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Facebook started a conversation between me and my former close friend

posted 6 years ago by [deleted]
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One day I noticed on my messenger that my FORMER friend was on my messenger. It said he was active. What?!?! We're not facebook friends.

I clicked on his name and it said I had added him 2 years prior. What??!!

All I can think of is that facebook searched my phone numbers when I set up messenger and somehow that was on my phone or it added former friends.

Whatever the case, I went to remove him. NO BUTTON TO REMOVE. The only option is to block. I contemplated it, but we're estranged, blocking seemed kind of extreme, as he wasn't sending any threatening or abusive messengers.

So there he sat. Always displayed as the 'first' active contact. Does he check out my profile or something for facebook to figure he's the 1st?

So the other day, I look at my phone and he's replying. What? I'd sent him a wave! I pocket waved him!

He was like "Hi man, how are you?"

I contemplated saying "sorry, didn't add you, phone contacts import probably, sorry, didn't wave at you, pocket waved you."

But I didn't want to be a A-H.

So we chatted for a while. Got up to date. I wished him well.

So weird, it was all accidental.

[–] Galactus03 (4377) 6 years ago

Ummm ok...lol

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Do you use facebook messenger? It's weird. If you set it up it can add people from your phone. Then if a complete stranger speaks to you on messenger, it then tells you that they are online even though you're not friends. A guy who took the time to message me and call me names (which I replied to) now comes up as active. WTF? Seems like a security risk.

[–] Galactus03 (4377) 6 years ago

I don't have Facebook. Most of my friends I see all the time. Those i don't i can call or text when I want to catch up. I just do not think Facebook has anything of value to offer me. In fact it seems to cause a lot of people more trouble than it's worth.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

It’s very addictive

[–] Galactus03 (4377) 6 years ago

Meh ..I had cable TV since I was a kid and cut the cord 5 years ago and never looked back. I thought I was addicted to it but it turns out I was just addicted to good shows and having cable with just a few channels I watched wasn't worth my money. I still watch lots of great tv and only have an antenna, library check outs and use my girlfriend's Netflix. Big savings.

Never had Facebook but from what I see people are worse than they already are in real life with their friends,family and co workers. Obnoxious, selfish, entitled assholes. Lol. Not everyone of course but Facebook does indeed attract those types of people and bring the worst out in others. Friends and family have started verbal wars on Facebook and all their followers probably love watching it. I'm good with my real life social interactions. If I need to know something improtant about someone I always find out from others.

[–] MissMargoChanning (6630) 6 years ago

"Friends and family have started verbal wars on Facebook and all their followers probably love watching it."

That would be my problem with it. People actually post their most personal stuff on there! Why? The whole world is reading that!

We also cut the cable. no big loss. Lots of savings though.
Facebook? No big loss. Lots of time for hanging out with real friends instead of "friending" online.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Deleted FB all together...End of your problems...I prefer WhatsApps or texting...I’m in control.

[–] catsidhe (1649) 6 years ago

I hate WhatsApp. It forces you to update or it suddenly won't work. And you can't move it to your SD card, so there is sits, chowing up battery life.

Hate the fucking thing, but have to have it as it's my parents' preferred method of texting.

[–] kspkap (13570) 6 years ago

Facebook has become too intrusive. I signed up to look for a long lost friend, but I have never posted or become a true member. Never added friends, etc.

[–] MissMargoChanning (6630) 6 years ago

Sounds weird! It is sort of nice if it brought you and this estranged friend together again to iron out your differences.
I never liked the way Facebook worked. I never use it.

[–] Stratego (30595) 6 years ago

Do you regret it? It seems to have been a positive thing.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

It was positive but awkward I guess. Always awkward talking to estranged people.

[–] thewaitress (1616) 6 years ago

That terrifies me! Former friends are that for a reason, in my book. If I'm no longer speaking to you, then its because we are very different people who can't get along and thats okay. I certainly don't want a website or "app" making those kind (or any kind) of decision for me.

Deleted mine four years ago, never regretting it for a second. In fact, I always get a kick out of people saying, WHY don't you have Facebook?