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Ellis was a stalker, and was extremely creepy.

posted 9 years ago by chasingit
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I'm sorry, but his behavior ruined this whole thing for me.

First, he tracks her down because he sees her reading on the steps which tips him off to her place of employment. This is excusable, he saw a pretty girl & had a crush. But then he neglects to tell her that he saw her reading until he has her alone, in his apartment. He then goes in for a kiss, even though she's clearly telling him no (RED FLAG), which he justifies by telling her to "let go" (ugh).

Following them sleeping together, she takes some space, which he should have respected. Instead, he gets her ADDRESS from the library, and shows up unannounced at her apartment. Wow! If a guy did this to me, I would be terrified.

But no, Adaline, who is supposedly intelligent, goes to meet his PARENTS after only knowing him for a very short amount of time, at which point he confesses his love for her. She freaks out, flees, and he has a psychotic episode and jets off behind her after telling his Dad that he can't imagine life without her (i don't think those were his exact words, but they were something like that - not okay if you've only known someone for a short amount of time). If I were his Dad, I would be seriously concerned about my child's sanity.

THIS ALL IS SO CREEPY.

I get that Adaline needed a stage five clinger or else she would've just ran away without resistance, but jesus. This guy would have had me filing a restraining order.

Sorry, I just needed to rant. I feel like this movie is terrible for young girls to watch (which I'm sure Blake Lively's fan base large consists of). If any young fans are reading this, please do not pick a person that acts this way.

[–] jayjayjoop 8 years ago

Agree completely. I was so creeped out by him getting her address from her job. I also have never liked that actor so that added to his yuck factor.

[–] AylaMM 8 years ago

I thought this too. He was outrageously obsessive and possessive from the get-go, despite not even knowing her at all. Just based on seeing her, he decided "I must have her", giving her all sorts of unsolicited and unwelcome attention, stalking her, literally CHASING her. Insanely predatorial.

I don't get the people claiming "it's okay" or "women like it" or whatever the hell they're trying to suggest. They must be absolutely insane.

If an attractive man were to do this to me, I'd be extremely terrified, because that man is probably used to getting what he wants.

[–] ricky_says_hi 8 years ago

I thought he was okay on the first watch but on the second I completely agree. He was probably meant to come across as endearingly romantic - but pretty much everything he did was stalky. The romance felt creepy because most of their meetings came from Ellis tracking her down and pursuing her. And the thing is that Adaline rebuffs him several times - and he still won't take no for an answer.

The movie's main flaw (despite still being good) is that it tries to present her and Ellis as some kind of great romance when they've only just met. Had it skipped ahead to them having been together for a while then maybe it would feel more natural. But Ellis just felt desperate, possessive and creepy. Part of the fault is Michiel Huisman's performance. He's trying way too hard to make Ellis seem cute and it's definitely not his thing.

[–] gcarras 8 years ago

I'm a straight 56 year old male who loves this. But I also will admit your point: Blake's Adaline/Jenny even (when finding Michael Huisman's Ellis by her footsteps out town one night lectures him against looking for her phone #)....

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[–] blu1902 8 years ago

I agree, his persistence caused me to be disinterested in his character. She tells him repeatedly that she isn't interested but he pursues her anyways. There's ways to be romantic without being pushy.

[–] footlegger (1462) 3 years ago

All Hollywood romance movies are creepy, because the writers are mostly incels with creepy fantasies about love.

[–] punkrockgirl (1270) 2 years ago

I thought it was weird too. I feel like they didn't really work together and not because of the age difference. It didn't seem like the two had a lot of chemistry with each other. I understand that he really cared about her and that he's ultimately harmless, but getting her address to follow her was too much. It didn't make him horrible, but certainly less likeable. I was convinced of his love but the way he went overboard with his pushy nature didn't make the romance entirely work in my eyes. I felt more sorry for Ford's character, and it's probably because he put on such a good performance.

[–] Jes' Sayin' (6398) a year ago

Yes, agree that it was stalker behavior, but give it a pass because it wasn't necessary for the story to work. The writer just should have done it a bit differently.