What is so terrible about a blender for a birthday present - Rizzoli & Isles (2010) Discussion

[–] kjperes13 9 years ago

Not very romantic for your new bride so soon after a wedding...

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[–] CastlePI 9 years ago

I'm only up to S5 - but not everything has to be romantic. Perhaps she wanted a blender.

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[–] kjperes13 9 years ago

No, she didn't want a blender. ;-)

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[–] SarahKSeraSera 9 years ago

She did want a blender, just not as a birthday present. Not romantic. At least he was listening to her, it's like getting your husband hedge clippers for his birthday. He might need it and want it, but it's something you can buy on your own. More thought should be put into it. He did good the 2nd time

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[–] cosmic_surveyor 9 years ago

It does seem to be the silliest conflict created in interpersonal relationships. One would think the couple would have had a healthy discussion about finances and how the two will deal with needs and purchases. It seemed antiquated to perpetuate the notion or process where the woman states her need and the man provides. One hopes that the process has evolved.

Korsak does portray himself as old school, with little romantic blood flowing. Kiki seemed content with his deficiency. And Angela was projecting her own unfulfilled wants onto their relationship.

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[–] bab7410 8 years ago

Yes, well, lots of 'little things' don't especially get turned into 'a thing' when you're initially w/someone. I ASSURE you, the point was made accurately.

That woman did not EXPRESS her dismay at the present, however, she would have thought back in her life one day and now that is one less doubt that he cares for her - past a blender.

I presume you have not really established a deep relationship with a significant other? Because blenders don't fly given the situation. Do you want a blender on your first celebratory event? Because you know with some of you, the next time will be a bedsheet set. Which she could have gotten at Bed Bath for less anyway. Alrighty then

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[–] cosmic_surveyor 8 years ago

Because blenders don't fly given the situation.

What situation? Did the two have a whirlwind romance, having just met three weeks ago? No! They must have celebrated a number of special occasions by the time her birthday rolled up. And each time, the two would have communicated their opinions and ideas. Her birthday should have been no different. He convinced her to celebrate not at home privately, but with his buddies at his bar. One might assume he acknowledged her request for a blender.

We've never seen Korsak and Kiki's home life before and after marriage. No pillow talks. No staring silently at the TV. Without basis, there is no situation. Each woman might want different things at different times. She has Korsak listening to her. That might be enough, even if it is her birthday.

Again, it was just Angela projecting her own wants and needs on the people she can. Jane seems to be the only one who can put up resistance to her neuroses.

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[–] ScrystaLz 9 years ago

I think the only problem with a present like that is that it's not romantic...even though it's practical and useful, but typically it wouldn't make a great Valentines or Anniversary present. But if the receiver wants a blender, then I suppose there's nothing wrong with it...but if he/she doesn't want a blender, then I think it would be quite an awkward present to give someone.

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[–] creatorof2002 8 years ago

I have an old blender whose blades are gradually dulling and I very much wish I had one of those 400 dollar super powerful blenders they sell at costco that can be used to make soups and various sauces and smoothies. I have seen demos and they come with a recipe book. I technically could afford one but I have day to day expenses I have to prioritize.

I would LOVE a blender like that for my birthday LOVE IT.

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[–] ScrystaLz 8 years ago

well, if it's an expensive high-end blender then I would love to receive one as a b'day present 

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[–] lseeber-1 8 years ago

Probably because it's a brand new marriage. And hell, a really good blender is upwards of $800. I don't mind getting something practical from my husband if it's something I really want and it's not something that's for the both of us. If we NEED a new washing machine, don't get me one for my birthday because it's going to be just as much for him as me. BUT.. if I don't NEED a new washer but I see a new model with some new functions or gadgets that I would like then I might ask for one and then won't mind it as a gift.

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[–] trixie30 8 years ago

The only blenders I've seen that are in that price range are commercial ones. Most people don't need to spend that much to get a very, very good blender. Top notch home models in the $300 to $400 are, I should think, more likely what high quality blenders are to most people.

But yeah, unless the appliance is a special wish-list type item, it's not going to be the best birthday present. OTOH, our second year together my hubby got me two appliances without asking/consulting: A Braun three speed hand held mixer with (and this is what made is special for me) a stand attachment and a 3 cup mini food processor that had a cute name. As a just starting out married couple, I loved both of them after I got over my automatic "Geez, how unromantic" feeling. I still have the hand blender (no stand anymore) and moved up to a 5-1/2 cup professional Kitchen Aid about 18 years ago--this time a requested birthday present and a real splurge at several hundred $$$ (plus 2 attachments).

I don't know. I guess I have to think that because he was actually listening to her and wanted to please her, then he should get points for consideration. It's kind of like when people say your wedding day is "the most important day of your life." All the romance and presents and attention. I've always thought that it's the day after and the day after and onward that make the important days in ways both large (telling him you're pregnant, giving birth) and small (making my morning coffee exactly the way I love it, doing all the laundry--correctly, rubbing my shoulders while letting me spew out a bad day). To assume that gifts early in marriage must be romantic or they suck seems, again to me, to discount the love that might have gone into them.

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[–] lseeber-1 8 years ago

There are plenty of non-commercial ones for ridiculous prices, http://tinyurl.com/jc9m6js (the linky thing doesn't seem to be working) and they seem to be pretty popular in this age of green smoothies. I have a very good blender that cost around $125 and I think that it could puree stainless steel. But I do agree... he was listening and I think that goes a long way I wouldn't balk.
This past Christmas I got a new dishwasher, washer and dryer and I was tickled pink. But, I can say that one year, he got me a carpet cleaner and I was not terribly thrilled.

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[–] trixie30 8 years ago

I must agree about the carpet cleaner. I would have been less than pleased.

We're in the market for some new appliance this year. I've got my wish list and a strict budget, so we'll how it goes.

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[–] lseeber-1 8 years ago

Wait until November. That is when all the large appliances get marked down. We got some great deals!

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[–] tub51461 8 years ago

It's cheap and as impersonable as you can get. Women don't want that. They want something they can cherish forever. A blender doesn't cut it.

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[–] creatorof2002 8 years ago

I am a man but I would totally cherish a really good blender.

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[–] mjbossy-419-826285 8 years ago

For their first wedding anniversary my father gave my mother
a really, really nice stove range. She swore she would never
again cook for him ; had it notarized too ! I was raised on
take-away food. They are both dead now but I still have the
document ;)

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[–] fschiff 8 years ago

I don't get that.
Her hands fell off?

A really expensive mixer would be a great present for me. I'm not a blender person. I like to bake.

You're perverted, twisted, and sick. I like that in a person.

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[–] lauriegonzalez11 8 years ago

I'm a woman and I would like a nice blender better than jewelry or anything that is supposed to be "romantic" for my birthday. Anniversaries are for romance, give me stuff I want for my party!

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[–] Petals121 8 years ago

It's because it's not romantic. Romantic is getting someone a day at the spa or jewelry. It's not romantic to get someone a kitchen appliance.

"I will not be strong armed by threats against my laundry"

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[–] sakurako-718-306418 8 years ago

"Romantic" is overrated. The foundation of a good relationship is knowing your partner. And I absolutely hate it when people who like useless trinkets ruin it for the rest of us. I absolutely hate getting such presents, worthless pieces of crap that I can't sell or throw away because his feelings will get hurt. So I have to find a place to keep them. It's sweet and cute, sure, but it's not some universal present. My husband bought me a Razer Naga for my last birthday. Best. Gift. Ever. I'm hoping for a hand mixer with a stand for Christmas...or our anniversary, if one of us can remember when that is...

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[–] ScrystaLz 8 years ago

LOL well I personally would love to be given expensive jewellery for my b'day or anniversary...and then in case everything goes south and I break up with my boyfriend or future spouse, I can just pawn the jewellery and make some nice money out of selling it  jewellery tend to be a lot more expensive and profitable than home/kitchen appliances.

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[–] sakurako-718-306418 8 years ago

That was actually the point I was going to make when somebody said it's something to "cherish forever". But then decided to go with the "useless crap" argument because...well, I guess you never tried to pawn or sell jewellery you got from an average guy. The thing is, you usually get the price of the materials(unless it's a special piece, with history or something like that). What he gave her is not expensive, not even close. If she were to pawn it, it'd probably net her less than 50 bucks as she'd only get paid for the value of the chain(birthstones are pretty cheap).

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[–] lauriegonzalez11 8 years ago

What I don't get is why people think someone should give a "romantic" present for a birthday. I would love a nice blender for a present!

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[–] colstromberg 8 years ago

I didn't think anything wrong with the blender as a gift. My husband always asks me what I would like for birthdays/anniversarys/Christmases and I always ask for vacuums, steam cleaners, whatever we actually need! I have told him before not to purchase me flowers/candy. Flowers die, I hate chocolate and rarely eat candy. I personally don't need jewelry.
I felt her got the blender for her because he was listening to her and what she said they needed instead of tuning her out.
But that is how I feel, I don't need expensive items from my husband to show his love- unless it is a new roomba!!

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[–] NewBeginnings16 8 years ago

1st birthday after getting married and getting her a blender came across to me as; "I love milkshakes so if I buy her a blender maybe I can get her to make them for me." So in essence it was really a present for himself.

Also, to me, buying a blender isn't a special day gift, but a practical household item that they'd buy when they were out and about or buy on-line.

I'm not a candy & flowers woman but for a birthday how about tickets to a show or make me a picnic lunch to share. Or a overnight trip (since they're in MA) to Cape Cod. Or a day out on an excursion boat.

Dr Jason Bull: Don't give up on people, they're all we've got.

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[–] bab7410 8 years ago

That's what I was thinking, though more in terms he got her a blender but why not get her something else special as well?

You have to know by the time you are getting a woman something, you could do better than blender. He could be a very good listener - yet for anybody, no? A boyfriend used to give the best gifts to his buddies, I don't think he felt obliged to do the same with 'girl he was dating at the time,' that would be myself in this instance. I received 'the methodical approach' instead as well, as opposed to a heartfelt one. That was pretty annoying, realizing someone feels like it's a chore as well (and some of the posters come across in this thread as such - oh boy). Then don't do it, but it would invalidate the stage of your relationship for sure, depending on where it is. Some of these males don't implicitly let us know you are dating for 'companionship' only. We'll figure out later when we are breaking up/divorcing it would seem... but I remember the time I got soup and bread for Valentines! I bought the red wine, incidentally! Must say, totally unromantic, and we were six months in, I still felt no guy on earth could be so ....(insert term of choice here). Oh how I cherish the look on my face that night... Lol, meanwhile, I got him a high-end Nikon digital camera (to capture memories with his new friends to all these places he was attending with them as a single man previously)! I was shocked, gave it to him anyway, should have probably taken it back when we broke up some time later.. ;) And any of you boys don't even, we always picked up the bill every rotation.

Point is, it isn't necessarily about the gift, but timing. Soup and bread is nice for... a picnic. Not a birthday, not Valentines, and certainly not a end-all gift for anything really... I can get it myself!

Anyway, was Korsak really listening or utilizing his detective's memory or something? Again, makes it less of a gesture IMO, that's why context would be good to bear in mind. I know many women have to FLAT OUT spell out what they want, else they will get.. soup...To this day, my friends TELL their husbands what they would like. Else, they'll get a large screen television (again) or iPhone... Anyway, Korsak's 2nd gift was kind of yanked out of him, and I hope she still got to keep the blender... *cough.

She seems like the type that would upkeep quite the comfortable lifestyle for the two of them so... no reason to be so thoughtless I say.

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[–] LarrupinLou 8 years ago

Unless your mate says she wants a kitchen appliance, you're better off looking for something else to buy instead. You're relationship will be the better for it. 😃

No blah, blah, blah!

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