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what was the film about for you?

posted 9 years ago by jimisinthebin
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For me,

It was abused man getting off on abusing others. With his money he manipulates women into an abusive relationship to satisfy his own desires.

The film is really based on a very vulnerable virgin girl and a billionaire falls for her due to obvious low self-esteem.

I just felt that wife beaters would be more into this film then house wives.

I understand s&m and the appeal however his sexual origination is considered rapey, vile and generally disgusting, and prob breaks western laws.

I think some IS men in Syria would like this film.

[–] isundling 9 years ago

Hmm...that's what you got out of it?...interesting...Christian doesn't manipulate women...they belong to a BDSM group of women that enjoy the lifestyle...they enter into a contract...set their hard/soft limits...it is consensual sex with adults.

And the whole point of the story...the one the author wants to tell..this young,vibrant woman falls into his office and his life...and he is intrigued...he goes against every rule he has lived with for the last 15 years..they are both adults...Ana is a non experienced virgin...as he soon finds out...all of their sex is more kinky that S&M...this all takes place in less than a month..but he screws up...with the belt...but so does she buy not using the safe words..so...will they work it out???? is he willing to change??? is there love??? stay tuned.

PS...There was nothing illegal nor breaking of Western laws going on at all.

[–] jimisinthebin 9 years ago

True for the most part. (and i admit i over reacted to it)

However, it was fun sex with bdsm. That part I get.

But Christian only liked hurting girls til they cried. That's the messed up part. The tying each other up and having sex with toys I get. And I think she was ready to sign up for that.

However that was NOT what he was into. So for me the film was going to be about BDSM and the relations that brings and turned into a rich man trying to manipulate girls into doing something that hurts them.

[–] lilsusieq86 9 years ago

The movie was not about the real BDSM world, but about a man who hurt others that looked like his mother. Through them he was able to get back at her. Once Christian fell in love with
Ana you then found out she was the only one that didn't look like his mother.

The easiest thing i have ever had to do was give my heart.

[–] gracvan 8 years ago

I agree. The people that Christian does his lifestyle with (minus Ana), they were all consenting adults. They can say "no" to Christian and he has safewords. He's a messed up, traumatized person who, mentally and emotionally, is still an adolescent. But if you read Grey, you see how Christian cares about Ana and how he feels when he punishes her. In his own twisted way, he cares for all of his subs.

[–] sarahkrafft 9 years ago

If you understood s&m you'd know that's not at all what this story is about. Also, the alternate lifestyle portrayed for you in the movie is the Disney version of the real thing being spoon fed to, and spelled out, for you.

[–] movie80 9 years ago

For me,

It was abused man getting off on abusing others. With his money he manipulates women into an abusive relationship to satisfy his own desires.

The film is really based on a very vulnerable virgin girl and a billionaire falls for her due to obvious low self-esteem.

I just felt that wife beaters would be more into this film then house wives.

I understand s&m and the appeal however his sexual origination is considered rapey, vile and generally disgusting, and prob breaks western laws.

I think some IS men in Syria would like this film.

Not for me.

I just felt that wife beaters would be more into this film then house wives.

What?
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[–] lilsusieq86 9 years ago

For me it was freedom.even though most of what she wrote was completely wrong about BDSM. It did bring it out of the darkness and get people talking and interested. Hopefully they found out the truth.

[–] hildsthegreatone 8 years ago

I watched this film with my girl for the first time at the weekend.

For me, this was a film about a guy who had been abused by a pedophile when he was 15 years old and this abused had continued for 6 years, making it learned behaviour. As sometimes happens with people who are abused, he then becomes an abuser himself.

For anastasias side, she puts up with what he wants to do because he is a good looking billionaire. She states often that she doesn't want to engage in the things he wants to do and she wants a "normal" relationship. She puts up with the kinkiness because of the looks and money. He exibits the signs of a sociopath and a control freak by rewarding her with a new car and taking her on helicopter rides. She is seduced by his looks first, and he retains control with his money.

Ladies, ask yourselves this, if Christian was 5'10, a little bit tubby and had a regular job, but spoke with the same confidence as Christian would she have indulged in any of the sex scenes in the film? I don't think she would've at all, hence this just being a film about a billionaire who abuses people because he has been abused and a weak willed woman happy to go along with things because he's rich.

Perfect match in my book :)