Just wondering.....
Could someone give me a description on what this film is about
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It's basically about a group of people who are addicted to sex. It stars out as a comedy and then goes all serious.
The irony is that there is no such thing as 'sex addiction'.
There is nothing wrong with having an insatiable appetite for sex just as there isn't anything wrong with having no interest in sex. The film is ridiculous and an insult to the intelligence.
It's simply probably the most dreadful film I have had the misfortune of seeing this year.
Your reply and point of view that there is not such thing as 'sex addiction' is an insult to intelligence.
If you ever have time to actually investigate what sex addiction is you would see why you are wrong.
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Sounds so stupid. Sex addiction doesn't exist. Human beings are naturally sexual creatures, nothing wrong with it.
shareHuman naturally drink alcohol and yet can get addicted to it.
Food is pretty damn natural too, and there is food addictions.
It is natural, yes. Losing your family, friends, relationships, money, because you put sex as a priority to everything in your life (like drug addicts do to drug, and alcoholics do to alcohol) then yes, it is an addiction.
I understand that I won't change your mind if you believe that, but try and keep an open mind and not say it's stupid. There are people out there struggling with it (I have seen it), and statements like yours only makes it harder for them to seek help.
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Addiction is a word that is thrown around way too much, and 9 times out of 10 it's inappropriate and damaging to the individual who is saddled with the classification. The problem stems from the ubiquitous acceptance of the 12-step recovery programs' definition/criteria. Basically, everyone is an "addict" in their eyes and they've fooled the courts and other authorities into asking for their input when there is a question of whether someone might be addicted to something and may benefit from treatment. I won't get too involved here except to say that unless you physically cannot function in the absence of your vice of choice, then you are not [u]truly[/u] addicted. No. Instead what you are is weak. I don't mean irreparably weak or even weak all of the time, but weak in self-esteem. Weak in will to make change because of a loss of hope. Self-medicating with whatever it is that might give you a moment's relief from the pain/confusion/sadness/fear/(etc.) that you're feeling at the time. What is needed is a self inventory and a truly objective viewpoint that is strong enough to give your will the boost it needs to finally make a change. To finally say, "I'm better than this. I'm not going to live like this anymore," and to stand with that statement because you truly believe it, allowing you to assess your current situation and take steps to improve it. The "addiction" that 12 steppers talk about being incurable absolutely IS curable. Believing the lie that it isn't is the only thing that makes it true. Everyone can overcome an addiction--even the ones that are REAL physical addictions (they just require a period of recovery in order to start fresh). All it takes is the desire, the diagnosis (of whatever psychological/spiritual/emotional hole it is that the "addict" is trying to fill), and the will to face the fear of a life without their vice to shield them from whatever they're afraid of. A Eureka moment can be more effective than a lifetime of AA/NA meetings. It's time to stop lying to people about the inability to cure themselves of whatever it is that's doing them harm. The only thing that strategy accomplishes is guaranteed and accepted failure... but you can always "Start Over" with your one day chip if you want. So many things wrong with our accepted definition of addiction that it makes me sick.
shareAddiction is a word that is thrown around way too much, and 9 times out of 10 it's inappropriate and damaging to the individual who is saddled with the classification. The problem stems from the ubiquitous acceptance of the 12-step recovery programs' definition/criteria. Basically, everyone is an "addict" in their eyes and they've fooled the courts and other authorities into asking for their input when there is a question of whether someone might be addicted to something and may benefit from treatment. I won't get too involved here except to say that unless you physically cannot function in the absence of your vice of choice, then you are not [u]truly[/u] addicted. No. Instead what you are is weak. I don't mean irreparably weak or even weak all of the time, but weak in self-esteem. Weak in will to make change because of a loss of hope. Self-medicating with whatever it is that might give you a moment's relief from the pain/confusion/sadness/fear/(etc.) that you're feeling at the time. What is needed is a self inventory and a truly objective viewpoint that is strong enough to give your will the boost it needs to finally make a change. To finally say, "I'm better than this. I'm not going to live like this anymore," and to stand with that statement because you truly believe it, allowing you to assess your current situation and take steps to improve it. The "addiction" that 12 steppers talk about being incurable absolutely IS curable. Believing the lie that it isn't is the only thing that makes it true. Everyone can overcome an addiction--even the ones that are REAL physical addictions (they just require a period of recovery in order to start fresh). All it takes is the desire, the diagnosis (of whatever psychological/spiritual/emotional hole it is that the "addict" is trying to fill), and the will to face the fear of a life without their vice to shield them from whatever they're afraid of. A Eureka moment can be more effective than a lifetime of AA/NA meetings. It's time to stop lying to people about the inability to cure themselves of whatever it is that's doing them harm. The only thing that strategy accomplishes is guaranteed and accepted failure... but you can always "Start Over" with your one day chip if you want. So many things wrong with our accepted definition of addiction that it makes me sick.
Amazingly put mate, absolutely rite abt that
it is a matter of weakness, loosing control on urself and pretending u just gotta be that way and u r a hopeless case
I was a pepsi addict, heavily but I stopped whenever I felt I could do it and failed to quit when I thought low of myself (dunno how to write it better sorry)
same goes to a lot of different things, just not that easy with heavy stuff like Coke and Heroine etc...
it just depends on how u see urself, how strong u think u r and a goal convincing enough to take that scary step to test ur ability to quit.
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Geez, one can only imagine the length of your post had you gotten "too involved" expressing your point of view. I would have more respect for your post had you prefaced it with, "in my opinion". For one to pontificate and write so authoritatively, I assume you are either a doctor, social worker, addiction specialist or have personally suffered from an addiction. I would be surprised to learn you had ever attended any type of 12 step meeting . There is nothing in your post to indicate any time spent studying addiction instead you merely offer an opinion on a subject you seem unqualified to address. As the study of addiction is quite broad, most specialists choose to address a specific addiction when speaking as opposed to making blanket statements. I will only address alcoholism-as defined by the AMA. The decision to declare alcoholism a disease was not made by AA but rather the AMA. I suppose it's good to know that The American Medical Association, which declared alcoholism an illness in the 1950's and further a physical and mental disease over 20 years ago was wrong all-along. Perhaps you will be so kind and consider sharing your copious amounts of research with the AMA so that they could immediately revise their opinion as Applejackjackjack has declared that addiction is a weakness and people suffering from addiction merely have a deficit of willpower.
Additionally, in my opinion, you don't seem to understand why the disease is considered, "incurable". I would ask you to consider doing some actual research on the definition of that term as it applies to addiction.
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You have no idea what you're talking about. I'm sure that hasn't stopped you in the past, and I'm sure it won't stop you in the future.
shareI don't think you watched the film properly and for that reason you didn't understand it either.
So do you believe, recording women's private parts without them knowing. Continuously masturbating and then getting prostitutes when you can't have sex. Having sex outside marriage and abuse is ok?
Then... that is the reason why you didn't understand the premise of the film because you weren't in tune with the morals needed to understand abuse which the film presented.
I don't have a problem with them calling it an addiction, what I can't accept is calling it a 'disease'. Unless the CDC or some such institution can show the pathogen (the little bugger floating in your system) that causes the behavior, then, to me, it's just a weakness of character.
shareThe word "disease" may be a big part of the discussion, because it can be clouding underlying issues.
With drug and food addictions, connections in the human brain (both structural and chemical) have been found. In a psychology experiment with rats, an electrical conductor was surgically wired into the "pleasure center" of their brain. That was then connected to a button in the rat cage that could be operated by the rat.
It didn't require much time before each of the rats tested this way discovered the button, and were dead within days. They died of dehydration/starvation, because they continued to repeatedly and continuously press that 'pleasure button' to the exclusion of all other activities, including eating, drinking, mating, and sleeping.
So, if there is a 'bad connection' in a brain that does some similar rewiring due to injury, infection, parasites, or birth defects, does that meet the more narrow definition of "disease"?
While organic conditions in a person's brain can be explained as one cause, other mental illness issues can certainly be present as well. Mistreatment at young ages can, and does, have a pretty clearly defined effect on children, (think of the case of sexually abused children growing up to do the same thing). In the movie, I would certainly suspect the girl 'Becky' had "Daddy issues", and probably suffered from sexual abuse/rape as a child.
(I could be mistaken, but her behavior seemed to surprise Adam, even though there was some history between them. He, (and I), thought that was 'role playing' at first, but it went much father than that, and into something much darker. What they did before was 'years' prior to what was in the movie, and presumably got much worse, or developed in that time interval.)
Anyone want to throw in something about the "Fifty Shades Of Grey" movie that begins showing in the USA tomorrow (Friday)?
In at least one large metropolitan area, the Fire Department is providing material for the TV News, regarding that movie, and I would guess the subject will be how bondage and choking can be dangerous, and even fatal...
Please do your research before making statements that harm people who desperately need help. How do I know you haven't done your research on sex addiction? Because if you had, you would know that it is a disease of the mind and body. Look at the studies!
share"sex addiction" a "disease" like homosexuality, yes?
ask yourself how much of this "disease" is religiously indoctrinated shame? if you'd look at sex as a fun, enjoyable, positive experience in or out of a relationship and as entertainment (porn) I'm guessing you'd have far less "issues"
today we know that gays didn't commit suicide because of the "disease" that is homosexuality, it's because of the indoctrinated shame, guilt and fear instilled in them by religion and society at the time