The wouldn't have been happy together if they just got together for Billy's sake. So mny parents stay together for the 'kid's sake'. Kids aren't stupid. They can tell when their parents aren't happy together. Who do you think the kid will blame for his parents being unhappy together??? He will blame himself because his parents stayed together because of him so he will think it is his fault his parents are unhappy. I've seen it happen with some of my friends. My parents are also divorced and I had a very happy childhood. My parents made a pact to never fight in front of us or speak a bad word about each other, ad they never did. I never felt like I was in some type of tug of war. That's what makes divorce harsh on kids...is when the parents fight, talk bad about each other, etc. If all divorced parents treated each other with the respect my parents did, then children would handle divorce much better. It is NOT the divorce that is usually so hard but the way many parents act during and after the divorce that is hard on the kids. Those parents just need to grow up and put their children's feelings an well-being first.
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