Not really a film that shines a warm light on humanity. ____________ What does shine, is the fact that females are not necessarily suitable as mothers and that women like Joanna Kramer, aren't ready or should never have been one in the first place. Ted managed to do the same things as his wife and was still supporting them, while Joanna at least had home field advantage in both realms. At home she could focus solely on Billy and when she decided to leave to sort out her self-absorption and narcissism, she got a career, without the hindrance of having a child around to support and look after.
Ted ended up doing it all, something this cold and manipulating creature wouldn't be able to cope with. She put Ted through hell and he came out on top, wanted back what she walked out on, only then deciding she didn't really want it after all. And yes, women who are out for themselves and can only think in terms of how things affect them DO exist. So if this film portrays women in a not too favorable light, just like many films can do the same to men, tough tamales!
Is ORDINARY PEOPLE-80' misogynist too, for showing a mother who isn't all that capable of love, unlike her warm and caring husband? These women are like ice and live in a world that favors materialism and image, over what is "real" and "organic" and most importantly, what should matter most. They are incapable of giving genuinely and honestly, only on their own self-serving and entitled terms.
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I'm glad you brought up Ordinary People. I recently saw that movie for the first time. I couldn't believe Mary Tyler Moore could be such a cold b!tch to her son. I know women just like her. My own step mom for instance. But of course, feminists would be calling the writing of her character to be misogynistic because she is written to be ugly. However, they would forget or ignore the great, touching relationship between Sutherland and in his son. I actually cried at the end of that movie.
I've never really liked KvK. To me, it's basically an average TV movie, completely pat and step by step. I do think that Meryl Streep gave one of her best performances ever, even though I could not stand her character, even after she gives Billy back, I just did not like Joanna.
And I think it is a really boring movie.
On the other hand, I just love Ordinary People. And even though Beth is for the most part a very cold person, I still found her very sympathetic and I did not hate her at all. Beth's problems, to me, seemed much more real and painful than Joanna's. I mean I didn't have a huge problem with Joanna needing "to go off and find herself". What made me kind of hate her is how she breezes back into town like a witch and just expects that her son be returned to her. No explanation. No apology. Apparently not even a word to her son in 18 months and then she's basically all like "give him back to me..." I didn't hate her character actually until that scene in the restaurant. I was totally willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, but then she was so blatantly selfish and uppity, and I could not get past that for the rest of the movie.
Beth, on the other hand, seemed like she actually did try. She just wasn't capable of being anything more than she was. I don't think she got it... She was not a lovable person, so i couldn't really love her. But i thought she was a genuinely tragic person, and her flaws and problems also seemed much more realistic. Joanna was just a selfish, superficial bitch.
Oh, and I think that Mary Tyler Moore is actually a better actress than Meryl Streep. A lot better, actually.
I thought this movie was excellent in showing how complex people are.
Raacal, I wonder if anybody here has ever started a thread on which is the better of these back to back BP Oscar winners?
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I mean I didn't have a huge problem with Joanna needing "to go off and find herself". What made me kind of hate her is how she breezes back into town like a witch and just expects that her son be returned to her. ___________________________
😄 When I was younger, I always preferred KvK, as it was more relatable for family audiences and easier to watch, where as OP was more for mature audiences. I attempted to watch OP a couple of times on tv in the 80's, but just wasn't connecting with it and didn't watch it properly. I also wanted it to be about a coming out gay story for Conrad because he was cute. 😉
It wasn't until the 90's, that I started to appreciate the film and the psychology of the characters. I do think OP is the better film, however, that is not to dismiss KvK, as I find it very watchable and certainly not boring, only for the fact that I have seen it many times and know what is coming next. I don't think it is any less or more tvish, than many claim OP to be.
I hate Joanna Kramer, regardless of her wanting\needing to find herself and she should have thought of that before she had a kid. I doubt she would have walked out if she had a daughter, or she would have taken her with her. This spoiled witch creature, couldn't really relate to males.
As for MTM being a better actress than Streep, I can't really comment on that, as I only knew her from MTM show—which I rarely watched—OP and a film called Six Weeks. Moore would have undeniably been better at comedy than Streep, she just didn't appear to have that star dramatic persona about herself that Streep projects.
I'm sure it has been brought up before about which is the better film and many people hate on KvK for losing out to Apocalypse Now for picture, and OP, for losing out to Raging Bull. I am content with the choices made. However, I do feel that Breaking Away was just as much a worthy winner for Picture over KvK. I am a staunch OP supporter though and the other nominees were strong and I really don't like RB.
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As far as MTM being a better actress than MS, I realze that the field of comparison is a hugely skewed one because while I have probably seen Streep act in at least 20 movies, I only have OP and Mary's 70s show (never watched TDVDS much), but - and I think IY would agree with me here - within the range of playing Mary Richards, there was virtually nothing that MTM did not get a chance to do, and do exceedingly well. She made a character come to life (of course she had 7 years to do this), but she was funny and charming and vivid and (with the exception of the show's last season, which I have my own reasons for not liking), she always seemed fresh and in the moment and she pretty much resembled a real person. She also responds to the other characters so well, and I don't really think that Streep does this so much. And then she made OP, and for me that was enough to show that MTM was equipped with full circle versatility. Plus depth. Those two performances are all I personally need. Meryl Streep, on the other hand, is wildly versatile and her technique is flamboyant and engaging, but she has practically zero depth. And despite whatever gifts and skills she has, I cannot imagine Meryl Streep being able to portray a weekly sitcom character anywhere near as successfully as Mary did. She would have to be lovable to do that, and I don't think that she just has this to share with others. (God, all this makes me sound like I hate Streep and I don't!)
Then, of course, there is the fact that MTM once said "I cannot play a character. I can only play me." So, in a way that's kind of a big deal. Meryl's characters almost invariably have a coldness to them (even the likeable ones), and just maybe because she doesn't bring much of herself to the role. And, then, ironically, the super chilly Beth Jarrett is actually more likeable than almost any of Streep's characters (to me, anyway), and I think it's because there is more of a real person (however aloof) inside Beth Jarrett than in any single of Streep's characters. I never thought about it this way before. And then because there is something authentic going on with MTM's Beth Jarrett, the fact that this is a woman who is dealing with (or not dealing with, as it were) her demons in a way that I personally believe or respond to just makes Beth a much more terrifying person than any ofMeryl Streep's people. Beth Jarrett seems to have so many more dimensions.
Like more and more when I think about "Sophie's Choice", which is Streep's most celebrated role (and kind of annoyingly above reproach), I think the movie could really be transformed into a painting of Streep's beautiful face, get somebody to play the flute for background noise, change the title to "The Shining Eyes of the Polish Madonna", stare at it for 5 minutes and you'd basically get the same experience as from the two and a half hour long movie.
There is something essentially so "perfect" about Streep that about the only thing for you to do is admire her. But that gets boring after a while.
I guess what it comes down to is one's own personal preferences. You know how like everybody seems to love "The Shining" (and I do enjoy it myself), but almost always seems like there's the one same thing that all the fans can't stand about the movie, and that is Shelley Duvall's performance and whenever I hear that I just want to scream because I think that she actually gives a really good performance in the movie and I just want to say that really they just don't like the actress or the character or they think she's weird looking or whatever, but then that could be a little arrogant of me, just I usually just totally back off and if I do say anything at all in defense of her performance it is invariably the iconic image of total horror on her face when she first gets a glimpse of that axe coming through the bathroom door. And you know what's so fun, Rascal, is that every time the Shelley detractors have the same basic response and agree that "yeah, well, she was really, really good in that scene." Success for Shelley! Also (and I'm sorry I am just in one of my rambling moods, I think I've been cooped up as long as Jack and Wendy!), but the look of total, pure fear on Shelley's face... Meryl could NEVER have achieved something like that!!!
So, Rascal, just what is your estimation of MTM's performance in OP? I've never really heard you say. I'd love to hear your opinions on it.
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I like MTM's performance in OP. I only really knew her as a comedienne before seeing it, and I saw SIX WEEKS-82' theatrically, before I watched OP thoroughly in the mid 90's. I have to be honest and say that I only really saw Moore as a tv personality and not a major movie star, or that she had what it took to embellish the credentials of being a major movie star. That could be very narrow-sighted though, and I have changed my tune and opinions on acting performances over the last 2 decades. The thing is with Moore, she didn't do much cinema film, only tv, so I never really had much of an opportunity to really see her chops as a major film star and what she was capable of. I would have to sit thorough the MTM show from season one and watch the whole thing to get a more detailed and informative personal opinion on her talents.
As for her portrayal of Beth in OP, I thought she did a excellent job of portraying this cold and aloof woman, who was internally struggling to find her feelings and attempting to express them, yet failing abysmally. Her character has brought up much discussion with me on these OP threads—just as Meryl Streep has on the KvK threads—and that is due to Moore's credit in bringing Beth Jarret to life in all her foibles, faults and flaws. Watching her in OP, I sometimes think that this was the "real" MTM. I also find it interesting, that I find it difficult to attribute positive qualities towards Beth.
This was a difficult role to play, in order for the viewer to see how incapable she was of being genuine and honestly open and giving of herself, and at the same time make her sympathetic. Moore does make her pitiful, rather than me just wanting to feel whole contempt for her. She was in a sense, her own worst enemy. These are the best roles and while I haven't read the book yet, I would have loved to have known a little more about Beth and observing her character before Buck's death. That would have given her behavior even more credibility, in regards to Conrad and how she felt and acted towards him. That said, I feel that Moore gave a nuanced portrayal and she made her character real enough so the perceptive and discerning audience can understand her. The quality of these performances in the film, also needs to be attributed to Robert Redford's direction of them.
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Yes, it was incredibly misogynistic. The dad was practically sainted while the mom was villainized. Only a passing swipe was made at any kind of nuance in either direction. Oh, Ted is a workaholic but he's ultimately a wonderful guy! Oh, Joanna had a point about Ted but ultimately she's a selfish bitch who abandoned her child.
If you read the new Vanity Fair article, it's quite clear that the struggle Streep put up to gain some sympathetic treatment for her character was an abysmal failure. She was slapped, taunted, ridiculed behind her back, and most of her suggestions shunted aside. The whole story of bts of K vs K is about an intelligent actress working to flesh out the character more and Hoffman being a huge jerk who sneered at any suggestion that Streep was fighting the fight 'for' feminism. Is it any wonder the movie turned out the way it did? I feel certain that had Streep kept quiet and been a 'good little girl' none of this horrible abuse would have happened.
Yes, it was incredibly misogynistic. The dad was practically sainted while the mom was villainized. Only a passing swipe was made at any kind of nuance in either direction. ____________________ Yes, I think it is incredibly misandrist, to make your biased comments, as though this film is biased itself, when ALL it was doing, was portraying a female character that was a narcissistic, cold and selfish b!tch. THESE WOMEN DO EXIST. I bet if the tables were turned, and the film showed how self-centered and self-entitled the father was, would you be putting down the film as maligning men? Oh of course not, because deep down men are really just rotten to the core and women get another free pass, for being so nurturing and caring by default of their "special" gender.
...the struggle Streep put up to gain some sympathetic treatment for her character was an abysmal failure. She was slapped, taunted, ridiculed behind her back, and most of her suggestions shunted aside...Hoffman being a huge jerk who sneered at any suggestion that Streep was fighting the fight 'for' feminism😄...I feel certain that had Streep kept quiet and been a 'good little girl' none of this horrible abuse would have happened. ____________________ Do you even bother to look at things from a more level headed and open minded perspective, or would that taint your deluded, biased and warped feminist ideals about how evil and abusive men are deep down inside? This film was based on a novel written by a man, and I would say it could also have been put together based on his personal experiences with cold narcissistic women, or even something he had witnessed from the sidelines.
How dare a film not portray a female character in a positive light and make her out to be a vile villain. Of course that is just another ruse concocted by meany men to lie about women and keep them subjugated like poor Joanna Kramer, who was kept prisoner by her awful bully husband, who didn't care at all for her needs or their sons. Many women just love to blame men, when they refuse to take responsibility for their own decisions that haven't quite worked out the way they intended.
Streep is just as phony and deluded as you come across, and if she didn't like the way the character was written, she didn't have to play her, if it offended her fake feminist sensibilities. Steeep WAS given input and she apparently also wrote her own courtroom speech. She also won her first Oscar. Was that misogynistic of the boys own club that ran the Academy at the time?
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Where does this arrogant culture amongst many females stem from, who feel they are above and beyond the mere male mortal? Even when they do falter, they believe they should be exonerated just for being female.
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It's because they have it so rough. "Everything is 2 times harder for women" right? They basically, constantly resent their own biology. They're projecting that anger onto everyone else around them, especially men who are constantly showing them up. But they wouldn't have a problem if they stopped listening to feminism and start listening to their own biological urges.
Just finished watching it, and I've found it very balanced. Ted was insensible and made Joanna suffer. She gave up on everything to take care of Ted and Billy, and got deeply unhappy about being taken for granted and went on to discover herself. Meanwhile, Ted had to struggle to become a less lousy father, even though his son almost lost an eye due to his carelessness. But anyway, he was always there for the boy. Somehow he was the one that ended up taking the blame for everything, and having to prove everyone wrong about his competence to be a good father for Billy. They're both deeply, equally flawed. Equally wrong at some things, and equally right at others. Somehow it ended reverting some gender roles.