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Being polite is being fake

posted 5 years ago by [deleted]
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I hate it. Society wants me to be polite otherwise I'll come across as a sociopath.

So I laugh at jokes that aren't funny. I smile when people greet me or say goodbye.

I'll apologize to smooth things over when I may not be remorseful, all for politeness.

It sucks. I hate being fake.

[–] zack14 (335) 5 years ago

its basic behaviour

[–] Kowalski (76828) 5 years ago

OCD/ASPERGERS/HIGH IQ...IVE BEEN FAKING BEING A PERSON MY WHOLE LIFE...IF I ACTED AS MY NATURE DICTATES...I WOULD BE CONSIDERED A SOCIO/PSYCHOPATH...THE SHOW DEXTER IS A NICE ANALOGY...I THINK OFJAMES REMAR TRAINING HIS SON TO ACT LIKE A HUMAN SO HE CAN HAVE A LIFE OFTEN AS IM GOING THROUGH MY OWN LIFE.🙂

[–] actionkamen (23176) 5 years ago

Yeah, I also don't like those pornstars with polite tits.

[–] L1 (1316) 5 years ago

They do what they can to relate to teh outraged mobs.

[–] aliensalmon (5706) 5 years ago

I'm sorry....

[–] Popcorngal (4875) 5 years ago

I see your point about phoniness. But considering how rude and disrespectful people are today.It would be nice if respect for your elders, or people in general, plus courtesy made a comeback. I am so sick of all this "shaming" and "being authentic" crap. If you want to be treated like a gentleman or lady, act like one! Really people!?

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

" I am so sick of all this "shaming" and "being authentic" crap. If you want to be treated like a gentleman or lady, act like one!"

Exactly!

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78004) 5 years ago

Wow, truth BOMB!
Well stated👍

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I don’t put respect in the same category as politeness. I think respect is a must. Politeness and proper etiquette are not things that concern me. Being authentic just means being yourself, why is that crap?
I don’t expect to be treated like a lady, but I do expect to be treated with respect. I also don’t expect others to act a certain way just because I think it’s the right way to act.

[–] TandyMan (11190) 5 years ago

You get used to it. You don't have to live in society. Go join a biker gang and run drugs and shoot people. But there's a whole new set of rules to follow over there. There's rules to all things, no matter where you go.

[–] degree7 (821) 5 years ago

There was advice that Machiavelli had for Italian Princes during the Renaissance, and that was:

“Be as nice as one can, but never be entirely devoted to the idea of acting nicely.”