Russ on Paola " I love a big juicy @ss!"

I forget what episode this season he said it but I liked that he said it because he was being REAL for once as a man. But what gets me is that he is saying oh yeah I love a big juicy @ss and then he gets all conservative and wussy about Paolas curves and her showing her body off, it's like what? Okay so you admit she has one but yet she can't wear a bathing suit like every woman should be able to wear and it be no big deal- Paola cannot help what her body looks like ( except her boobs, lol I think she works out to shape her booty) but yes I know Paola took her top off and still - so what? She covered her boobs and it is for photographs not just to be naked for nakeds sake. and does Russ really care that Paola was out there where "people can see her"- why does that bother him? No he is just bothered because he is afraid he will lose her by way of the opportunities her sexiness brings her and he is worried that his family could see the pics heaven forbid he ever stand up for his WIFE and get off the teet of his mom.

I am annoyed with Russ because he says things like " a big juicy @ss" and he KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT KIND OF PERSON PAOLA WAS before HE MARRIED HER!!! HE KNEW she was this spicy , sexy latina and he LOVED IT and wanted to have her on his arm- and he genuinely loves her but his sole worry is about what his super conservative family will think. I really think that is at the forefront because he doesn't seem to have a problem about her looks and what she is like but afraid of what his family will think. I think if his neck of the woods were more open minded and not shut off from sexuality from the beginning I do not think he would be such a stickler. I feel there is nothing wrong with sexy pics. I lost a lot of weight and a photographer friend took some black and white naked artsy pics of me and i have of someone else and had them up at a public Art show and we were PROUD OF THEM so all be darned if someone like Russ makes me feel like less of a person for doing this.

I get the part where she was deceiving him or not discussing it with him 1st not in the way that he OWNS her or anything but just out of sheer respect of your spouse and her knowing how he ultimately feels about it SHE KNEW he would be mad and she is trying to pretend otherwise. THAT i can understand why Russ is upset, its a break in their trust for one another. I know why she went ahead anyway and did it- because if she did consult with Russ , he would of demand she not do it and then she would really not be able to without it certainly making a statement of where her love for him stands and how she doesn't respect him. and if she did that would be EVEN WORSE and she is playing ignorance to get what she wanted done and then worry about consequences later.

I mean I get both sides. it is her dream and it makes her happy regardless of how we think she is too old or delusional and that she should make her priority Russ but think of how unhappy she will be tied down in conservative hokey town with 0 modeling opportunities. It would never work.... she would be unhappy and that will make Russ unhappy and they wont be happy. I wish they could compromise - why cant russ look for work in Miami?

Or maybe try getting work in Ca or NY? I think it is extreme that its SEATTLE OR MIAMI OR NOTHING AT ALL! when there are other options.

One thing that turns me off is a man who tells a wife how it is...like what he feels she should do or what he is comfortable with but kinda dances around it and isn't certain in his actions. Like it would be easy to defy him and he just curl up and be quiet and letting her feel as if there will be no real repercussions. he is so insecure like a door matt that the wife does it anyway and he wilts and start wimpering and being a 5 year old instead of being STERN and telling her how it is and just being upfront masculine like- its almost sexier when men are SECURE and stern and stay true to themselves so that the wife will really have to think about what she has done. and RESPECT WHY HE FEELS THIS WAY and wants to make it work because he is so sure of himself.... but Russ is so insecure and doesn't really present himself in a way that a woman would actually respect... do you know what I mean? I don't know how to really describe it.

I wish Pao would say to Russ - look at me- you think I look hot right? that is YOUR WIFE! why not be proud of it and know that woman in the pics people only look at but at the end of the day she comes home to YOU! be proud of me Russ not embarrassed. I want to make you feel secure and know that you are going along with this ride with me and you will support me and I am yours and we are partners and at the end of the day this is a job, this is my body that is beautiful but yet I married you and I only submit my body to you, but the actions of the job doesn't require that I love anyone else and going to use my body with anyone else, I am just sharing my looks. that you can only touch.....

or some sort of speech like that.... I mean I would feel bad to if I had this passion and was proud of my body yet if I were to pursue it I would get judged and shamed not only by my hubby but his family. that takes another level of stress and negativity in her mind and it makes you feel bad... being supported by someone who loves you is the best human feeling....but Paola has to find a way to do it back. I don't know...sticky situation. they are not right for one another.