The sex scenes ruined the realism of the movie.

I am with the crowd that believe that Adele was NOT a virgin. A virgin *lesbian*, yes. And I felt Adele & Lea's passion. I envy it. To be that ... free. So very well-directed that, at times, I forgot I was watching a film.

it was not ruined the movie but the Sex scenses was just "too much"

I think the sex scenes were too long. However I don't think they ruined the realism of the film. The film is about a relationship and I am not sure if you have ever been in a relationship, but usually at the beginning of one it is filled with passion, animal magnetism and sex, then later on it fizzles out and sometimes it just becomes a routine losing its excitement. The sex scenes were needed.

I have seen many TV series on Showtime, HBO, Starz, etc and they have sex scenes that are completely unnecessary, but people praise them for some reason. This film has to be one of the most realist films about relationships, there was no BS, and I like that in a film. Finally a realistic view of relationships.

Always look for the positive in every situation.

For me, the sex scenes, however suprsising in their length and intensity, fit well within the narrative, the movie felt perfectly consistent.

I don't think Adele was discovering her sexuality, but more her sexual orientation. I'm a 27 year old guy and the graphic sex scenes had more of an emotional impact, than anything else. And they did not seem exagerated, there's intensity between two people passionately in love. At least in the beginning of a relationship, before the novelty wears off.

Still, the most emotional scene for me whas the breakup.

I think the movie was trying to depict the intensity of the physical relationship of Emma and Adele through those long and slightly pornographic sex scenes. It may not have worked for everyone but I think it is very hard to convey that kind of thing through film in another way. The "usual" stare into each others eyes "love making" scene wouldn't have been enough. You have that in every single love movie.

Their passionate physical relationship is very important later on in the story.

First of all it is important in the scene that follows Adele meeting Emmas "art friends" for the first time. Where Emma shoots Adeles advances down with her period excuse. It helps to understand Adeles feeling of rejection and suspicion towards Emma and her pregnant friend. Being rejected like that, not having passionate sex is abnormal in their relationship. It's important to know that.

Later in the cafe scene where both of them acknowledge that not only their emotional but also very much their physical relationship was something special. And a passion like that really IS something special.

In my very first long relationship I had passion like that and only later realized that it is not the norm in every relationship even if you are in love with your partner. I've only had that kind of intense passion with one other woman over the years. That incredible tension in the air, when you know all it takes is a single touch for you both to explode into uncontrollable greed for each others bodies that will work itself out any which way it can.
If anyone had put a camera on some of that it wouldn't have looked anything like "love making" but most likely like violent (awkward) *beep* Although love was very much involved in both those relationships. So I could very much relate to that aspect of the story. Physical passion like that gives a relationship another dimension, something else to miss besides the emotional connection. A physical connection like that doesn't always happen.


Apart from some unusual positions I think one reason why the sex scenes came of as kind of wrong, was oddly enough, that they where not explicit enough.

They tried to go for realism being very graphic (compared to the usual sex scene) but also the camera angles and body poses where chosen in such a way that they wouldn't show of to much, so they came of as fake at times in spite of all the naked skin. A fly on the wall just watching two people enjoying themselves in that matter would have seen a very different scene.
So maybe a more abstract style would have been better but then again that wouldn't have been in sync with the rest of the movie too.

I think the scenes worked well enough to convey the message. I don't know if it's necessary to allege some perversive or marketing motives to the director of this movie. (Although that might have been a factor, who knows.)


I thought the beginning of the first sex scene worked very well, Adele more or less mimicking what Emma does and I also liked the last shot of the both of them intertwined in that symmetrical order, as far as symbolism goes that was just beautiful. It got carried away a bit in the middle part and went on for to long in my opinion, but it was nothing that ruined an otherwise excellent movie for me.

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I thought the sex scenes were pretty realistic (at least, by cinematic standards!) In some ways, porn is more realistic than softcore, because you actually get to 'see' everything that happens... The unreality of porn comes from the ludicrous situations, cheesy dialogue and unnatural bodies - none of which were present, here.

However, I do agree that the sex scenes being so numerous, explicit and lengthy provided a negligible effect on the overall thematic substance of the film... I enjoyed them aesthetically - they were arousing - but they didn't particularly advance the character development or tell me anything about the people that I couldn't also have worked out from the other non-sex scenes... They were titillating, and I have no problem with that as a principle, but it seems to be that a film of this style should be looking for the emotional truth of intercourse - aiming for something profound and deep, instead of just primal in appeal... I wouldn't take them out, and I'm glad they were in there, but I doubt that the film-makers would want to admit that they were pandering to my kind of demographic - even though that's what it seemed like... "Great sex scenes for horny straight guys!" is true, but I doubt it's the kind of quote that would sit well on the poster!

There seems to be a disconnect between what the film actually IS, and how it was engineered to get attention. I think the director knew EXACTLY what he was doing by making the sex scenes so graphic, yes. I don't have a problem with people initially watching a film 'just for the sex scenes', as long as they inadvertently uncover greater rewards, once they've been reeled in. Show up for the sex, but stay for the story! 







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Or maybe you've just had really boring sex (or none at all)? Just sayin... 😃