nope, not watching!

I would have expected at least seeing any non-Vulcan crew members finishing getting dressed in their quarters while their bedroom partner is doing something similar. Having Spock doing that is, as you said, out of character for him.

Much like "Enterprise" did with T'Pol years ago.

Just because Vulcans can force themselves to have sex outside of the Pon Farr cycle, does not mean they do it on a whim or jump into bed with the nearest person willing to bone them. Remember, Vulcans don't think like humans do. They don't have the same kind of drive outside of the Pon Farr cycle as a horny human would.

Um, Kirk and his crew wore velour too. It would make sense that Pike would be wearing a more primitive version of the later uniform styles that Kirk's crew wore later. And yes, the colors were more muted. I know you like bright, flashy, canon-breaking fashions, but that's not what real Star Trek fans want to see. They like consistency, and Kurtzman's Trek breaks canon every chance it gets, ruining that consistency, just to rub our noses in it, like he's saying, "Ha-hah! I ruined your franchise, and there's nothing you can do about it! And I'm still getting paid, bitches!"

And yes, it looks wrong to show people from Pike's time not using similar tech and weaponry from the pilot. Doesn't it look odd to you, how Pike and his crew have a more advanced-looking ship than what Kirk was flying just a few years later? It makes it look like Starfleet went backwards in their tech development than forward! Didn't anyone tell you that there are no spoilers in history? That's like saying the Romans developed indoor plumbing before the aqueduct!

Do you remember how hard it was for Kirk to find out what Spock's problem was in "Amok Time?" It took quite a while for him to finally get the information out of the guy, and it was only because they were in a private setting and Spock trusted Kirk more than anyone else.

Pon Farr was a humiliating experience to Vulcans because it caused them to lose control of their emotions and drive. They kept it secret from other races because it would ruin their image of the logical, emotionless creatures they had presented themselves to be. To be ruled by their hormones like [weak-willed] humans often are, is not a hallmark of Vulcans. They can control their bodies during most of their lives, save for the Pon Farr time. If there is a "libido," they are very good at keeping it in check, far better than humans or other species can. The only exception to this rule would be if a Vulcan was married to a human, and was willing to have sex with them if requested, but such a union is super-rare. In fact, you could probably count on one hand over a period of two centuries as to how many times a Vulcan paired themselves with a human mate, Sarek and Amanda included.

I sincerely doubt that Spock would have just thrown that all out the window years before working under Kirk's command.

I watched two seasons of Discovery and the problems I had with it were: Newly invented sister for Spock. Bizarrely new Klingon culture and look. Space battles that owed more to Star wars than anything Trek. Most of the secondary characters ignored - This was acceptable in TOS where Kirk, Spock and a bit of McCoy was the standard, but in serialized storytelling it was foolish. In Discovery season two they did a great episode where one of the bridge crew died a significant and supposedly emotionally fraught death...and that episode was the first background on her we had! That was the essence of their flawed storytelling and calling it a Mary Sue thing misses the point. By this standard Kirk was the ultimate Mary Sue.
Star Fleet is depicted as allowing grotesque exploitation of aliens to make the new (and soon to be abandoned and ignored) "Spore Drive". Bloody awful ugly Section 31 is front an center... And another iteration of the overused mirror universe... The second season was basically one simple story, pointing up the inherent weakness of their use of serialized storytelling to avoid the necessity of having to deal with more than one or two ideas in a whole season.

Those are the basic problems I have with Discovery. You appear to find many of the things I like about the show offensive.