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'Dad pays us so we don't have to work some crap job at McDonald's'


At one point early on in this film (which I thought was a good film, if not great), Rusty Borgens says his dad pays him and his sister to write in their journals so that they can concentrate on their writing, and not "have to work some crap job at McDonalds."
But isn't that the point of working those kinds of jobs? To gain life experience, and to give you a greater appreciation for what you have when you eventually move on from those jobs, and also to gain a better understanding for what it's like to not have much money and to struggle in life?


Todd

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Yep. It kind of bugged me because that was how i put myself through school. It must be nice that the writer feels it necessary to put down people who get an honest job and thinks it is better to have daddy pay them for their hobby. No wonder the kid smokes weed. He has no concept of getting up early, going to work and learning that money doesn't grow on trees. The only thing i can think of is that the character comes from an upper class household so that may be the way upper class people think about those that work at McDonalds. Talk about feeling entitled! I though the movie was okay. It was nice to see Jennifer Connelly actually show some type of emotion. That woman is becoming as boring as watching paint dry and i used to be a fan of hers.

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You worked to put yourself through high school? I worked through high school, but it was to pay for gas for my car, clothes, and save for college. There weren't a whole lot of expenses going to public high school...

Also, school started at 8 a.m. for us, so there was no "getting up early" to go to work before high school classes began. I worked after school let out.

I understand your point, but at the same time, I think it's nice when parents are able and willing to let their kids focus on studies (in the case of the daughter going to college). I refused help from my middle class family in college, worked, and my studies suffered for it (especially after I tried to juggle a FT course load with a FT job at a newspaper). So even though it taught me a tremendous amount about financial management, multitasking, balancing my responsibilities, etc., it was also a great stress for me while away at college. If I had kids, I'd want to give them every opportunity to focus on their studies. In the end, William's kids are getting a jumpstart on their careers (writing) instead of toiling away at McDonald's. (The most working at McDonald's did for me was teach me that fast food is incredible hard work, and we should always, always, always be courteous to people in the industry.)

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If you read my post carefully i clearly wrote "I put myself through school" no where did i say high school! I paid about 90% of my own tuition at UVA. Yes i also worked while going to high school too but it was to save up for college.

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So who paid for the rest?

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I think most people are missing the point here, anyway. Can't anyone else hear the (MAJOR) irony alarm blaring in the background? Great artists are NEVER the type whose "daddy pays them so they don't have to deal [with those pesky little life problems]." In fact, they're usually people who been immersed in it - warts and all - to the point of misery.

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I dont think ill of people woi work at McDonald's. I waitressed for several years, but writung is a real job! If you are good enough to make a livung at it you should be proud. Its also a duffucl job.

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There have been many people who have found success in life from the training discipline at McDonald's. I am sorry I don't recall the TV special that dealt with this issue. For a teen, it was doing that or babysitting/lawn work.

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Wow! Did you really spell that word like that? Such ingenuity.

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Lol

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When I worked at McDonalds during high school in the 80s, there were parents who felt it reflected poorly on them that they had a child working there and made them quit. My parents had no such worries.

Probably the biggest motivator in my life was having to work jobs I didn't like. And McDonalds was certainly one of those jobs. As a result, I kept striving and besides getting better pay, I really don't mind going to work.

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Kreippiman: Are you kidding? If YOU don't want to eat unhealthy food that is your choice, as it is the choice of millions world wide to eat at McDonalds. Now if a person is irretrievably stupid, then they can choose to eat fast food too much and gain weight. Again, THEIR CHOICE!

Yep, that's what freedom means. People are FREE to go to school, earn a degree and become whatever they choose to be...sometimes that choice is funded by businesses who sell products deemed unhealthy by judgemental turds like you i.e. McDonalds, Taco Bell Burger king, Pizza Hut or hell even pole dancing or prostitution! Some finance their education by waitressing, clerical work and other "respectable" jobs, IF they can find them.

Make no mistake - with or with out McDonalds there would be hormone induced cattle and battery chickens! It's supply and demand, basic business.

YOU don't like it? DON'T EAT IT! But don't try to preach anyone else out of bettering their lives by having a paying job or enjoying an occasional freaking Big Mac!

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McDonalds is evil cause they make delicious cheap food!!!

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Delicious? It's salty and tolerable, but I'd hardly call it delicious. Well, except when you get that perfect batch of fries.

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Oh dear please save me from libertarians. And a shrieking one too.

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All of the people in this thread agreeing with you and patting you on the back are wrong, and so are you Todd. Rusty's character was not putting down the workers. In fact, he was putting down the job itself, because it is a crappy job. I know it's easy to think that working such a job is going to make you gain more life experience and appreciation in some areas, but honestly, that is a pitfall created by the more elitist jerks who are telling you that you should appreciate every single penny that comes you're way because not only did you not really earn that penny, you don't earn anything else. All the while those same jerks are the ones who have been coaxing on the capitol of said McDonalds workers by exploiting their need for a job and the minimum wage.

I think it's a shame that you saw Rusty's line as elitist and a slam on McDonald's workers.

Let's be friends!

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Takashi kupo--

What I am about to say you need to know is delivered with the sincerest respect and without the least amount of sarcasm. (I feel it is important to say this because on the Internet it can be difficult to understand how a comment is meant to be taken, as I'm sure you'll agree).
When I came back to this topic today to see if anyone else had replied, I saw your name and avatar and felt very honored that you would reply to one of my topics.
I've been reading your comments on the Politics board for quite some time and have always been impressed with the depth of your replies, even if I don't always agree with you. I don't spend a lot of time actually posting on the Politics board, because I find most of the folks on that board are hyper-partisan, rather restricted in their views (whether they're "LIB" or "CON"), and rude. You, however, have always struck me as civil and well-informed. So I am truly honored that you would reply to me.
But I don't entirely agree with you in this case. However, before we explore this issue, let me give you some background information on me so you can better understand where I'm coming from.
While I don't consider myself Democrat or Republican, I've been leaning more heavily Democrat as of late. I voted for John Kerry in 2004 and Obama in 2008 and 2012. I am a public servant (USDA) and have been a union member since 2001. I am currently the vice president of my Local, which covers the entire state for the specialty I am employed in. I have filed or given information for a number of grievances, one of which led to a nationwide disbursement of millions of dollars of backpay to affected workers in my specialty who were denied compensation for donning and doffing activities.
Like you, I believe in the value of an education; I possess two undergraduate degrees, both in the humanities.
So, you see, I am not your enemy and I think you and I would agree on many things.
Now, for the issue at hand:
I did take Rusty's comment as elitist, and I still do. During my college years (and after) I've met too many people who look down on fast-food jobs and many other types of "menial" jobs, and look down on the workers who take those jobs, and reply, when asked if they themselves would ever work those jobs, say things like "No I wouldn't, because that's not what I went to college for."
People like that, no matter how educated, should, in my humble opinion, be given a shovel, thrown in a ditch, and worked like a dog until that snarky attitude is eliminated (okay, I exaggerate, somewhat).
I feel that Rusty Borgens is one of those people.
To your point about McDonalds workers being underpaid-- I actually agree with you.
As the U.S. economy moves more and more towards low-paying service sector jobs and with more traditional higher-paying jobs disappearing (think manufacturing) as well as lower- and middle-class workers' wages declining overall, I definitely think that fast-food workers should make more than seven or eight dollars an hour. These are no longer just temporary jobs for teenagers anymore. Many people have no choice but to make a living at these jobs, and if these types of service sector jobs are the future (including the retail sector outside of food), then people need to be paid more. I'm not sure $15/hour is the answer, but it definitely needs to be higher than the seven or eight dollars most people make now.
The problem is bigger than McDonalds (I think it's unfair to single out that company exclusively); it's the entire service sector economy. And the fact is, this "exploitation" that's occurring is happening because our society has failed to adequately address this issue; it's happening at least in part because we as a society are allowing it to happen. People have to become upset with the status quo in order for things to change, Takashi.
But there is another issue here. Even if we raise wages in these jobs significantly, I suspect there are many people out there-- and I think the Rusty Borgens character is one of them--who still won't work those jobs because they'll still think those jobs are "crap" jobs that are beneath them.
In other words, elitism. And elitism affects people of all political persuasions in this country; it's part of a long-evolving negative cultural shift in views towards "menial" work.
And for those people, money isn't going to fix the problem.
And, as I said Takashi, Rusty is one of those people.
At any rate, Takashi, I greatly appreciate your replying to my topic and again, I am honored.
Sincerely,

Todd

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He wasn't putting the employees down, but the job itself.

They were serious writers. The dad exchanged a part time job with writing.

It was basically like parents who say their kid can live with them rent free, as long as they go to college.

The dad was just helping them in a career, as opposed to a meaningless fast food job that didn't help his kids grow as writers.

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FooserX--

Thank you for your reply.
I think where you and I disagree is that I don't think a fast food job (or other "menial" job, for that matter) is "meaningless".


Todd

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lol well those jobs certainly aren't jobs that require a lot of thought.

They pay minimum wage.

And salaries = how many people can do that job.

Example:

Jobs that pay minimum wage are jobs that anyone can do. No training, or special skills, etc.

Jobs that pay maybe...$35k a year are a step above that.

Surgeons who get paid 100's of thousands of dollars a year get paid that because they are highly skilled, and there are not a lot of people in this world who have the drive and discipline to go to school for that.

And athletes get paid millions because there are millions of other kids out there who play sports, yet only .0001% ever make it to the highest level. Not a lot of people can do what they do.

So...yeah...fast food workers may not work in meaningless jobs, but they are brainless and very basic compared to the characters in this movie.

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I agree that anyone can do those types of jobs, but that doesn't mean that they do them well. I worked at Pizza Hut for 9 years (high school, college, and after college for awhile) and I will tell you that it DOES require a decent amount of thought to perform these types of jobs well.

During your busier hours, you have to have strategize and make good decisions. There were plenty of times that you have to juggle several things at once -- helping customers, making their orders, checking inventory and replenishing when necessary. There were plenty of people who could not handle the job and had to quit after a few weeks or months.

So I would not consider these types of jobs to be "brainless." No, you don't need a degree and you learn everything on the job but it definitely requires a certain skill set to be able to actually succeed and provide good service.

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I know that there's an entire warfare discussion when it comes to what teenagers should be spending their time with. I should start by saying that I'm very liberal fiscally, and I support a high minimum wage and worker's rights.

While it may sound pompous to say this, studies have showed that with menial labor jobs (like McDonalds or cleaning houses), you pretty much learn everything that you need to know, and that will be transferable to other jobs on the first day. So really, if you're working there for your years, you're not any more employable than you were after orientation. Working jobs where you're an educated professional allow you to see the big picture, manage, make decisions, and be creative. And those jobs are transferable to other industries, and every additional hour of work helps your career.

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While it may sound pompous to say this, studies have showed that with menial labor jobs (like McDonalds or cleaning houses), you pretty much learn everything that you need to know, and that will be transferable to other jobs on the first day. So really, if you're working there for your years, you're not any more employable than you were after orientation. Working jobs where you're an educated professional allow you to see the big picture, manage, make decisions, and be creative. And those jobs are transferable to other industries, and every additional hour of work helps your career.


I sometimes wonder how people can have such different ideas and way of thinking than myself.

I'm not surprised that you describe yourself as, "very liberal fiscally".

Yes, it does sound pompous of you. There's always something to learn from any job. And it's where and how you learn so many of life's little lessons, and develop good working habits that will last into your professional life. You learn that the kid who sweeps while waiting for the truck to arrive gets more hours, the stock-boy who says, "I don't know, but let me find out for you", gets a promotion, and the girl who smiles at the customers while working the register gets a raise because some of them told the store owner.

There are so many little things that you learn from any job, not just as an, "educated professional".

You sound like you've either lived a privileged and sheltered life, or you're part of an entrenched union family, who have no idea how most people live.

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Although the wording was a bit iffy, the premise of it didn't bother me. Rewarding your kids to do something productive that will boost their chances of heading down a desirable career path isn't a bad thing. It's actually pretty clever.

As for working in McDonald's (or similar places), let's not sugar coat it. The pay sucks and the experience is most likely going to suck. Every time I've gone into such a place, the staff look miserable, and who could blame them. Few will dispute that it isn't a *beep* bottom rung job. Do you need to work a *beep* job to gain life experience and an appreciation of better jobs? *beep* no. If anything the McDonald's experience could be proverbially toxic and actually destroy self esteem, leading to damaging consequences down the line.

Bottom line is the dad in this movie made a smart move. I'd do the same in his shoes. Don't take it personally.

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You can think hes right or wrong in the situation the step father obviously didn't agree with it, that wasn't the point of the scene. The point of the scene was he was not going to let him down talk his father

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I thought the same thing but it showed his control freakness

Perhaps our greatest cruelty is our blindness to the despair of others.

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