Have you been accused of something you didn't do?
I have, and it is so upsetting! I am a carer and the lady I look after has accused me of using her television and mucking up all the channels on her tv.
She hasn't been diagnosed with dementia but she is 88 years old and maybe having memory issues! She emailed my supervisor and expressed her concerns. My supervisor has emailed me and told me to cut it out.So upset and pissed off and dwelling over it!!!
I stand accused of love in the first degree.
shareWow!
That must have been a cruel summer!
I had to leave Robert Deniro waiting.
He wasn't happy, I can tell ya!
Robert de Niro...I heard a rumour
shareHe was talking Italian!
shareI thought he was a shy boy?
shareOnly you can set me free!
shareWell...it ain't what you do it's the way that you do it.
shareFat bow Three!
And that's what get's results!
You can try hard...don't mean a thing.
shareHave you guessed my age yet?
Or anything about me?
I know that is how you work Dazed. I like being prey to a predator!
If you think you can be one 😜
I'm lost,is this a Bananarama song?
shareNo, but I'm curious.
Curious as a girl can be!
Ok you're in your 50's.
The rest,I dunno.
I know what you want me to think.
This is-
You travel a lot working for a charity,possibly aiding against starvation and possibly in war zones.
Single and childless.
But hey,never trust anything anyone tells you on the internet! Somebody told me that.
Great!
0/100
But there's the attempt!
I have got your attention though ;)
Not really.
This is all from days gone by on IMDb.
Old news,nobody here gives a hoot.
Why would they?
Got to be fair with you here.
I am trying for a child.
So there is that much sort of correct.
Not been at it for long but it's not been successful - seems that there are all sort of rules and things I wasn't aware of.
Here's hoping though (That she doesn't meet Spanners!).
Are you for real?
This all came a wee bit out of the blue in the middle of a bit about bananarama.
Very out of character for you revealing personal info,I don't know what to make of it.
You do realise that "you can try hard...don't mean a thing" is a lyric from It ain't what you do (it's the way that you do it)?
Just trying to work out why you went all Hannibal Lecters on me?
When did I go all Hannibal on you?
That said, a nice peppercorn sauce with some shiraz spring to mind!
I think we've all had that experience, and yes it is frustrating. Sorry to hear about what happened to you. I think your supervisor should have given you the benefit of the doubt.
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At work all the time.I always take the blame for something i didn't do.
shareYes. I hope you send an e-mail to your supervisor to make clear it's a false accusation.
shareSorry about your situation. Did your supervisor even ask about what happened before he/she told you to cut it out?
Personally, I'd tell the supervisor that if the lady isn't happy with you as her caregiver, perhaps she'd like someone else.
Do you work for an agency? Is there another case you can be given?
Obviously, the lady is upset. You and the supervisor ought to be discussing what to do to improve the situation.
Is it possible your supervisor was telling you just so she could tell the lady she'd spoken to you?
shareI had a close female friend I had worked with for six months, we were joined at the hip. Near the end of that, she started to express bits of emotional instability (she did have some big issues in her life though) and very odd paranoia. She asked me to come by her desk twice in one day to help her once, and to chat once, and then one of our mutual friends said that she was considering telling Human Resources to tell me to stay away from her.
That blew over and turned into nothing, she must have been in a mood.
BUT not too long after that, I had left the job and hadn't seen her in a bit, and I was going to visit my old roommate who still lived in my previous apartment. This close female friend had told me she lived two blocks from that previous apartment of mine, which we both thought was a neat coincidence. So, before I left, I used Google with her last name and the city, and easily found the address two blocks from my previous apartment.
When I left from my visit with my former roommate, I ended up changing my mind and deciding NOT to visit this "close female friend." I just went home.
The next day, I emailed her and said that I had been in the area and thought of stopping by, and also that I had decided against it and gone home. I also asked about her apartment number because the listing didn't feature that info, it only showed the building's street address. It was a very short, very friendly email. Completely harmless. The last time we had spoken, we mentioned maybe doing lunch or something, so we were on good terms.
She didn't reply to the email. Instead, she claimed to my former employer that I was "following" her, and she filed a restraining order against me.
Crazy Romanian chick. That mutual friend of ours (who I mentioned above) told me this girl was trouble, and was nuts, but I just didn't listen.
Was this a romantic thing ??
shareNo. That part is a longer story. We weren't exacrly able to engage in any romance no matter how we felt.... and that wasn't due to the job.
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shareHere's the interesting part: This Valentine's Day, I am going to court and putting her in her place. The hearing I requested just so happened to get scheduled for the 14th.
I have a feeling my former employer never saw the one email I sent her, but they took her at her word with me "following her" and hired bodyguards for no reason, and racked up a bill of about $70,000.
They are trying to get me to pay that, and once they see the reality behind her story, I have a feeling they are going to sue her for the costs. She lied to them, she exaggerated one little innocent email, and it's easy to prove.
I hope they sue the shit out of that crazy wench.
Wow! I wish you good luck with the case. It's only 2 weeks away, so please let us know the outcome!
shareThanks, I will. It makes me a little nervous because it's so easy to doubt that all this could come from misinterpreting one little email, but at least I have it all documented, and if necessary, there are other ways to prove that I never said anything threatening. I would be happy to give permission to pull my phone records to show I never called, and I'd give permission to pull my email records directly from Yahoo, whatever is needed.
But I have a feeling she's nutty enough that she feels fully justified based solely on her own interpretation of that one email. If our former employer confronts her with it, she'll probably say "Yes that's the one" and they will suddenly realize what kind of person they're dealing with, and ask her how in the world she could describe that email as being "followed."
I also need to stop pursuing crazy women. Nearly all of my girlfriends in my life have been nutty and unstable. I guess I find it exciting.
It might be a good idea to get your phone records and take them to court with you. It lets them know that you took the time to bring documented proof of your own.
shareShe's legally minded enough that I doubt she has claimed that there was any other contact, and wouldn't be willing to perjure herself. I saw hints of a paranoid mindset at the end, so I really believe she just interpreted the email the way she wanted to and her mind exaggerated the content.
shareIt's only 2 weeks away, so please let us know the outcome!
And a very Happy Valentine's Day to you too! You have had the best, now that this little episode is cleared up.
Isn't it strange the way the law works? Confusing at times.
What is sad, is that her lawyers should have been really working for her instead of even letting it get so far... like court! As you said, "The real problem here was that the law firm took her at her word and blew thousands of dollars on personal security without even trying to verify anything she was saying."
She doesn't need lawyers. she needs a doctor's care.
I'm so glad this is behind you now. Have a wonderful night!
She doesn't need lawyers. she needs a doctor's care.
Is this from a script you're working on?
Sounds compelling, our narrator tells the story of being falsely accused by some "crazy wench" colleague/female "friend", it get's crazier and crazier as things escalate despite our protagonist's efforts at remedying the "missunderstanding"... The only thing is our narrator is unreliable and is possibly delusional as well! Is he actually a stalker?!
Compelling stuff!
It's funny you ask, because just last night I watched this trailer for Unsane, which is Soderberg's new movie, and your description is kind of similar to it.
Just the trailer's structure itself is entertaining enough: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7KZrt_cHH0
(But one thing about trailers like this is that they tend to make the opening build-up of the movie very boring, since we've already seen where it's going)
I actually wondered too if someone would comment that I must have done something more that I'm leaving out, because it does sound ridiculous.
The thing is, if I had done anything to provoke this, I doubt I would be sharing the story. I'd probably keep it locked away out of shame or something.
I was once falsely accused of stalking someone.
In the first place, it was weird because I lived in another community and I was caught up in a job that was very demanding, so where would I find the time ?
I was forced to respond to a bogus restraining order. I arrived in court well prepared with plenty of documentation ( something judges absolutely love ). My accuser ultimately looked like a complete fool and the case was dismissed due to zero evidence.
I should have done that at the time, but I didn't bother going to that hearing because none of it mattered to me. A friend of mine recently told me that it sounded like she was trying to pull some kind of scam, but I doubt that and he didn't have any idea how it would be profitable in the first place.
shareOh yeah, and also, the restraining order by itself wasn't such a big deal to me, but that's because I wasn't fully aware of her narrative and I had no clue it would lead to hiring of bodyguards.
I would have never imagined it could go that far, and rightly so, because I knew I hadn't said or done anything remotely threatening, nor anything that could reasonably be interpreted as threatening.
It was satisfying that I won the case but I lost a day's wages because I had to travel out of town.
shareI'm always up for a new Soderberg movie, but I'll avoid the trailer if I can until I've seen the film...
Have you seen Side Effects? Check it out... It's a movie of his from a few years ago...
Good luck with you situation... I'd suggest getting some legal advice... Always protect yourself when it comes to the law...
Does having your entire class be in trouble for things only a few students did count?
I've always hated that shit!
Me too. Unfortunately, if those few people don't fess up and admit that they caused the trouble, what else is the one in charge to do? This sort of thing happens in many situations.... not just school.
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