Hetero male cr@p


I saw this film and realized how much it caters to heterosexual male fantasies of women.

I saw it with four lesbians, none of whom found the sex scenes at all something that they could connect with.

That final act of Adele grabbing Emma's hand and putting it on her vagina was purely a "guy" thing, not a "girl" thing. One woman commented on how it made Adele seem very desperate since it reduced the relationship between the two girls to the physical - something that never happens with women (although it happens all the time with men, even gay men, ESPECIALLY gay men).

These scenes pretty much boiled down to lesbian porn for str8 men.

Furthermore, Adele was something of an unlikable character. Emma tried to raise Adele's self-confidence, but Adele did not seem to appreciate that.

Finally, what was with the movie consisting pretty much of close-ups of the actresses? Good think I had to read subtitles, otherwise, I would have really been bored by the cinematography.

This film got overlooked by the Academy for an Oscar - and it's no wonder why. Even one of the lesbians I was with admitted that, after finally seeing "Blue," she was less disappointed it didn't get a nomination.

I finally concluded that this film, despite so many shortcomings, won the Palme d'Or at Cannes because most of the jury is made of str8 men (like Steven Spielberg), who, no doubt, found delight in the lesbian sex scenes. Such a jury subsequently allowed their lust to overwhelm their collective artistic eye and pronounce this travesty of a same-sex relationship film as "ground-breaking" when nothing could be further from the truth.


"Don't call me 'honey', mac."
"Don't call me 'mac'... HONEY!"

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As a lesbian, I agree 100%
The sex scenes were inaccurate and not true to authentic lesbian sex... definitely male designed... read my review.

I was looking forward to this movie but I was quite disappointed. I have been a lesbian my whole life (I am 47 now) and have had my share of sex... never once have I been in the positions they show in this movie. Women do not generally have sex with other women from behind especially in their first sexual encounter! It seems to me that SEX was the star and point of this movie.. maybe from a mans perspective? Women do not go at it like these two in the fragile beginnings of a relationship if ever. Why would a woman have oral sex from behind another woman when it is physically awkward as well as much more difficult? Women lie beside one another, on top of each other, caress, hug, touch, etc... women are usually on their back (the one receiving). Only a man would put a woman's face up in another woman's ass to perform oral sex. The whole practice of using fingers was also lost on this. Scissoring is also uncommon and most lesbians only engage in this (if ever) just for the sake of trying it after being in a long term relationship. The time line of this movie was horrible to follow! We see in the beginning that Emma was already in a relationship with another woman when she first meets Adele but we never know what happens with that. Also the last relationship with the pregnant woman is confusing. At the art exhibit we see that Emma has paintings of the pregnant women while she was still pregnant which hints that she was intimate with her while she was with Adele. So, twice it appears as though Emma has cheated yet, she ends the relationship with Adele for cheating, calling her a slut, etc? Also, I didn't understand why there weren't any issues with regard to Adele's friend 'Valentin' who brought her to the gay bar and was also gay (or bi) himself. All the classmates harassed Adele but not him? Hard to believe and makes no sense... too many inconsistencies. This movie was way too long and missed the mark for me.. unless your looking for a mans (fantasy?) perspective on lesbian relationships this movie is nothing but a waste of time... 3 hrs I'll never get back

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Cant believe people are analysing the sex scenes for their realism. Feature film sex is always idealistic. This response is cretinous.

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Not only that but it's like they think there's some official rule book to sex. Movies are not a guide to it sure, but still is there really one way to have it?

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wow I never received the textbook for proper lesbian sex, I'll make sure to be on my back all the time now.

For the time line, I am confused on what is difficult to follow?

Emma was with someone else then she meets Adele and start a relationship with her. I don't know what to you think happens? She dumps the other!

Emma paints Lise pregnant because she represents "the family" for her. She does tell Adele in the cafe when they meet that she loves the little child more than her new partner. That more than sex and passion, she loves and wants a family now. So painting her new partner pregnant is symbolic. It doesn't mean she was cheating on Adele with her.

For Valentin, he is gay and he is out. He seems to be pretty well accepted because he is honest about it. For Adele, her friends (especially one actually) freak out when they first suspect it. Because they had sleepovers together so they imagine that she checked them out, because she lies so they are scared she is into them etc. Yeah there is underlying homophobia but more than that, they just freak out because it is new and unexpected and feels a bit like a betrayal. Think about when you came out, some of your friends had weird reactions didn't they?

I gave it 10/10 and it didn't feel AT ALL like a waste of my time :)

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I don't know about "Hetero male cr@p", but I do know about your own cr@p.

Emma didn't try to raise Adele's self-confidence, actually Adelle was very self-confident and down to earth woman. She knew what she wanted, she knew she wanted to work with kids and she did it. She knew she wanted somebody to love her for who she is without trying to change her, but for Emma that wasn't enough. I'll go as far as saying that Emma didn't really love Adele, and she is the one that started to cheat, if not in fact at least in mind. That's the reason for which Adele felt alone because she started to feel that Emma is not there for her anymore but probably thinking to her new target, the one that she flirted with at the party. All the rest was just a very convenient pretext for Emma to dump Adele. Emma was the bitch and the unlikeable, not Adele.

So, what is that, just a juvenile cr@p or what?

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You actually in your post perpetuate common damaging myths about lesbians - that for us it's all about love, being touchy-feely to each other, cuddling and holding hands, never about raw, lustful sex - it's reserved for men.

Regardless of reality of sex scenes (though I have to make a note here to people who compare it to lesbian porn - I doubt you've seen much lesbian porn in your life, because it looks nothing like it, most lesbian porn is focused on poor oral sex shots and incredibly fake moans), I like that this time it was lesbian sex that was supposed to be the lustful one, and straight sex, boring and uncomfortable. Complete opposite of homophobic "The Kids Are All Right".

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it reduced the relationship between the two girls to the physical - something that never happens with women


Lol give me a fückin' break.

I don't like the way blood money spends.

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I think you are a bit harsh with the film. Maybe because the sex scenes were graphic and probably unrealistic. But I think the director didn't try to show us that he is an expert on lesbian sex. I'm not even sure that in our days, with tones of free porn around us, graphic sex scenes would bring any additional viewers to this kind of films.

My opinion is that he made a movie to make us, through Adele, to live again the emotions experiencing a teenager who is coming-of-age and is in love. The film was sweet but raw. Its cinematography was poetic at times and I loved the leading performances.

As for the sex scenes I would like them shorter and not that graphic but I can't say it was a crappy movie because these scenes weren't the point of the film.

Anyways, I respect everyone's opinion, I just adding mine! :)

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God forbid someone other than you and your four lesbian friends has any understanding of female and lesbian relationships, desires and behaviour.

God f-ing forbid.

- We could be men with ven!

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OP sounds like an angry dyke.

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