Hey, thanks for the reply.
Sorry for what happened to you. Wow, it's mindboggling how ther's so many people that act without any care for others' privacy and safety, and clearly stalkers know that they are a tool for them to use. How did they respond once you told them that they caused you such harm with their indiscretion?
It's something that should be discussed more in public and penalized, even legally. People need to learn when they need to shut up.
I know I get pissed off when they talk about my business without my consent. I don't know what I would do in case of having stalkers after me and the people that should help me are actually the ones helping the stalker.
Again, I think they just don't know any better and lack the education of knowing what they should not and cannot divulge. Including the cases when they think they are doing a favor.
There should be one of those public access animations from the 50s that explains everybody "you are NOT doing anybody a favor divulging their personal info - DON'T TALK NOW, ASK THEM FIRST" Or some other slogan like that.
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StinkyPoopyPants (3118)
10 months ago
Hello!
Stalking laws are a joke and restraining orders do nothing when someone is obsessed with you. It needs to be changed. And yes, people who help them really should be held accountable in some way.
My mom was one who gave my ex-boyfriend my phone number after I had it changed to to stop his calls. She really never did and still doesn't felt bad. She believes she did nothing wrong. She and I don't have a good relationship for a number of reasons, this being one of them.
My ex-best friend gave my number and address to a woman who was in a class at the modeling agency I contracted with. I was a model at the time and this woman "befriended" me by asking about how to break into the business, etc. She and I talked for about 30 minutes and that was it. I had no idea until later the extent at which she was stalking me. She followed me one day after a shoot. My ex best friend and I met at a bar for drinks and she came up to us all excited about "just happening to run into me". I had no clue she followed me and invited her to hang out with us. While I was in the bathroom she asked my ex best friend for my number and was given not just that but my address as well and I was not told about this until the woman called me and I asked how she got my number. I had no intention of giving it to her. I called my ex-best friend and asked why she would do that and didn't even bother telling me. She said she didn't think it was a big deal. I was mad and told her how could she not think it was a big deal after what had happened with my ex-boyfriend. She apologized but after a year of dealing with this woman's stalking, I ended the friendship with my ex best friend. To be honest she never seemed like she felt all that bad about it.
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StinkyPoopyPants (3118)
10 months ago
As for the co-worker, I was working with a team of 6 people and one of the men kept asking me out. I kept saying no and telling him I was not interested and did not want to meet anyone outside work. I was talking to one of my female teammates about the complex I lived in when she was looking for a place and she mentioned that this guy lived in the same complex as me. I told her I didn't know that and she made a comment about how he is lonely and would appreciate a friend close by. I told her I had no interest in knowing him outside of work and to not let him know we lived in the same complex. Well, she did anyway. The next thing I know he started offering to come over, buy me groceries, etc. I confronted her and was angry telling her she had no right to do that and that he was now harassing me constantly. She didn't apologize and instead told me how lonely he is and she figured we could be friends since we lived so close together. I told her to go be his friend then and leave me out of it. It just got worse from him after that and my manager ended up sending them both to HR. They were both let go but it still did not stop him.
It makes me sick that these people all think they did nothing wrong. I'd like to see if they would feel the same if the tables were turned.
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