Am I the only one who found Rosemary unpleasant on the inside also?

Something subtle in your comment I just noticed about the movie. What it's really saying is that if you really love a morbidly obese woman, you'll think she looks like a thin, fit woman. So, the beauty standard never really changes, love somehow has the power to make you not notice how unattractive she really is!

Amy: I swear to God...I swear to God! That is NOT how you treat your human!

YES i was thinking the exact same thing. Katrina seemed so much more fun.

"The movie somehow is saying that if your spouse isn't attractive, if she has a beautiful soul, she'll look like a skinny, pretty Paltrow. Which, indirectly says that skinny and pretty is *still* what is attractive."

The movie isn't saying that at all. Hal is still shallow for the entire time that he sees Rosemary as thin. It isn't until he is made aware of what happened that he realizes that there is more to loving someone than just looks, and decides to be with Rosemary in the end despite now knowing what she really looks like. It isn't until he chooses Rosemary over Jill that we really see Hal's maturation.

Hanz,
The boring, monotone part was just the Paltrow leaking out.

I liked how Rosie was kinda feisty, ("So are you the last Member?"), she was strong and confident, mostly.
She knew who she was, how she looked, and was still competitive enough to do a cannonball into the pool.
That took balls.

I think you're confusing nastiness with self-confidence. She could take it and she could dish it out, in good fun.
Can't help being hurt when someone is just mean, though. You?


I prefer the toad less raveled

The thing is, Hal didn't think she was dull and boring. To him she was fun. And as Rosemary said about Ralph, he had no sense of humor and I think that was what connected Hal and Rosemary. They could laugh together and have fun and be silly (which was apparent in the hospital scene with the kids). They were both easy going. And you missed the underlying joke in what Hal said about her being selfish. The viewer is supposed to laugh at that comment because obviously Rosemary was doing the most unselfish thing imaginable by volunteering her time and caring for others. I don't remember her ever claiming to be "better" than anyone else because she volunteered at a hospital or in the Peace Corps. She was trying to be a good person. No one is perfect. Everyone has personality traits that are grating to some, but to the people who love them those traits can be dismissed. People like Rosemary feel invisible and unimportant to others because of how they look. Taking the focus off themselves and trying to make a difference in the world, they have a chance to feel like they are worthy. Everyone is entitled to feel like their lives matter. Rosemary had a strong personality. She looked out for herself and maybe that came across as overbearing at times. But she was doing what the "unbeautiful" have to do in order to survive.

LHL,

Nail on the head.
See comment above ( if so inclined.)


I prefer the toad less raveled

I never once saw Rosemary as..condescending, you say? What?