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That's the problem with lying and cheating.


If you're caught in a lie, you'll never be trusted again in your life -- not 100%

If you cheat on your spouse, you'll never be trusted again for the rest of your life -- not 100%

Once that door is opened, it can never be closed again, not completely. (And ladies, your secret's out -- we know you lie and cheat just as much as the men, if not more.)

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Yes, I feel awful for Eddie as a character. God knows he seems in last place in his family, but in his marriage too?! I would have thought the same thing as him. I'll never understand why people admit to cheating. Bad enough you did it. You're only trying to make yourself feel better by telling your spouse, but as a result, you make their lives miserable as well. Why even try to work things out. My husband cheats on me, he's gone. Cheating on a spouse is despicable! No one is forcing you to stay married. I'm glad Eddie left!

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People confess to infidelity to "unburden" themselves, not realizing the pain that unburdening causes to the spouse.

I agree with the cheating/gone assertion. A relationship without trust is not worth continuing.

I had the opportunity to have sex with a couple of married women in my lifetime. My reaction was always the same -- "give me a call when your divorce is final".

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I'm a woman and...

I'm brutally honest/therefore lie much less than the average wo/man. I never cheated.

Anyways, I don't like the plot of the show b/c it seems like their using a disabled character as a prop to carry on a toxic relationship. The 'parents' are using the 'disabled' child as an excuse to be remain in an unstable environment, which takes even more of a toll on the child.

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The thing is, that happens in the real world, making the drama of the show all the more real.

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And more recycled.

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The number of couples who "stay together for the sake of the child[ren]" is legion. It's too bad, because in a lot of those cases, the children would be better off if the couple split.

However, in the cases where the children need constant monitoring (I don't necessarily think this is one of those), two people would be needed -- one to monitor, and one to generate income (unless, of course, the country of residence had ample social services).

I think this show is an interesting look at the dynamics of a family with a special-needs child.

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I know, but staying in an unloving relationships doesn't teach your child-special needs or not-anything. It just encourages the child to 'settle' with someone even though they are worth more. Disability shouldn't be an excuse, esp since the family is not-so-poor. I think it would be interesting if they try something a little original. Maybe casting a poor, black, female, autistic child who is living with a single mother or father. Showing how low to no cost healthcare plays a role on disabled people. People talk about how welfare is bad but my lower-income family needed it, esp with two autistic kids.

Maybe top all of that by showing how raising a disabled child can make you almost abandon them. I know that feeling as an autistic female of color growng up in public housing-though living in a two-parent household. They didn't have the appropriatte coping skills to raise an autistic child, but they did the best they thought they could. Thank goodness he was d/x at 5, but the average black autistic child (without Asperger's if you ask) is d/x at 9 or 10. I was d/x at 10 or 11. Maybe they could show a little 'Pursuit of Happiness' teas by showing what it's like to be homeless or almost homeless with a developmentally disabled child. Not just using autism as a one-dimensional, 'it's all about the disability', upper-middle class white people phase b/c there are folks are there who think autism is just a rich white folk 'excuse'. That is probably part of the reason why most black autistic kids get diagnosed much later than most white autistic kids.

Maybe they should focus more on child's social experience rather than use his/her health status as tool for something un-related. B/c believe me, the parents cheating/back-peddling have almost nothing to do w/ the autism. There's a 9/10 chance that they'd be lying/cheating anyway if the child was enabled.

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Just my opinion, but I don't think a show about a low-income minority family struggling with the problems of raising two autistic children would ever achieve a large enough audience to sustain it. The premise sounds more like a apt subject for an educational documentary.

Two specific notes: Welfare per se is not generally considered "a bad thing". To the families that genuinely need it through no fault of their own, I imagine it's a blessing. The abuse of the Welfare Program, and the lack of oversight that allows that abuse to occur to the point of it becoming a lifestyle for some people -- those are very bad things.

Secondly, I imagine the caring for an autistic child could be stressful for parents, and could put a strain on a marriage, so I don't agree that people who cheat under those circumstances would cheat "anyway".

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There are hundreds of factors that lead to an unstable relationship though.

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