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What's wrong with sex addiction?


Just wondering.

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The same thing that's wrong with any addiction: it destroys lives.

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Why does it destroy lives? If you're happy having sex, it should make your life better.

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I would seriously advise you to watch Shame. That film shows how sex addiction can destroy a person's life and give them intimacy issues.

It's an ordinary high school day. Except that it's not.

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It's funny how to help someone understand what this movie is about, you have to recommend a different movie to them.

That speaks volumes about the failure of this movie.

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There is having the kind of sex that makes your life better, say with a loving partner or if a person is single then perhaps weekend flings with consenting adults, whatever floats your boat ...

But then there is having a sex addiction that makes your life far worse. Take the doctor guy for example ... his sex addiction had him rubbing his pecker up against strangers on the subway and taking up-skirt videos of his co-workers. When he got busted he lost his job, essentially ruining his life as he knew it ...

... That fist example is healthy and is indeed part of a happy lifestyle, no problems ... But that second example is creepy and sad and is the result of ones inability to control their urges, hence the word addiction.

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Having a healthy sex life is one thing, but sexual addition is another thing altogether. There are actually treatment programs for sex addicts; Michael Douglas and David Duchovny have both been in them.

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It destroys relationships, families and careers like a substance addiction. There's nothing wrong with liking sex, it's when you use it as a escape from reality it becomes a problem.

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On top of what others have said, you're more likely to take risks in order to have sex despite the cost (literally and figuratively). Common sense also takes a back seat and you may not bother using condoms or think about who your partner(s) are

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Yeah but we all got to go someday so why not end it doing something that you love? As long as you're not greasing your knob in public, what's the big deal? I saw SHAME and I thought he just needed another hobby to balance things out.

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An addiction is something you don't have control over, so you're willing to sacrifice both your's and others' well being for your addiction. The thing in and of itself doesn't have to be harmful, it's the addiction that is. If you don't understand that then stop asking.

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D -. Must troll harder.

Expiration dates are mere suggestions! Like late fees and traffic lights.

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Nice helpful response. With compassion like you have, I am guessing you are a school counselor.

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My favorite talk show host Charles "Karel" Bouley is part comedian as he mixes ironic and witty sarcasm with his discussions and he has talked a lot about "sex addiction" especially how it relates to certain celebrities like Tiger Woods. He says "there is no such thing as sex addiction, it is called BEING A MAN" its very funny.

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I am guessing he is a slow student who is KNOWN to a school counselor.

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I you really want to know, find a site for sex addicts and read their stories, then you will understand.

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Links or didn't happen.

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Well I mean if you want to think about it in a unique perspective I mean totally place yourself "Beyond good and evil" so to speak," you could look at it from the perspective of it being bad in a qualitative sense. That is,the people with sex addictions don't know how to have sex very well, and they continuously wreak their unenjoyable sex moves on more and more people. I mean, can you imagine having sex with a sex addict, someone who does it so often it's like putting on a pair of shoes? There must be no enjoyment, no passion or lust, at that point it must be pure rote. I know people like to "stigmatize" sex addiction as a moral/psychological pathology, but there's a time to think differently in our culture, to throw away old morees and what have you, and truly analyze the experience for what it is.

Alternatively, people often complain about sex addicts being the bad ones, as if they're the aggressors, but what of the emotionally fragile and spurious partners who depend on another person's sex addiction for sex? That subset of people who are always waiting for the wind to blow with a box of kleenex at their side ready to tear into it when the storm of passion dies down. "Why do I always let these things happen to me!" they lament. "A nice man {or woman} shows herself to me and I know deep below it can't be true romance but I've got to do it anyway, it's all I've got!"

You get the picture folks. Change the channel. "Expand" your mind!

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Sex addiction is a disease (asam.org), it is not a moral dilemma. It results impaired thinking, little regard for consequences, loss of control, disability, and even premature death.

Sex, gambling, over eating, alcohol, drugs, it's all the same. Addiction is addiction.

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Watch the movie :D

''They are shaping me into something gaudy. Something lethal.''

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Nothing is wrong with it.

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There's nothing wrong with it. There's nothing wrong with Santa Claus either. They don't exist.

-- You're going on after Crispy Ambulance! --

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The men and women who go to these meetings are addicts with a genuine, life shattering problem. Addiction to any substance has the potential to destroy a persons life, and sex addiction is no different.

In fact, sex addiction is harder to control than a narcotics addiction, or a booze problem, because our society is infatuated with sex.

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