Happy thoughts or is something bugging you? Is there something you don’t understand? Something fun you have planned?
Today for me it’s condos and why anyone would want to live in one.
People value different things of course. I couldn’t stand the lack of privacy for one thing and having to live under someone else’s rules and pay to have them enforced.
Condos. I'd never live in one for the same reasons you gave. Plus the association fees or whatever they're called. Some of those fees are ridiculously high, in my opinion.
shareYes, exactly! Fees for amenities such as a pool. But you must follow the rules of the board for pool guests! No parties! No pets! No smoking anything! No floaties!
shareIt's easier than living in a house, in a way. I don't have to shovel my car out in the dead of winter, plus I don't have to worry about stalling and/or not being able to get to where I'm going, or about having to dig out my car after a huge snowfall.
shareSnow can be a lot of work. If you have a garage you have to shovel. If the car is in an underground parking structure, yes, that does sound convenient. But my first thought are the cameras and the bored employees watching you coming and going.
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shareThe laundry is bugging me today
Also, I need to vaccume and shine the floors and overall tidy up the house
As for condos, I lived in one about 14 years ago
Lovely view of the Hudson River, decent neighbors, a parking space for the car and the management got rid of the snow and garbage for me
I do see the appeal
I wish someone would invent a machine that, when you turn it on, sucks all the dust from the house. And no, a vacuum cleaner doesn't count.
shareI recall some years back seeing an interview with a woman (of course a woman) who invented the first “self cleaning” house. Yay! She made her house into a dishwasher! Works for me!👏🏻🥂🍻🥤🥤🥤🥤
I was hoping I could find the info on the web. And I did!
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4728482/Frances-Gabe-self-cleaning-house-sick-housework.html
Household chores piling up can be irksome. I clean as I go but my car needs in and out deep cleaning and I don't know where to take it.
So you are actually from Yonkers? It's lovely there. The Hudson River really is beautiful.
I really do house chores...very often in fact
A messy house really kills my mood!
i find myself very bothered and unable to relax in uncomfortable surroundings...i keep a tight ship
Just took the Ford for an oil change and wash on Thursday, love the car and love it clean!
I lease them, beat the hell out of them and get a new one every couple of years, no worries!
I AM a Yonkers boy but I have moved away...an hour away lol!
The schools were lousy for my kids and crime was getting a bit bad
Adios Yonkers, I will miss you
Floors, laundry - too much in one day! I want to hire someone but I don't want anyone coming in, lol.
Did they detail the car? Or did you self serve the wash? What do you think about those people who don't even bother to dry off their cars before they roll out?
Take care Yonkers, NY! Hope you weather the storm!
I can't sit still, I'm afraid that I may be a bit manic lol!
I'll be dusting furniture and organizing the LP records at 2 AM:)
I tipped the garage well and they did the rest;)
That Ford is looking clean and runs real smooth!
Storm?
I'm ready for whatever comes raging my way👍
Nice chat Cuthbert!
Hope to see you again soon
Thanks! I meant: Take Care actual Yonkers, lol, due to the crime and the lousy schools!
shareGotcha!
Yeah, they are screwed:/
What happened? Housing projects?
shareThe Projects were built before my time and that was just one of the disasters that hit my hometown...
What genius thought it was a great plan to pile hundreds of impoverished people 10 stories high in buildings and not offer job training and mental care outreach?
That guy should be punched!
The drug trade and too many loose pistols on the streets were no help at all!
We were getting an alarming number of shootings and stabbings every summer:/
Those were mostly in the black sections so they never did get widely reported...which is another rough thing about my lovely City of Yonkers...it's seriously racially divided
Whites and blacks can hardly be in the same area down there and lots of guys are armed and pissed off!
Also, the taxes are ridiculous and a lot of people try to rip you off (EVERY home contractor is a thief in Yonkers!)
I escaped a few years ago but Yonkers is a nice town...I'll visit but I'll never make a home there again
condos are great if you are older or have disability issues and no longer can look after a house.
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I live in an apartment complex. It's real nice, been here going on twelve years. I know most of the residents, some are as close as family to me.
However, there is a group of women hell bent on making my life miserable.
We are all around the same age. We are all single. And most importantly, we all have dogs.
They 'forbid' me from walking my dog near there units, because it makes their dogs bark.
One of these women, her dog has bitten me twice! the second time was a serious blood bite.
They talk shit about me every chance they get, and other people make sure I hear about it.
It's always the same three women. They yell at me. They hate me so much. I don't understand why at all. I'm super nice. I'm active in the community. I'm friendly, accepting, tolerant, patient and generous. I walk dogs for seniors and disabled people.
When I walk by them, they all stop talking and glare at me.
Some of the dogs I walk know these women and wag their tails and get happy, walk up to them (leashed of course), expecting a hello and a pat, but they ignore the dog if it's with me.
That's just cruel.
I've asked friends 'Why?', they say, 'Oh they just have nothing better to do.'
Five years. Five fuckin years this has been going on.
In December, I had a life changing event.
I had a heart attack.
I am no long the same person I used to be.
I am not taking shit from anyone.
I have report all three for harassment.
I've also assembled a posse of supporters, and made it known that I'm will to settle this
the old fashioned way. Fisticuffs in the quad whenever they're ready.(I've been working out like a mf'er)
Some people just seek out aggravation, and I'll never understand it.
I like to think they're jealous cause my dog is so much more awesome then theirs, or cause I'm still hot and got game.
Thoughts?
They are jealous or threatened by you or both. They know their nastiness gets under your skin and they like that because, being pathetic, they enjoy the tiniest power grabs imaginable.
If I were you I'd be ignoring these losers. Since I'm not you and you prefer to scrap it out in the town square then go for it! However, you say that you are still hot and got game and for much less than that, you will assemble a crowd of very eager male onlookers. Might want to ask yourself if you want that. If yes, then continue to go for it!
Being mean to dogs just to be catty? When you're in the square, get one in for me.
*deep breath, and exhale*
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to rant. That felt good.
I'm 80% sure I'm not going to beat anybody up in the quad.
I live on the quad, there is a gazebo in the middle, and there is an eager crowd of male onlookers there everyday. Neighbors. Friends. I know one of them wants me. And I have a secret admirer that leaves flowers and candy at my door from time to time. So I'm used to positive male attention.
But the being mean to the dogs thing, yeah, that's my biggest issue. Once upon a time our dogs were friends. Now they have created confusion and tension in the dogs.
Women of a certain age - empty-nesters, their dogs are their primary relationship,
their babies. And they entrust me with their care. I take this seriously, they will be exercised, they will have fun, there will be consistent rules and boundaries. And most important - they will be safe. These women are compromising the well-being of the dog's safety,
physically and emotionally. It must be stopped. I will put an end to it. I've just got to figure out how.
Anyway thank you for your support.
hmmmm... Is there a building manager? What about a wise elder? Someone who can act as the voice of reason.
If what you truly want is to get these crapheads off of your back for the sake of the dogs, try getting an uninvolved person who also roots for the dogs to approach one of them for a neutral, moderated meeting.
Isn’t there always one weak link in a malicious gang who really isn’t so bad but just fell in with a bad crowd?
Two days later..........I'm over it!
I think I just needed to blow off some steam, get a reality check.
Goodness, I don't even know you, and you've helped me. You all have, Shogun, Bucky, Prelude. Everyone's support and wisdom, very groovy man.
And yes, I reported those fuckers to the Manager. She said there were a couple other people that were getting 'the business' too.
I'm busy, I'm happy, I'll focus on that.
Good! You deserve peace of mind at your home. Take care of that big, dog loving heart Lady Laura!
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Why am I not surprised? People like that are unhappy and petty. Unfortunately they go about spreading their unhappiness and pettiness on others. Sorry you experienced this, LauraGrace.
But I am happy to hear *you're* happy, and that you reported them to the manager! And that you got great support here as you vented :)
I wish you health, peace, and happiness. Obviously you deserve it!
Very true Cat. The last bout of that social disease I experienced was dealt with thusly:
I was already friendly with the biggest yenta in the group. So one day when we were having a drink together, I very gently and with an innocent demeanour, complained about the uncalled for crap being slung at me from some. I asked her to please not repeat anything I’d said. LOL.
Of course she did and LSS it stopped bc she’s in a position of power there.
OMG, you're brilliant! 😀
Sorry you had to deal with this (or any) social disease too, but what a great way of dealing with it!
This annoys me no end
Ignore those jerky-women and do your thing lady
You have been nothing but a basket of sweetness since I have known you
If anyone dislikes YOU of all people, that's their problem
ikr? I'm Awesome! It annoys me no end when women don't support each other.
And the dog that Carla snubbed, is the cutest little one-eyed happy-go-lucky scrapper
you've ever seen. How bitter and ugly to you have to be inside to do that?
Thanks for your kind words and support.
You are awesome!
And Carla and her hater squad should be ignored
No fighting please! You would do way better by just acting like that bunch doesn't even exist, they sound like a bitter lot
being the one to always take the high road no longer feels natural to me.
I think I'm in the 'anger' phase of my recovery.
I want to fight.
Please just take care of your health
Maybe you can attack and beat down that whole snob mob but really, isn't it better to just walk away whistling?
I bet a good solid 'ignore' will sting those annoying women way more than a slap or punch
but, but, but, oh damn. Of course you're right. Ain't nobody got time for that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFEoMO0pc7k
Oh Lord Jesus it's a fire!!
I need a cold pop😉
lmao
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shareSnubbing a ONE EYED DOG?? Pretty bitter..
shareReally 🙄. Well, they have to live with themselves, and that's their self-inflicted punishment.
shareVery true. But those around them have to breath the air they pollute.
shareYeah, that's the bad part, that they spread it around onto others, like LauraGrace, Prelude, and Wint3rFir3 😐. It'd be much better if they had to marinate in their own misery juices all by themselves.
shareLet’s brain storm in our spare time on how to make that happen.
shareI'm in, Cuthbert! Sorry to hear you've encountered this too, BTW 😐
Your solution was amazing 😊. Maybe there's no way (that we know of) to not encounter these types of people at all, and taking what appropriate and benign actions we can, and then letting go of it, is the best we can do.
That’s hard for me. I find the need to spin things in my head and fake people out who bother me intentionally.
One of these psychic vampires had the gall to ask me how much I charge for the services I perform for clients where he works. It insulted me at first because the very ballsiness of the question made clear that he didn’t feel the need to bother showing respect for me. It also suggested that he was curious bc he makes very little. So I told him to rub it in and I gloated when I saw his reaction. He had been hassling me for months and getting in my face. Once I said hi to him like a normal person and he just stared at me. So from then on I made a show of ignoring him and he got nice. Loser. He’s gone now.
That’s hard for me. I find the need to spin things in my head and fake people out who bother me intentionally.
One of these psychic vampires had the gall to ask me how much I charge for the services I perform for clients where he worked. It insulted me at first because the very ballsiness of the question made clear that he didn’t feel the need to bother showing respect for me. It also suggested that he was curious bc he makes very little. So I told him to rub it in and I gloated when I saw his reaction. He had been hassling me for months and getting in my face. Once I said hi to him like a normal person and he just stared at me. So from then on I made a show of ignoring him and he got nice. Loser. He’s gone now.
It's hard for everyone. Maybe that's the point?
I'm sure not above having the desire to get some kind of revenge when someone's intentionally bothered or harmed me in some way. But whenever I think it over, it seems too silly to bother with and expend my energy on.
In the end, we have no control over what people say or do, only over how we respond to it. I'm getting better at adopting this attitude and I'm loving the result! Much less anger and angst in my life. Yesssss! *fist pump*
Glad that guy's gone now, so you don't have to deal with him at all. I've experienced the same thing with people I'm nice to, who respond by acting like jerks, and then when I respond by ignoring them, are nice. It's weird, and kinda hilarious 😄
And thank you!
I agree with your wise approach. 🙏💥
I'm living with a similar situation in my apartment building, although mine are not overtly mean or angry to my face -- instead my problem neighbors are passive aggressively two-faced. They will smile and say hi and chit chat if you happen to encounter them, then go and gossip about you, making up stuff or embellishing even the tiniest most innocent thing I might have said in passing. I even live THE most boring, blameless life you could imagine -- there's no material there TO gossip about. But they manage to turn even normal things into something to condemn a person for.
And even the ones who don't use information with spite, they create privacy issues regarding things like the hours someone works and when they're not at home! That's really bad to do, for security reasons. The wrong person could hear that stuff one day. They will stop me to chat, tell me they never pass along anything that's said, then proceed to tell me all about the woman next door -- I don't want to know and I close the conversation and walk away. And I know they would blab about anything I say too, so now I don't reveal anything, or even tell a lie to mislead anyone who thinks they've just gotten to learn something about my routine.
When I moved in I was warned about this gossip grapevine, and I didn't believe it because I'd never actually lived around people that petty. I was naive enough, or lucky enough, to have never personally dealt with sch a thing before.
I soon learned this place is a total pit of vipers, sure enough. And the real problem is, one of them is actually a live-in member of staff, who wields a lot of power with the managers.
I would say more, but she knows I'm into movies and to be honest, this woman is so petty and vile I wouldn't put it past her to go looking for places like this and find my post in Google or something.
This building has been the worst place to live of my life, because of the people here
This sounds awful Prelude.
As in Laura’s case, it’s essential that these meddlers don’t know this atmosphere bothers you.
This may not be your style, but you could turn the passive aggressive table around and give this news clip in hard copy https://psmag.com/.amp/social-justice/gossip-really-whisper-rumors-93025 the next time someone tries to suck you into the vortex. It’s about a gossip study that determines it’s all about fear and control. You could also add a list of activities for them to substitute for gossiping, such as volunteer work.
I think if this were done with just the right amount of seemingly sincere concern and enthusiasm, with no trace of evident sarcasm, they would be stunned and leave you alone.
OK! Scrap the gossip study idea. It’s messy and complicated.
Here’s a waaaaaay better one.
Sign up to raise money for the charity of your choice and whenever someone with something up their sleeve talks to you, ask for a donation!
Don’t answer questions, just play dumb, nod, an go: hmmmmm.🤔🤔🤔🤔
Then whip out your charity flyer!
“Oh, wow, that’s crazy.. btw I’m trying to raise $5,000 to send the local special needs blind youth group to Niagra Falls and we could REALLY use your help!”
These women needed to be reported. I'm sorry you had a heart attack - and more than that, that it took a heart attack for you to stand up to them, but well done on doing so.
I've faced something similar in the neighbourhood where I live. I used to take my dog down a certain route because it was the most scenic in the area. Whenever I would pass by this one house, the dogs that lived there would go absolutely berserk. Even if I was walking by the house alone, they went crazy. One day, the woman that lived there saw me walking my dog, approached us, took down my details from his ID tag and threatened to report me for animal cruelty, which she later did - just because I walked by her house from time to time.
In an apartment building, you can report harrassment. In a suburban neighbourhood, no one takes domestic suits issues that seriously, so there wasn't much I could do except walk elsewhere.
Yes, you probably are awesome and so is your dog, and these women are bored af. I just hope they've learned their lesson.
Don’t avoid her street. Take a video of everything, preferably w/o her knowing. If she threatens you again, be prepared to stand or sit somewhere waiting for the police. Do research on dog laws. Maybe go to the police station and ask to speak to an officer about a neighbourhood dispute and ask for advice.
What was she going to report that was cruel on your part?
My dog is no longer with us, so I'm not fussed now. But at the time, I was not really in a mental state to deal with confrontation. Also, there was no way I could've pulled a sneaky film session. But thanks for the advice.
share"One day, the woman that lived there saw me walking my dog, approached us, took down my details from his ID tag and threatened to report me for animal cruelty, which she later did - just because I walked by her house from time to time."
That's bizarre. I can see the animal control officer who took the report (if she did report it) rolling his or her eyes from here.
Officer: Yes, ma'm, I see. This neighbour actually walks her dog past your house on occasion. And, er, this is animal cruelty because?? *hangs up and throws report in trash*
👍👏🏻👏🏼👏👏🏽👏🏾👏🏿
shareThank you for acknowledging this. She didn't mention the walking past her house bit. She made up some story about my dog being starved, deprived of water, etc. They walked into the house, saw the food and water available to him immediately and actually started laughing. Then they told me what she'd said, and left.
"They walked into the house, saw the food and water available to him immediately and actually started laughing. Then they told me what she'd said, and left."
😊 👏👏👏
You don’t know much about condos then
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