People tell me that I seem so unapproachable because if I’m not smiling I look so mad or mean. Most of the time I’m concentrating or in deep thought or something, not angry. I would feel like an idiot having a smile stuck to my face all the time. How can I get over this? Does anyone else have this issue?
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It could be all in the eyebrows. For the record, I'm a male. A neighbor who was a hairstylist used to cut my hair. She knew me well enough to make personal suggestions that she would never make to her regular clients. She said I needed to brush my eyebrows upward to give them less of a "frowning" appearance. It's possible that your eyebrows, like mine, are arched downward and are giving you a scowling look.
I know there are a lot of eyebrow-shaping products for women out there because I've seen the ads. (They need to make these for men, too.)
Another thing to consider is squinting, which can make your eyes look angry. I am near-sighted so I think I may squint sometimes, even with corrective lenses. This, combined with my eyebrows, could give me an angry-looking visage. I've had people ask if something was bothering me when in reality I was in a neutral mood.
Just a couple of things to consider. I hope this helps.
Thank you for offering this perspective. It does really help. It never crossed my mind that the eyebrows or squinting could make a difference. I probably do need to wear glasses, although my vision is quite good...and I do find that my face is never really “relaxed” but usually quite tense when concentrating or focused. I will try your suggestions. Thank you SaveTheSeason 😊
shareGlad to help. I was never aware of it myself until the hairstylist neighbor pointed it out. It was something that had never crossed my mind, either. A lot of people do tend to frown when concentrating on something. I probably do it, too, without being aware of it.
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