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failed to feel the connection

posted 8 years ago by amccarthy-49848
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This was a good movie, however it failed in making me believe their connection. I felt there was a lack in conversation (or anything) from the moment they met to the moment they fell in love. (Or maybe I missed something...) they seemed to have went from first meeting..to in love in a heartbeat. No build up to the passion that the film tried to portray them to have for each other. On a more positive note..I did enjoy the acting. both were great.

[–] chungmusic 8 years ago

The only thing I liked was the acting. I thoroughly disliked the screenplay as both the lead characters came off as self centred and selfish throughout the movie.

One day in the year of the fox came a time remembered well...

[–] ascaav 8 years ago

I totally agree with the poster.

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[–] xmontiax 8 years ago

Their connection is so subtle. With caution and uncertainty but I definitely felt it. I'm a lesbian... maybe it helps? There's a dynamic when you're gay and starting to feel things for someone and you're not sure if they even have the capability of Iiking your gender. It adds a whole new level of "could they like me" on top of the usual "do they like me". This movie really captured that.

[–] p7_man 8 years ago

Yea I too felt their connection from the very beginning.. <3 I'm a straight guy.

[–] SwansonTacos 8 years ago

Yeah I definitely felt their connection, mostly because I could see myself in Therese. This really is just that-- a visual experience. It's not a Quentin Tarantino dialogue-filled movie. But it still gets the point across beautifully.

[–] Archer1203 8 years ago

Is it usual for an older lesbian woman to like younger women and vice versa?

[–] lglg-74253 8 years ago

Is it usual for an older lesbian woman to like younger women and vice versa?

Is this a serious question? Because either you don't know about the extent of human emotions or you're jackassing.

Is it usual for an older man to like a younger woman and vice versa? Is it usual for an older woman to like a younger man and vice versa? Duh!

In case you didn't hear the clues and put two and two together: the age difference between Carol and Therese was only around 11 years.

Real life: Jerry Seinfeld was 45 when he married Jessica Sklar (28) = 17 yrs diff. Steve Martin was 62 when he married Anne Stringfield (36) = 26 yrs diff. Clint Eastwood was 66 when he married Dina Ruiz (31) = 35 yrs diff. Harrison Ford was 68 when he married Calista Flockhart (46) = 22 yrs diff.

And yes: older lesbians can be attracted to and fall in love with younger women and vice versa. Sarah Paulson (40) and Holland Taylor (72) are a couple. Rachel Maddow (41) and Susan Mikula (56) have been together for 16 years. Robin Roberts (53) and Amber Laign (39) have been together over 10 years. Martina Navratilova (58) and Julia Lemigova (42) dated for years and married in 2014. Ellen DeGeneres (57) and Portia De Rossi (42) are married. Tig Notaro (42) and Stephanie Allynne (29) are married. Chely Wright (44) married Lauren Blitzer (34).

It happens with non-celebrities, too. Double-duh!

[–] SwansonTacos 8 years ago

Personally I love older women, they're just so refined and amazing. That's personally why I love Carol and I think Cate Blanchett is beautiful and Rooney Mara is one lucky son of a bitch

[–] Archer1203 8 years ago

I'm a big fan of Cate Blachett's also. She has many films that I like, including this one.

[–] carrieandxtina 8 years ago

I felt their connection. Its magnetic.

[–] whistal 8 years ago

i would agree with you if i hadn't actually sort of experienced something similar to the movie! sometimes things just "are" and they don't really make a lot of sense and you just feel really intensely connected to someone pretty instantly. this happened to me with someone i met 4 weeks ago. i instantly felt comfortable in this person's presence. we talked some, but there was more than the talking... it was just a feeling. i hadn't really felt it much in my life before that, so.. from that context, i really believed that these two people in the movie could feel better in each others' company.

relatedly, when richard tells her that she's in a trance or something, and she says she's just fond of anyone she can talk to, i think that really says it all. it's not necessarily that they've had all the conversations in the world, but sometimes it feels like you *could* and that can make all the difference

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