE CALLED CERTAIN NUTS "N****R TOES [...] HAVEYOUR GRANDMOTHER ASK A WAITRESS..."ARE YOU MILATO,CAUSE YOU DONT LOOK FULL DARKIE?" [...] YOU LOOK SILLY
That was just name-calling, and probably there was some conflict there you're not telling.
People consider nowadays personal attacks and name-calling related to race as something ominous and terrible... but that's just a trend. There's nothing inherently worse in the word 'nigger' than in the word 'silly' or 'bigot', or 'faggot', or 'dwarf', or 'asshole'. They're just fucking name-calling.
Some insults are considered nowadays extremely taboo, but that's just a sign of the highly religiosity of our time, where Wokeness has replaced Christianism as the main source of taboos. Blasphemies, which are particular offenses that are considered extremely taboo, they're just a symptom of religiosity.
Of course, you consider saying 'nigger' as a blasphemy. She probably considered that pissing on Jesus was a blasphemy. You just happen to belong to a different religion... but you behave quite the same (each one in its religion). At the end of the day, character runs in the family and you probably took after her. You're prone to being offended while you're name-calling. And in your case there's no need to go back in time once in time. You just name-called me in your comment. share
NO.I TOLD YOU THE STARK TRUTH.YOU DONT KNOW MYSELF,MY WIFE OR MY NOW DECEASED GRANDMOTHER.SO EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS ASSUMPTION...AND YES,IT MAKES YOU LOOK SILLY.
shareThat's true, I didn't know them. But the worst you've said is basically that they name-called... which is the same you do (repeatedly).
And by the way, you call your wife a bitch, which maybe it's true or maybe it's not. You use to insult everybody around, so you calling her a bitch is not really saying a lot about her. Anyway, this case I think you're probably right and she may (may) be a bitch. Not because you call her a bitch, but because she married you, and you know the proverb, birds of a feather flock together. 😉
YOU SEEM LIKE YOU NEED A FRIEND.
shareYOU SEEM LIKE YOU NEED A FRIEND
I seem like I hit the nail 😄 share
LMAO...I MEANT,YOU TALK TO YOURSELF A LOT...LONG PARAGRAPHS EXPLAINING YOUR THOUGHTS TO YOURSELF...JUST SEEMED LIKE YOU COULD USE AN ACTUAL HUMAN TO TALK TO...OH WELL.
share“...she may (may) be a bitch. Not because you call her a bitch, but because she married you, and you know the proverb, birds of a feather flock together.”
WOW! S/he has taken it upon her/his self to know exactly what your life is about. Apparently this kuku hasn’t had the occasion to walk in someone else’s shoes! After reading your replies in this thread, I understand you a bit more. You do lash out, but that could be due to your home life. We all tend to bring some of our real selves to this table known as MovieChat. This kuku attacked you for bearing your soul, so take my advice and don’t engage. 🙅🏼♀️
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Why would you marry a woman 17 years older than you. And why would she marry someone 17 years younger, young enough to be her son! Apparently she wanted a young stud...but you I don’t get. When she starts drawing Social Security you’ll be 48. Your sex drive will still be strong hers will have waned. What possessed you to do it? 🤷🏼♀️ Believe me someone aged 65 normally looks a lot older than someone who is 48! Egads! I just realized you’re only 38! OMGosh! Exactly twice my age. 😱😥😭
23 AND 39 WHEN WE MET....THE DIFFERENCE NEVER BOTHERED ME...AFTER OUR DAUGHTER WAS BORN SHE TURNED INTO A DIFFERENT PERSON THOUGH,LIKE TOTALLY DIFFERENT...SO IM RIDING OUT MY SENTENCE RIGHT NOW...MY DAUGHTER IS 12 NOW...6 MORE YEARS TO FREEDOM!
shareShe must have held her age well at 39. Well, doing the math she was 43 when your daughter was born. That was a risk for her and definitely for the baby. Women start going through menopause in their 40’s. Giving birth at that age could have thrown her into early menopause. Age 43 is sort of old to give birth. Babies born at that age have always been referred to as “change of life” babies. My husband and his brother were born to a woman when she was 42 & 45. My husband’s parents were always old to him. His brothers and sisters were like his parents. Does your wife know about your plans & how will it affect your daughter?
shareHIGH RISK PREGNANCY...WE WERE AT THE DOCTOR TWICE A WEEK UNTIL BIRTH...AS FAR AS MY PLANS...THE WIFE TURNED LONE WOLF AFTER MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN...ALL THE THINGS WE SHARED WENT AWAY ...SHE WORKS AND WATCHES BRAVO TV AND SLEEPS...SHE ISNT INTERESTED IN HANGING OUT,WATCHING MOVIES GOING OUT TO EAT,CONCERTS,FAMILY TIME,MOTHERING....THAT WAS A SURPRISE.I WANTED MY DAUGHTER AND WAS WILLING TO DO THE WORK,BUT THE WIFE WENT AWOL...WHEN I SAY I RAISED MY DAUGHTER,ITS HE TRUTH,EVERY BATH,DIAPER,BOTTLE,HAIRCUT,PLAYTIME...EVERYTHING....MY DAUGHTER AND WIFE BARELY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP AND THEY LIVE ONE ROOM APART...JUST HORRIBLE,SAD,ODD CIRCUMSTANCES.
shareDamn, bro, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm assuming you guys don't fight badly, and are just living totally separate lives apart from living together. It is what it is. Hang in there.
shareONCE A WEEK WE WATCH A MOVIE AND I GET LAID...SO ITS NOT TOTALLY DEADZONE,BUT PRETTY CLOSE.SHE IS 100% GREEK FROM NY...THE FIGHTING IS EPIC AND ENDLESS.
shareUgh. Fights make for good sex sometimes. There is that. If you don't mind me asking, where is your daughter in all of this?
shareSHES MY BFF AND VERY UNCOMFORTABLE AND A LITTLE SCARED OF HER MOM...THEY HAVE MOMENTS BUT ITS VERY STRAINED AND WEIRDAND ALWAYS HAS BEEN...IF WE SPLIT UP MY DAUGHTER WOULD BE WITH ME AND THE WIFE WOULD GO WITH IT...SHE HAS 2 KIDS FROM BEFORE ME SHE VANISHED ON WHENSHE MET ME...I DO WHAT I DO BECAUSE I THINK ITS BEST FOR MY DAUGHTER TO HAVE US BOTH,AS NON STANDARD AS WE ARE.
shareYou're playing the hand that was dealt. It is what it is.
shareVery sad situation. You come to the point where you just exist. Thank the good Lord your daughter has you. How did you feel knowing she abandoned two children prior? Were you aware she did so before you married her? Something about her spurred you on to marry her. It appears she’s domineering and...sorry to be crude...was maybe a good lay and apparently attractive at age 39. She wanted the young stud on her arm. I held my age well at 40. I had older teenage boys putting the hit on me. My mom did also. In fact someone thought my dad was her dad. He almost slugged the guy! There was only 6 years his senior to her!
Back to your situation. Not a good thing for your daughter to live in a household where “THE FIGHTING IS EPIC AND ENDLESS.” Your daughter should not be “A LITTLE SCARED OF HER MOM.” What is occurring in your home will have a lifetime impact on her. She’s old enough to discuss how she would feel if you and her escaped the toxic situation in which you both are living. If you can afford to separate, not divorce at this juncture, but live apart from your “Greek” woman, I would do so.
“THE WIFE WENT AWOL...WHEN I SAY I RAISED MY DAUGHTER,ITS HE TRUTH,EVERYBATH,DIAPER,BOTTLE,HAIRCUT,PLAYTIME...EVERYTHING....MY DAUGHTER AND WIFE BARELY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP...” Your wife never bonded with your lovely daughter so staying together in all reality may not be the best for her. She’s going to be a “young lady” (maybe already) if you know what I mean. Her teenage years are trying enough without having to live in such discord. I wish my parents had divorced. My poor sweet mom did not deserve the verbal bully she married. Both my brother and I feared him, but I had just enough of him in me to somewhat survive. My brother was made warped from day one...he’s seven years younger. I’ve seen him once in over 30 years. He couldn’t do anything right (as per Dad) so he moved across the country and changed his name. It’s sad to say, but he’s someone I used to know.😔
Not for me. When my husband and I had those “War of the Worlds” moments...the last thing I wanted to have was sex! Some women can push the fights to the side and hop in the sack, but not me! I couldn’t be called every name in the book...then expect to give out! I would have felt I was nothing but a paid whore!
shareIt's not sustainable in relationships, but there is such a thing.
How are you, btw? Having a good Sunday?
“Having a good Sunday?” You’re going to regret asking the question, but HELL NO! Early this morning the hospital phoned to inform me my daughter is being discharged. I told the nurse it would be awhile as I was ill all night. “No rush” she replied. During the night I had a severe vertigo spell and fell into the door! She called at 9 and it is now 12:30! I had laundered all of my daughter’s sleepwear and bedding, so I have to go upstairs to make her bed.
In the meantime this Yorkie of mine has started pissing & crapping on the floor again which I stepped into! Grrr! Since yesterday I’m using the mop every time I turn around!
Now for the final straw...stupid is as stupid does! I was in a hurry to shower & dress. While applying my make-up, I slipped and rammed my pinkie finger up my nostril and cut a vein! Blood started spurting every where! Thank goodness I still have one of those chalky sticks. I kept wetting and ramming it into my nose until the bleeding stopped.
Now don’t you regret asking how my Sunday was going? 🤦🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️
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You have no idea how I would love to disappear! Into the bushes, into a crack in the floor, under a mattress...but I’m not finished yet! We have a major leak under the powder room toilet.
I approached the builder who is building several homes around me. He was kind enough to come over with two of his crew. They removed a large piece of the metal underbelly. OMGosh! The OSB is rotted behind the Hardie board, so some of the OSB will have to be cut away. BTW, we paid that damn crook of a builder we had for 3/4 in plywood walls...not OSB! A horizontal support beam is rotted. The sub-floor is wet with black mold. They’re going to have to pull the toilet and cut away some of the hardwood flooring where the toilet is to repair everything. The flooring is no longer available.
As you wrote...”It is what it is.”
Water leaks and rot are the worst. I hope your financial situation is such that you can have it fixed right. You are having a run of bad luck. Fingers crossed it gets better soon.
share🤞🏻🖖🏻 Where is Spock when I need him? He would say all of this is not logical! The financial situation is sorely wanting!
shareI'm sure he has his reasons.
shareI can "get along" with anyone for what it has been worth which is not much.
yes
shareAlmost always
I show them reasonable respect according to their character
In 20 years I hope the young Turks are so kind to me...we shall see
Sure.
Actually I've always preferred the company of people older than myself. Especially in my teens and early 20s, I often found it harder to relate to my peers than people who were a bit more mature and stable. I've often been told I'm an 'old soul' anyway.