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Good social commentary millennials

posted 9 years ago by lazygafiltafish
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I thought this movie was 100% accurate with how they portrayed millennials especially the men. I'm 31 and one of the older millennials. I rarely have been in long term relationships let alone been on dates beyond the 2nd or 3rd one with other millennials. I really do think my generation is socially stupid. Most millennials have conversations via text messaging, not in person, and especially not over the phone. In the 90s and before, when you wanted to break up with someone, you did it in person and not through a text message or not by just doing the fade or ghosting on them. You had enough balls to actually tell the person it wouldn't work. Men courting women is also a thing of the past.If a woman (such as myself) likes a male to take charge, be traditional (ie planning the dates and paying), and impress her, women get viewed as high maintenance, entitled and as gold diggers. I think men essentially have become "wussies" today and women who feel the need to be in relationships have enabled it by doing the "Oh I'm fine with Netflix and chilling", and "I'm up for anything". I think women today also rush into sex with men as a way to get them to like them more. Women who are in relationships with men today will also try to maintain keeping them by trying to add things in their sex lives like threesomes, swapping, and anal sex (not to say these things didn't happen in the past LOL). I believe I offer a lot to men but men in my age group won't see me as desirable because I'm not cool with just coffee dates, Netflix dates, getting drunk dates, and having sex before the relationship gets more serious. I'm attractive (imo anyway) but why would a man in my age group pick me over a woman who is as attractive who is "easier going" with dates and sex? I've come to terms that I will most likely end up alone since I won't change my views. I've asked out men on a few occasions getting the date but whenever I've done that it does set the tone for things to follow after the first date (meaning I end up being the one wearing the pants which I don't like). I've stopped doing that. I think I only did that as a way to have some social interaction with the opposite sex.

[–] bishop-69757 9 years ago

I'm also a older millennial but I thought this movie was trash and it was written by a female baby boomer that is taking every negative stereotype of younger men. Labeling any generation is silly. A lot of shows/movies have been made over the years that make generation X look like slackers or Baby Boomers look like lazy hippies. My advice would be meet new people because plenty of us still have face to face social skills. Not all of us live for social media/online, I hate cell phones, never had a Facebook page, never used twitter and HATE TEXTING. you ladies need to give us a break on something's.
Some women say they like being part of planning the date and other women want you to plan it. Most of us don't mind paying but I think a woman should help out. For example, I think if a man picks a girl in his car, pays for dinner and they go to the movies. Why can't a woman help a brother out? A woman stepping up and buying the movie tickets would be nice. The economy is tough on all of us. I will admit that I'm cheap in the early stages of dating because I want to make sure that I'm not just on a long list of other guys buying her free stuff.

What's wrong with coffee dates?
It's cheap for both parties and you can talk for a half hour , see if anything clicks and make plans for the next date or go your separate ways.

[–] steven-rick-garcia 9 years ago

but why would a man in my age group pick me over a woman who is as attractive who is "easier going" with dates and sex?

It's quite simple actually. Some men actually appreciate the company of another woman without having to be drunk, high, or just wanting sex. My my, what a concept!

Different men are looking for different levels of relationships. I assume it's the same with women. Some like to play the game. Sleep around, doin whatever. Others are in it for the long run.

[–] eddieinportland 9 years ago

Hell. I would love just to find a woman that just doesn't put me down on their phone contact list as "Free Meal" or "Free stuff because of his job" when I call them up to talk about the upcoming date.

[–] Amills23 9 years ago

It sounds like you're asking a lot out of a future date and not much out of yourself.

"Men courting women is also a thing of the past." That was a byproduct of a Christian society it's safe to say Christian influence on relationships in western society is almost null at this point.

It sounds like you're marriage material and not recreational dating material. One of the main problems with that is many people of your generational are afraid of commitment. The broken home has done a number on the men. Many don't want kids, or a steady relationship let alone marriage.

So being a man myself (from your generation) you scream commitment and most men are terrified of it. But I would say you have an unrealistic expectation on your potential dates. That you seem to want to be constantly wooed is a Disney idea of a relationship. I could see you having a problem with a drinking date or a Netflix date for an early date. But a coffee date aswell does scream high maintenance.

Also if you want a man to take charge yet get angered by his decisions you are just setting youself up for fights and failure he won't be a mind reader.

I'm also not sure where you are meeting these men you might need to look somewhere else. Since you seem to soley be looking for a committed relationship you might what to look on a dating site.

I wouldn't give up but be looking for a potential mate soberly you're not going to change somebody and it will only cause problems a week from now or down the road. You are also looking for specific type of person so of course not everyone will fit into those guidelines but many men do fit into your criteria.

[–] johnsonium 9 years ago

One thing is obviously true. Millennials have trouble using paragraphs.

[–] johnsonium 9 years ago

I've come to terms that I will most likely end up alone since I won't change my views.

That attitude is probably the single largest reason you are having trouble.

[–] Ms_Movie_Star 9 years ago

to add things in their sex lives like threesomes, swapping, and anal sex (not to say these things didn't happen in the past LOL).

What's wrong with these things? Also you don't have to be in a relationship to do them...

[–] thegr8defender 9 years ago

Relax a little.

First off, I can't stand your generation and I'm all of six years older than you. But that's the way of the world. You'll hate the next one. I know the baby boomers couldn't stand who came after them. Etc.

But! You paint with too broad a brush. It's juvenile to assume "ghosting" never happened before the term was invented - hell, it was EASIER because a person was less connected! Wanna disappear from somebody's life? Screen your calls. Done and done.

Sex has always been used as a method of hanging on to a relationship, keeping a man interested, what have you - maybe not everybody did it, but the concept is fairly universal. Millenials didn't invent it.

While it's fine to have standards, breathe a little. I can see being completely over most of the man bun-wearing guys out there. But that's not all there is. Still, don't be too hard on the guys. A coffee date isn't the end of the world. Think of it this way: What if a guy has been like third-degree burned in the past, shelling out money for awesome dates with women who flaked out on him? He might be more wary of making a big monetary commitment right out of the gate. He might also have been taught that women like to have a say in the date. You can't fault him for that.

Quick example: in my mid-twenties, I ventured into online dating. I started out writing long, thoughtful emails to guys who seemed interested. I would ask them about themselves, tell them about me, etc. What happened after that investment of time? Either I never heard from them again, or we'd go on a date and he'd suck. Eventually, I started directing guys to my (gulp) MySpace page to learn more about me - if they liked what they saw, they could reach out to find out more. It saved a lot of time and frustration.

In every instance but one, the guys didn't mind. Except for that one, who flat-out told me it felt like I was giving him the brushoff and I should put time into getting to know him.

He didn't know my motivation - and frankly, the only reason I wrote back was to tell him I thought he was ignorant. We've been married eight years, but that's beside the point. The point is, taken at face value, we both thought the other was being ridiculous. We had to find out where the other person was coming from.

Keep the other person's motivation in mind. Cut men a little slack. Most of the time, they're just trying, too.

[–] rmontro 9 years ago

The broken home has done a number on the men.

This is true. For a man to want a family these days, he puts himself at a huge risk. Most divorces are initiated by women. So a man can marry, be faithful, be a good husband, but through no fault or control of his own, the woman can decide to divorce. He is then stuck for the next 20 years paying child support and living on reduced wages. His life is essentially destroyed.

The worst part of this is that by marrying, he puts control of his future into the hands of another person. And the odds aren't good.

[–] thinkmcfly16 8 years ago

Sadly there is truth to the above.

Neither of my highly successful sons has any interest in committed relationships due to those very concerns. The woman only needs to get bored and file for irreconcilable differences, and she gets half of their lives. While I am no advocate of abusive relationships, it appears that the bar being set to low for marriage dissolution is at least partially responsible for ending it.

[–] johnsonium 8 years ago

Somewhere a tiny violin is playing "My heart bleeds for you".

When did men become such whiners?

[–] Eva_Marrie 8 years ago

Classic generational stereotyping going on in so many ways in this film and on this board.

I'm a millenial who detests social media with every fiber of her being - I find it a infinite whirlpool of stupidity and narcissism, and it's a generator of extra stress for socially anxious people. I quit Facebook 5 years ago and since then used it a couple of times to look up the contact details of a person I lost touch with and for fan groups. And I hated doing even that and exhausted every resource until forced to dip my toe in FB.

I also find the gadget obsession baffling. I mean, I watch people talk about the release of i-Phone Whatever Number in hushed tones and want to barf at that reverence.

Out of the people I know or know of under 30, most are married or in long-term relationships, several with children. I've only ever run into a couple of stereotypical basement-dwelling slobs and I believe that those have existed in every generation - remember the 'Mummy's boy' stereotype of the past?

[–] gypsykaia-99626 8 years ago

I'm not sure why it's okay to insult "basement-dwelling slobs" in the first place.

[–] KeanuMeansLove 8 years ago

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