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Daphne saying its not HARD, just DIFFERENT


Completely disagree. It's great that she has adjusted very well to her deafness but she can't go so far as to say that it wasn't hard to deal with all the issues she has had to overcome. What Mingo said to her came across as a little harsh but those things were true.

Also, how can she go push her brother into being OK with a baby who has Downs considering his relationship with Lily was rocky, he is 20, without a degree and has an unstable career. Having a disabled child is different, but it is undoubtedly more difficult to raise them and there is no denying that their disability will be deeply saddening to a parent at some level forever. That's not to say you don't love that child as any other, of course you do, maybe you even love them more, but her whole argument saying it isn't sad or difficult to deal with it is something I didn't agree with at all.

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Completely agree. Even Lily described her entire childhood as having revolved around her brother. It disturbs me that Daphne takes Toby's desire to abort as a comment on her. Deaf; Down's. No comparison.


"When you think of garbage, think of Akeem!"

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Well, to be fair, Daphne does think that the entire world revolved around her. It's a logical conclusion for her to jump to, even though it's perfectly ludicrous to everyone else.

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Daphne may have been wrong but she's one of the most selfless characters on the show.

When the stars are the only things we share
Will you be there?


-Benjamin Francis Leftwich

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Aww, you're so precious. You're constantly trying to make me laugh. That's so sweet of you. :'3

Also, no.

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I agree with you in this: FelixFelicis.
The whole it's only different, is some PC BS in my opinion.
If a guy is in a wheelchair, it is harder for him to get up a to the second floor, if there isn't an elevator, the it is for one not in a wheelchair.
Said another way, my cuisine has a bad leg, because of a bum knee, so for him it's not different to walk up a flight of stairs, but harder. Even when the serie shows it when Daphne is working in the kitchen, and she has to have the Mirror installed so she can see her chef, or she has to have a interpreter, and Pre-class notes.
But when is harder been, a bad thing.
Once I couldn't read very good, and it was harder for me to pass a class then my fellow students. But I believe that, that it what gave me a inner strength to work harder, and I'm now close to Complete law school.

Everyone keeps saying i'm paranoid, it must be a conspiracy.

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I agree with you in this: FelixFelicis.
The whole it's only different, is some PC BS in my opinion.
If a guy is in a wheelchair, it is harder for him to get up a to the second floor, if there isn't an elevator, the it is for one not in a wheelchair.
Said another way, my cuisine has a bad leg, because of a bum knee, so for him it's not different to walk up a flight of stairs, but harder. Even when the serie shows it when Daphne is working in the kitchen, and she has to have the Mirror installed so she can see her chef, or she has to have a interpreter, and Pre-class notes.
But when is harder been, a bad thing.
Once I couldn't read very good, and it was harder for me to pass a class then my fellow students. But I believe that, that it what gave me a inner strength to work harder, and I'm now close to Complete law school.


I don't think Daphne was saying that certain tasks are not more difficult when a person is Deaf. Heck, when Emmett was preparing to go to USC, Melody took him aside and told him that film school would be harder for him than anyone else at that school, because he is Deaf.

Every character on the show talks about how much harder some things are because a person is Deaf.

What Daphne was saying to Mingo, in that one episode, is that LIFE is not harder. It's just different.

And the meaning I take from Daphne's statement is that YES, certain tasks are harder because a person is Deaf, but other tasks are easier, and overall, being Deaf simply makes for a different experience in life.

Are you aware of the blind artist Sargy Mann? Here's a quote from his son:

“I have always had a frustration in that people love his paintings but they don’t understand what is to me the most interesting thing,” Peter said. “There was always the slightly patronizing ‘isn’t it amazing he can do this and he is blind’. What is MORE interesting was the fact that he could ONLY do this because he was blind.”

His life and his words are fascinating. It's well worth looking into his perspective on the world. Here's another quote from his son:

“Dad didn’t judge the world with a lot of preconceived ideas,” he says. “It was that attitude that allowed him to carry on and to see the value of what his blindness revealed. And that’s what he wanted to share.”

Here is a quote from Sargy Mann's obituary last year:

He felt that his blindness had liberated him as an artist, giving him “the freedom, the courage, perhaps, to use color more daringly and expressively [and] to engage more closely with my subject”. His Cadaque paintings were exhibited at a one-man show in 2010 at the Cadogan Contemporary gallery in Chelsea (the first of four during his blind period), where they sold for healthy four and five figure sums. Some connoisseurs considered his later paintings, many of them portraits, to be his best work. In 2013 his See the Girl with the Red Dress On featured as one of a set of six United Nations postage stamps.

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