Has anyone ever escaped the 'friend zone' ?

Thanks for the advice Vidike =) I'll give it a try..

Bottom line: Human nature sucks. Generally, we want what we can't have or what is hard to obtain. When a girl finds out that a guy likes her, it often takes away from her desire for him, if any was in place.

It is very hard for two people to get on the same page in "love," whatever that term means. The whole best friend thing? Sh*it, that is what man and woman should strive for. What better relationship is there? Lust doesn't last (any long term relationship reveals this). It is just limerance.


And, I mean, look at the divorce rate. There is so much evidence that when it comes to relationships, people do it all wrong. As bad as the divorce rate is, it doesn't even take into account all of the people who stay together because of the obligations of life. It is a joke. People constantly say, when you meet "the one" you just know. Obviously, the divorce rate proves this is not true. There likely is no "ONE" for everybody.

If you can find someone of the opposite sex whose company you genuinely enjoy, that is what should be acted on. But women are given all this external crap about "the perfect" man. He doesn't exist. It is unrealistic. Nothing is worse than unrequited love and I have experienced it. Many want to feel wanted, even at the expense of a dude's feelings. It is hard for man and women to ying and yang, so flip the game on them.

God forbid you are nice to a woman, too. A guy gets punished for this. Too nice? Would you like me to slap you around? I by no means am a push over, but for years I did not feel the need to treat someone crappy because I did not want to be treated crappy, and without regard to consideration. This logic fails on women.


Now, I just don't care. Most marriages go to crap anyway. see: nomarriage.com and http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/marriage/ and http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/12/13/044102.php

I have shifted my focus to making money, buying nice things and giving into my instincts, not unlike Daniel Day Lewis' character in "There Will Be Blood." If I meet a woman who has the capacity to understand what marriage is, who actually wants to marry for the right reasons (and not for some ring and who will still felate me after the union), then I would go for it. Other than that, forget it. Forget dating where the girl has intentions to only be friends. Do not extend that courtesy. Get a hooker. At least you'll pay for something worthwhile!

MOB! It is too bad I like women, otherwise, I just would not care. Apparently, I do. Play them.

I asked this girl out. I was so nice to this girl, complemented her, you know stuff like that, and we were on christmas break, and I thought I was gonna have to wait the whole break n I was a friends house who lives by her, and I turned around and looked back when we were walking and i said wouldn't that be funny if that was her. Sure enough it was. She came up to me and said "I think we would be better off friends." I smiled like an idiot and "ok". THE FRIEND ZONE SUCKS @$$!!!!!!

Stupid ppl do stupid things smart ppl outsmart e/o then themselves

"I escaped it once. But it was right before I moved away, so it was sort of bittersweet. Glad it happened, yet, frusterated that it had to happen right before I move away and not years earlier..."

i find this post funny because in the "Girls (or guys)...has a 'friend' ever said they liked you." forum one of the stories said they lied to a friend and said they liked him because he was moving away soon.

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A guy in highschool was in love with me. It was grade 9 , he started hanging out with my friends to get closer to me then ended up in my friend zone. We were BEST friends..we did everything together.. But he didn't say a damn word to me until 5 years later!!!! Which I really didn't understand.... but he said i was just way too intimidating... After I found out.. I fell completely in love with him... We started dating for a few weeks... then the roles changed a bit.. I was completely mad for him and broke it off, because i was afraid of ever losing him... stupid mistake.. our freindship became very on and off .. mostly off when one of us or both were in a relationship. 6 months ago he and I started becoming really close again, I had just got out of a relationship and he was with someone and happy. His girlfriend lived in another city.. so they hardly saw eachother, and him and I were together everyday. Literally 2 weeks ago, his girlfriend told him basically that it was obvious something was happening between us... and yes she did freak out, but She acknowledged she'd never have that kind of relationship with him, and said it was clear that we should be together. Needless to say, he agreed and they split up. Now we're taking things slow and trying again. And it's absolutely amazing... It's hard to believe I missed out on 10 years of him..... I guess the moral of the story is that.. no matter how long your in the friend zone, if it was meant to be the situation will unfold naturally itself..

.... for the guy who said to be straight up and says he isn't looking for any girl "friends" ... thats a good way to get her to realize your an ignorant, shallow person a lot faster... all women are looking for a lover who IS their best friend also... just a little fyi

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killinyallsuckas,

That is a FUNNY story. Kinda sad, but also funny. You kinda got your revenge, didn't you? Go boy!

Well my friend claims that she never really responds to anyone's instant messages and never picks up her phone, but since she hasn't talked to me in a while, I have no idea whether or not she still likes me. Though we'll probably end up talking eventually when I see her over Thanksgiving break and she'll be acting all nice and whatnot and probably so will I cuz I'm used to acting nice to her.

But how did u ruin urs?