I remember I could not enjoy the movie. My grandmother, my mother, my uncle…they all loved it. And I could not, because I hate abortion, and I found the movie manipulative. Dr. Larch is presented as a philantropist (I don't think he charged money, by the way) and Homer who is disgusted by the practice is "converted" when he sees the extreme situation Rose finds herself in. Virtually everybody in my family is pro-choice. I'm not. And I don't understand why so many people always presume that somebody who is against abortion is a) probably male, b) right-wing and c) does not know what (s)he is talking about.
I think I know. I made two self-induced abortion attempts when I was a teenager, and I think at least one of them was succesful. It was like a gallon of blood gushed out, together with some unidentifiable tissue. But I felt more than simple disgust. I was really sorry for what I had done. Yes, I was desperate, otherwise I would not have done something that could have been fatal for me.
And yes, there are people who actually propagate abortion. It is true, most people who identify themselves as pro-choice aren't really pro-abortion. But there are some, like German politician Jutta Ditfurth, for example. These people believe having an abortion boosts a woman's self-confidence. It is also not true that it is always a tough decision. To some people it is like having a tooth pulled. I went to college with such a woman, and her abortion and especially the way she handled the issue ended our friendship. Also, some people actually remember their abortion as a positive experience. I once took the time to read the online guestbook hosted by a Dutch abortion clinic. A woman wrote how she took refuge in the Dutch clinic because her late-term abortion would not have been legal in Germany, and how she and her husband celebrated the abortion with a candle-lit dinner. I also wonder on what kind of statistics the politician who presented the bill on abortion to the British House of Commons based his claim that most women who want an abortion are mothers who already have several children. I think that is bogus. I once read an interview with a Polish doctor who offers (illegal) abortions, and he said all kinds of women come to him. Pregnant teenagers, college students, homemakers with 5+ children, poor women, rich women. No particular majority group. For once, a pro-choice advocate who is telling the truth, I thought.
To make it clear: I have friends who are pro-choice. And I still have a good relationship with my family…most of them are pro-choice. It might sound a bit weird that I wanted to give myself an abortion while my parents are pro-choice. But I also had the idea that they treated their underage children as their property who are not capable to make an independent choice. But I still love them.
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