Shed tears at several moments, but the really soul-wrenching one was when they put that beautiful young guy into a...trash bag. Did anybody NOT cry when watching that? OMG that was sad.
At least there will be plenty implied.
Probably that part when they were talking about Albert's death and how they just put his body into a trash bag like he was trash.
The food came and so did I.
I know this is messed up but I lost it at the part in the beginning when the guy said he missed his dog and they showed a picture. And then they never followed up on the dog. I was like... okay, so... who got the dog? Someone took his dog right? I think it's because I have a very close relationship with my pets and it resonated with me, he just wanted to see his dog, as he was dying, and he couldn't even get that. And his dog will never see his dad again. I wish he could have had his dog there with him. I literally sat and fantasized about bringing his dog to him in the hospital for like... a solid minute. And great now I'm crying agin.
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Re-watched it twice now and I really gotta give it to Matt Bomer and Mark Ruffalo. The scene when Felix messes the bed, goes to the toilet, & Ned cleans him in the shower saying "I know, angel..." OMG.
I naturally compare this movie with "And the Band Played On" but where this movie covers important new ground is in showing the day to day deterioration of living with someone who had AIDs in the '80s. Ned's love and adoration for Felix as their world was crumbling makes the shower scene incredibly powerful.
At least there will be plenty implied.
^ This scene was completely heart-wrenching.
shareUgh I so totally know what you mean. That upset me too. It did seem after that Ned had a dog, I wonder if he went and got it. When my father in law was in the hospital we got to bring his dog to see him one last time. G-d how times have changed.
People on ludes should not drive!
A whole lot about patient care changed after the publication of "And the Band Played On." It was quite a damning document of hospital policy.
shareUgh I so totally know what you mean. That upset me too. It did seem after that Ned had a dog, I wonder if he went and got it. When my father in law was in the hospital we got to bring his dog to see him one last time. G-d how times have changed.
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@ntb8808 you wrote:
"I know this is messed up but I lost it at the part in the beginning when the guy said he missed his dog and they showed a picture. And then they never followed up on the dog. I was like... okay, so... who got the dog? Someone took his dog right? I think it's because I have a very close relationship with my pets and it resonated with me, he just wanted to see his dog, as he was dying, and he couldn't even get that. And his dog will never see his dad again. I wish he could have had his dog there with him. I literally sat and fantasized about bringing his dog to him in the hospital for like... a solid minute. And great now I'm crying agin."
It's not "messed up", that's EXACTLY what I was thinking. It was such a vulnerable moment, so helpless, and for us dog lovers, even more so.
And don't worry, he had friends, so one of them would take care of his pup:)
I totally lost it when Ned and Ben meet in the hospital, before Felix & Ned's wedding. Two brothers hadn't talked for so long. When you need the family most, he is there, meaning, he finally accepted you as a normal person, the same as himself.
shareI was bawling in that scene because I thought Felix had already died and Ned didn't even get to say goodbye. That's why I didn't cry during the wedding in the hospital scene because I was actually happy they got to have one last moment together and it was a happy moment.
Kudos to Alfred Molina though for giving such a great performance as Ned's conflicted brother.
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To learn how to ruin a perfectly fine, popular TV show talk to Jeremy Carver or Russel T Davis.
I started crying when Estelle came to see Tommy and told him about the friend she'd lost. I started seriously bawling when we first see Matt's emaciated Felix getting on the subway, then I was ugly crying during all of Matt's scenes. Having a familiarity with him as such a beautiful human being before this, and seeing his beauty and health so compromised, probably heighened my reaction. The scene which made my cry the most was probably the scene where Felix goes to Ned's brother's office to talk about his will (Matt's acting was AMAZING in that scene), and then when he collapses on the pavement. That was the toughest thing I've ever watched on TV/in movies.
shareThe 'trash bag' scene was the first scene I truly bawled at. Mainly because of the mother having to witness that
And the scene where Julia Robert's character lost it at the board.
Then the entire last third of the movie with Felix. I got so into it that it felt like I had really lost a personal friend.
Watched the movie twice and none of the scenes suffered on the second viewing.
Shed tears at several moments, but the really soul-wrenching one was when they put that beautiful young guy into a...trash bag. Did anybody NOT cry when watching that? OMG that was sad.
I know. That poor woman had fixed up a hospital room for her son, only to have him treated so badly by the hospital staff that they refused an autopsy, and basically treated her son as garbage. Then they had to bribe an orderly just to have the body (what was the hospital intending to do with it?) then had to physically carry it into a plain car backseat without any help from anybody. Jesus, prejudice can be BRUTAL and this scene captured it completely.
At least there will be plenty implied.
Without question the diarrhea scene was the hardest to watch. That showed just how sick these patients became/become. And to see Ned not even flinch or wince over it. Sad, sad, sad.
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