...of any man over 35 whose friends are comprised solely of co-workers. It usually means this person has some sort of character defect or behavior issue that has caused his actual friends to drop out of his life and prevents him from forging new friendships outside the superficial and forced workplace. The fact that three of his wives have bailed on him and he has to look for love on a different continent might underscore this theory also.
shareI think she is wary but feels the pros outweigh the cons in this situation. Something is extremely off with that guy.
shareIt usually means this person has some sort of character defect or behavior issue
Why would somebody marry if they are not in love. Her reasonings I may understand- a better life for her son & herself. Why would he??
Is that telling of him as a person? I assume the greatest reasoning for marriage is love! Thoughts?
chaserofmoon...do you really think everyone who gets married is in love?
shareI_Love_Reality-
Perhaps not everyone marries for love but I believe it's the best reason to get married.
Either that or for a green card. ? LOLZ
Good points taken.
I am just a hopeless romantic, and yes,
it is a crime....
I don't really think that's true with the friends at work thing. I'm 32 and at this stage in my life, I only consider 2 people to be my friends and they live hours away from me. The closest thing to friends I have are coworkers that I may see outside of work on a rare occasion.
shareA couple of things to consider
(1) He is in a small town and its possible the coworkers were his friends before they worked there, or he has worked with then for 10+ years. It's a different dynamic in a small town. If this was New York city and he had been at this job for 10 months this would be a HUGE red flag. But that's not the case here
(2). - if she marries him because she likes him and thinks he will be a good husband and a good father then this marriage has a high chance of success. If she marries him only to move to the U.S. And "see what happens" or is lower
But don't be fooled. "Love" is a a principle not a feeling, and no one who gets married has been together long enough or through enough things to have a profound, unchanging love. At that stage it is just infatuation and good predictions