MovieChat Forums > The Comedian (2017) Discussion > Does the age difference bother you?

Does the age difference bother you?

posted 8 years ago by drtrance2003
5 replies | jump to latest

I ask this question because I feel america is very ageist. I am a 38 year old dating a 25 year old, when I was 35 I had a couple dates with a 19 year old. I have almost always dated quite younger then me, and every so often I get some rude or smart remark about me being a perv... Even some of my family (brother, cousins, aunts) talk trash.

Am I in the wrong here? I really don't see the problem here as long as the other person is of legal age and wants to be with you.

[–] draw013 8 years ago

I don't necessarily think it's wrong, but I have to say that when I see an age gap like that I assume the guy is rich/ a creeper and the girl is immature. A 19 year old is barely an adult and generally hasn't had the life experience to know what they really want. I also think that an older person who "clicks" with someone that much younger is probably immature themselves. Half your age plus seven is a good rule to abide by

[–] Grimm-Grimm 8 years ago

I think it may depend on where you are from and who your around. My friend who is 40 is with a 20 year old. They just had a baby. Another one 40 is always dating beautiful girls as young as that. None are rich. In the city here, no one really cares. Family might say she's a little young. But that's all. I'm the same age as you and I've dated 15 yrs younger then me, and 15yrs older too! People always think I'm 27 or so. I'm just like many people who are young at heart and do music and art.

Their's another thread about a girl who's best friend is always talking bad about the guy she's dating who is divorced and has kids. If it's just your family bothering you, and a rare comment, I'd say it can be a lot worse. If they weren't criticizing you for that, would it be something else? If your a good matching couple and you believe in it, the rest doesn't matter.

[–] max-217 8 years ago

No.

[–] cashmccall 8 years ago

People who have a problem with older men younger women are prisoners of an ancient biological and evolutionary directive emanating from deep in their reptilian brain that tells them to act when they see a human coupling that may put the species in danger because the male partner may die before the baby is mature and can defend itself. This cross era directive was once necessary, say around 10,000 BC, but is no longer applicable in the 21st century. Over population and loneliness is a bigger problem. You should be happy for any couple at any age if they are happier together. The same holds true for people who freak over same sex couples or mixed race couples, they're all a bunch of neanderthals.

[–] RoyWilliamsbeatsCoachK 8 years ago

Actually old men with young women is hardly "progressive." For thousands of years you have old powerful men with young women, some very young. I would hardly compare it to same sex marriage which has just been recently accepted by society.