Has anyone ever escaped the 'friend zone' ?
Just curious. (For the record, I haven't)
sharehaha I had escaped the friends zone...But then I blew it lol. So now me and this girl is more like in the slightly friends zone...Back to square 1...
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What my experience in this area has revealed that it is possible to escape "the friend zone" but that escape is only temporary. When you're in the "friend zone" you already know a lot of the things that people learn about each other in a romantic relationship and the exploration of those things is one of the best parts and with that part of it gone, the passion eventually disappears and you go right back to "the friend zone."
shareI escaped - and THEN some. Not once, not twice but three very close female friends of mine decided to go to the "next level". It was a surprise but one of them I am still with to this day - so it couldn't have been all bad. I found it very rewarding actually considering that none of them would have probably responded to me the same if I happened to be someone who met them at a bar or something like that.
They all got to know me, got to hear about my girl problems, I got to hear their guy problems...and so on. I think it ended up being a safe bet for them.
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I've been in the friends zone. This one girl was sending out all the signals, so I asked her out. She of course said "no" but phrased it as "not right now but maybe in the future" which I believe to be a horrible way to say "no" because it still gives hope. Then she began dating some other guy that ended up cheating on her. While she was dating the guy I really never talked to her and moved on. So the guy dumps her and she starts trying to talk to me wanting to get back to the spot our relationship was before. Whenever I go out with other girls that I'm interested end she calls my phone and such.
I guess I've gone from being in the friend zone to putting people in the friend zone.
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Man I hate the "just friends" zone. It's like being in limbo, a fate worse than death because you see the girl you want but she doesn't see you "that way". I learned a lesson in high school. If you want girls to like you, you have to be the biggest jerk you can. It worked for me...
My husband did when I married him. For a while I wasn't sure how he felt about me either. :)
We women aren't all heartless bitches. Some are, I won't lie, but some women put you in the Friend Zone because they can't believe YOU like THEM! I remember being surprised years later at hearing from a couple guys that yeah, they DID have a crush on me...they gave me no hints. None. And they were nice guys so yeah, I would've gone out with them.
Maybe for every heartless bitch out there, there's just a guy who missed his calling as a poker player. For the record, I have no patience for my fellow women that string men along and play games.
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I liked this girl in high school, we were really good friends. I used to go to her house all the time, and hang out. Then one day I asked her out and she gave me the usual "I dont want to ruin our friendship". Granted we actually were like best friends, I didnt hold it against her.
Now shes cheating on her boyfriend with me. When im lying next to her all the old feelings come back but I cant have her cause shes already taken. How messed up is that?
that doesn't make sense....kind of...
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you know what's messed up? I'm reading this (even though I'm a girl) and I realized...I'm sort of in the "friend zone" as well...
I have this really great friend whos a girl who just met this guy who I've been friends with for a couple of years and I really like...
Now, they're going out and I have to listen to all the crap that goes on between them.
This sucks...
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If your in the friend zone then it means that she loves your personality but the reason ur there is because of either two things 1) your not her type 2)she likes you and shes shy if its number 1 unless your looks or her personlaity changes your stuck there
shareI'm in the friend zone right now. We're best friends and i JUST recently started having feelings for her. Man, it really REALLY sucks to see her fall for other dudes....i wish there was a magical solution to it, but i guess it's just not meant to happen
shareThis summer I was kinda in the friend zone, but the weirdest thing happened ... I made a move, then a few days passed (we saw each other a lot) and she made her move and we kept it like so for about a month and a half, but never admitting to one another what exactly was going on ... we were "just friends" but we acted like we were together.
There were confusing feelings involved, and after a period where we didn't quite see each other as much she found someone else, and not being bounded by anything our friendly relationship or any bit of it just disappeared ... couldn't say I was heartbroken, I just chose to stay away coz there was nothing for me with her.
They got together and are in love, and I found myself someone since then and we even started speaking again as of late but it isn't what it once was, everything is so boring and cold...
Hey Cpt Courage
I've gone through the exact same situation on more than one occasion with the same girl.
She says the same things "the not right now" excuse.
Funny thing, I've even been with her a few times.
I'm often picking up the pieces when dickheads break her heart.
But whenever I date other girls, she gets closer and doesn't like whoever I'm dating.
Any advice?
I hate the friends zone, I alwaus get stuck in the friend zone
sharei've been in this situation and u know what i have concluded...
girls are very very mean...
u ever notice how they're like " oh we be better off friends"
or " i see u more as a brother then a bf"
that kills like a bullet thats basically saying hey i see u as a friend but not someone i wud want to connect with more.
*beep* girls.
one day we'll turn it around and see how they feel.
Yea dude I know what you mean. Last year this girl I knew through other friends just decided to start hanging out with me out of no where. She would openly and excessively flirt with me, constantly touching or hugging me (even in front of her boyfriend), pointing out how I made her laugh and whatever... and at first I wasn't in to her like that, but later we had soooo many things in common and I fell in love with her.
Which was a very bad mistake, because she had a boyfriend and I was friends with him through my other friends. As it turned out, I could not tolerate the friends zone any longer and I decided to confront her about this B.S. of a relationship. She seemed to have PMS when I confronted her becuase she completley flipped out, and kept lying that she was happy with her boyfriend ( who I have seen and heard makes her cry almost everyday, verbally abusive...physically possibly) and that she liked me as a friend. I was crushed and couldn't stand the sight of her for lying to me like that and breaking my heart.
It was a pretty serious conversation and we both knew that we wouldn't be friends after it, which is the part that kills me to this day because I loved her so much, even as strictly just a friend, that I would give up ever going out with her to remain friends.
At first I thought maybe she was using me to make her b/f jealous, but she would flirt and hang out with me alone all the time, and seemed to prefer that.
But I'll never know for sure.
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IMO, the friend zone is like the chainsaw in Gears of War, once u get sucked in, there's no way out. Well, at least thats how it is for me.
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Yes i have, and we've been going out for 4 and a half years now.
shareI love how guys are all complaining about girls when the exact same thing happens to us. I've spent my life with unrequited love, my current relationship being the only one where my pre-existing crush was reciprocated.
I let someone out of the "Friends Zone" once. (Incidentally I saw this movie with him while we were going out) It ended badly and I knew it would but I gave him a chance. I almost regret it because we're not really friends anymore. Feelings cannot be manufactured out of neccesity.
Now I'm out of the friends zone (which was only there for a few months), but I knew enough not to harass him into liking me, letting him chase when he wanted me.
It'll happen if it should.
Yeah...I'm a girl and I'm in the friend zone with like ALL of my guy friends. I do all the flirting, I do all the "things" that girls do to get guys to like them. But Nooo...turns out no one will ever pull through and ask me out...and I never have the courage to just do it myself.
I really liked this guy who I had been friends with for about 2 years or so, and then...when I finally get the courage to tell him, I find out (luckily before I tell him) that he liked another girl..and asked her out...and taked about it with me all the time...and they are still dating.
Oh, and theres also all the other guys that I get close to, and then they fade out of my life.
Try being my age and not having a boyfriend since elementary school...lame? YES. I have a nice figure, and I'm nice and funny, and just down to earth...could someone explain to me why it's so hard to like me?
hmm...that's a toughy...It could be because you're shallow and conceded
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great stories people, cmon keep going.
shareMy best friend is a guy and he's been my best friend for about 5 years and I never even considered him as more than a friend until this year, when I found out he liked me as more than a friend. I still kept saying that I didn't want to go out with him, because I didn't want something to happen to ruin our friendship. I always figured we would end up together eventually, I was just scared about it. He is so sweet though and always tells me how much I mean to him, and now i found out he may be moving at the end of this year which is a really screwy situation because if he stays, i go out with him, i could lose my best friend but if he moves i am going to lose my best friend anyways. So I told him i liked him and I think he is going to ask me out next time he gets the chance and if he does I'm just going to go ahead and say yes because i have to at least give it a chance, I would regret it more if I didn't. So long story short, yes, you can get out of the friend zone. It may take a really long time but girls do come around sometimes. Some girls do just like to date jerks and I can't understand that at all but it is possible to get out that's all I'm saying
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I'm a loser as far as friend zone goes.
I have ALOT of female friends so I have found it so difficult because sometimes I just wished I liked them as a friend.
One in particular, was a very hard situation and cause us both a lot of grief.
I was getting over a girl who I had liked for awhile, and she didn't return my feelings. Anyway this other girl who I was good friends with was there for me throughout it all. It didn't take long (I must note I was 15 at the time) for me to start feeling things for her. I was really confused cos I never looked at her in that way before.
Anyway, cos I have gender issues and I'm FTM I have only recently got into the swing of relationships and before then I was discovering who I was.
I told her, and she turned around and never gave me a yes or a no answer, she just said "If you were Matt (who I was transitioning to) it would be different." which as you can imagine, crushed me.
We continued to argue over it and things were really awkward but on the first day of my GCSEs (high school final exams) she rang me up to tell me she was dating this girl who had been bugging her for a year to date her.
Again another blow cos she had said how much she hated her, then she started dating her.
For my sake I eventually made a pact with myself not to contact her when we moved away from that area months later so that I didn't keep getting hurt.
We hadn't spoken for nearly 2 years, until the other night. She apoligised for her behaviour and that it was all forgottern. I still care about her but that shimmer has gone to be honest, but again I'm changing all the time physically and metally as a person so never say never. But I'm happy being her mate aslong as she doesn't repeat what she did when we were younger.
I think males and females can be friends but you need to be honest, cos like she did, by leaving the guy confused you or even the girl, you make it harder in the long run to tell them there will never be anything to come from this.
But each to thier own.
Escape the "Friends Zone growing up....never.
However, its a lot easier ot avoid this trap when you are out of school, have a full-time job and your own apartment/house, you will realize that there is just no time be a sucker and have single female "friends."
Any MAN with self-respect will decline the "friends" offer. In the end, some women will themselves feel rejected when you declare you interest in dating her and reject her "let's be friends" offer.
I work 50-60 hours a week, and if a woman is not interested, but gives me the "lets do lunch" or "we are friends" line, I decline and state that we are not friends. I make my intentions clear that I am interested in "a date on Saturday night." If she is not interested, I end the discussion, walk away, delete her e-mail address and cell phone number......and move on with my life.
Thanks dickhead. How did I sound at all conceited?
shareyou're calling me a dickhead? Here's what you said : "YES. I have a nice figure, and I'm nice and funny, and just down to earth...could someone explain to me why it's so hard to like me" That's not conceited to you? oh thats right you're the one saying it. so it wouldnt.
I insist that if you have one M&M; you have an 'M'
I'm not going to waste my time on you. And no, I don't think I'm conceited. I was describing what I look like. Haven't you ever done that? And yes, I am calling you a dickhead because that is what you are. So there.
shareoh wow your mature. So there? How old are you 5? Who cares what you look like? Did anyone ask? No, I don't think so. So sit down and stfu.
I insist that if you have one M&M; you have an 'M'
How old are you? Arguing over a stupid board? REALLY?! Just because I complemented myself doesn't mean you gotta be a dick and say I'm conceited. So you stfu and screw yourself. Go bother someone else, because your wasting my time.
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