some points........


Why did he marry his ex GF mother?

I heard the main character is the man who actually went thru this experience.. Is that true?

He went back to his abuser....and did not press charges.

He was entangled with her because she filled a need. As horrible as she was.

I welcome any feedback on the points above.

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He didn’t marry his ex GF mom. The guy has a dry British sense of humor and was just commenting on moving back in her house as a lodger.

Yes, the story is autobiographical with some changes made to conceal identities.

I am not sure what to make of his decision to go back to his abuser, but he self-admitted that he makes bad choices. Maybe he thought that with his stronger mental state, he could finally get the career boost he wanted from that guy without falling victim to his drug/grooming scheme.

The whole psychological interplay of the two characters is that they both had vulnerabilities and weaknesses that played into their weird attachment to each other. She was a mentally ill woman who stalked for attention and control. He was a struggling comic who craved attention, and also a closeted bisexual who could not deal with problems that would “out” him in any way.

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Thanks for the feedback.
I would have liked him pressing charges on the guy instead.
I did some research on the story after watching and understand the background now.

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Maybe he thought that with his stronger mental state, he could finally get the career boost he wanted from that guy without falling victim to his drug/grooming scheme.

That was my take.

It's not transparent but I think he goes back essentially to blackmail the abuser into giving him his "paid" career break. I think it's supposed to be showing him as being empowered - he goes there, it's acknowledged between them that the abuse he suffered is out there in the public domain, and he walks out having confronted his demon head on and financially / career wise enriched. He's taken the power.

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He needs approval so very, very badly that he'll take it from any source, unlikely as they might be.

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Seems very unlikely, to the point where he seems to be full of shit!

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Well, if you've lived a little, gotten around, maybe been to Hollywood a bit, you do sometimes see people like that...

... not that the whole story of the show is necessarily true. Making it up and trying to pass it off as true can be another form of desperately needing approval.

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It's victim porn, hopefully not a new genre we're all going to have to suffer with for the next 5 years.
My "living a little" has taught me that you can't believe everything you're told, it's important to read between the lines and to go with your instinct.

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Victim porn has been going on for ages. You've only just now noticed?

The guy should have started off his show explaining that he's gay. Of course honesty was not his objective from the start. Telling an entertaining story was. So the audience is presented with successive shocks as those types of things come up. It also seems less likely that he was "gay raped" and more likely that he went into it knowing what was on the menu: drugs and gay sex. But telling it this way is more shocking and thus more exciting for viewers.

I have a feeling that Andy Warhol's maxim will apply to him here, also to his stalker.

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Give me an example of film/show that could be classified as "victim porn".

Thanks for stating the obvious, we have similar opinions about the show. Makes me wonder why you immediately went all pissy.

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You're probably assuming a tone that's not there.

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