If you are both healthy, bareback is fine
If both people are healthy, there is no need to wear a condom to protect yourself from STD's. There are no STD's there to begin with, and thus no transmission can occur.
shareSure but you can't take their word for it because 1. Some people will lie, and 2. There is a chance you have something and don't know it yet.
If you are in a monogamous relationship and haven't had sex with someone else for the last 6 months and have gotten yourself tested, then it should be pretty safe to stop using it.
I've heard some people say they would never stop using one even in a monogamous relationship because there is always a chance the other one would cheat. Personally I could not live like that. Every time you have sex with the person with a condom it's pretty much sending the message that you don't trust him/her.
Instead of looking at it like that: ("Every time you have sex with the person with a condom it's pretty much sending the message that you don't trust him/her")...why not look at it like this: I respect you (and myself) enough to use protection...each and every time. Not because I don't trust you, but because I want our passion for one another to nurture us instead of bring suspicion and harm.
share"Looking at it that way" doesn't change the fact that the root of it is not trusting your lover.
I'm sorry but I can settle for using a condom for one night stands (which does decrease the pleasure, lets not lie) but never ever being able to have sex with my boyfriend/husband without having a piece of latex separating us is something I just can't imagine doing.
We all have different levels of safety standards and often we put our safety into the hands of others. There is a point where you are being safe but there also becomes a point where you are sacrificing too much for it and it's borderline paranoia. Allowing yourself to have unprotected sex with your lover, although possible to end badly, is hardly high risk behavior.
"Looking at it that way" doesn't change the fact that the root of it is not trusting your lover.
I'm sorry but I can settle for using a condom for one night stands (which does decrease the pleasure, lets not lie) but never ever being able to have sex with my boyfriend/husband without having a piece of latex separating us is something I just can't imagine doing.
We all have different levels of safety standards and often we put our safety into the hands of others. There is a point where you are being safe but there also becomes a point where you are sacrificing too much for it and it's borderline paranoia. Allowing yourself to have unprotected sex with your lover, although possible to end badly, is hardly high risk behavior. If I can't trust my lover then that's it, no ground for relationship anymore.
No need to apologize for defending your point of view. I'm just one of those who doesn't find that using a condom decreases my pleasure (in any measurable ratio against what I gain from using one) and who also doesn't equate using one (even within a long-term relationship) as a form of distrust. I was also just saying that I've found that the practice of committing to using a condom can mitigate the possibility of unwarranted mistrust and actually increase the intimacy between partners.
would you be saying this to a female/male couple as well to wear condoms at all times?? you do realise straight people have hiv and infact nearly more than gay people so theres more or less the same chance of catching something from a straight person than a gay person?
PLUS straight people only go get checked up if they show symptoms of something maybe a itch etc etc its rare they go for check ups regular on the off chance
And no matter how nice you say what you said...its still the same thing...you do not trust them to not sleep around so really you need to be single if you don't trust them
That's nonsense.
Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men of all races and ethnicities remain the population most profoundly affected by HIV.
Although gay/bi men represent about 4% of the male population in the United States, in 2010, men who have sex with men accounted for 78% of new HIV infections among males and 63% of all new infections. Gay/bi men accounted for 52% of all people living with HIV infection in 2009.
http://www.aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/hiv-aids-101/statistics/
Every time you have sex with the person with a condom it's pretty much sending the message that you don't trust him/her.
Good luck with your partner. Let's hope he/she doesn't cheat on you. But don't be surprised if one day, you get an STD. share
Worth the risk.
Yes it is possible to be cheated on and get HIV. But its still unlikely.
But yeah none of us take the safest possible option in every aspect of life. ALL of us to some degree sacrifice safety for things like comfort or pleasure. Some more than others, but we all do it up to a point.
Most people do something more dangerous in their life than not using a condom in a monogamous relationship.
And to be honest I'm quite tired of being expected to use a condom every single time I have sex for the rest of my life just because I'm gay. Like 90% of heterosexual couples will not use a condom if the woman is on the pill or either one has had their tubes tied. In those cases it's even quite common in one night stands since most heteros are mainly thinking of avoiding pregnancy rather than STD's.
I do take more precaution in my sex life than most heteros I know. The reason being that I am a part of a risk group. But there also comes a point where enough is enough. Like indirectly accusing your spouse of being unfaithful every time you make love.