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Enough with the slut-shaming


Alicia is a woman who was a great mother and loyal wife in spite of her husband's disgusting philandering with hookers. If she wants to explore her sexuality or find love, it's never too late and she's not "too old to be acting this way."

Marriage is a complicated thing. Not unlike politics. She's more than paid her debt. Especially to Peter.

Calling her a slut is beyond the pale. If naive housewives who can't see beyond old-fashioned ideals of women and sexuality equate Alicia's bold expression of her sexual dynamism as slutty, then they should step out of the suburbs.

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Nope, she's in her late 40s...not her 50s.

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Well you're to old to be having meltdowns

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It doesn't matter how old you are. You are disgusting at any age. You are the most hated of all.

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^^^Preach! lol

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She is TOO OLD to be acting like this. NOBODY her age acts that way.


Really? NOBODY? That is quite a claim. Do you understand the difference between a fact and your opinion?

Since you have exactly zero life experience with sex or romantic relationships, your opinion isn't worth a whole lot. Have you ever considered the wild notion that you, yes YOU, don't actually know everything, especially where sex is involved????

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Well on counting on boards you post about your sister having three home births so you are talking about your personal life

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And if it was a man nobody would bat an eyelid. Why shouldn't older women, hell why shouldn't all women (and men for that matter) experiment and try things they haven't done before. It's not as if she is doing anything behind anyone's back and it's nobody else's business.

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Why? Peter does it and he is older than her. So, it's fine for him but not for her? If Alicia was a widow, than according to your belief, it wouldn't be fine then either? Please explain. Get her to a nunnery. But, Alicia doesn't believe in God so that wouldn't help.

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cardinal42:She is TOO OLD to be acting like this. NOBODY her age acts that way.

I strongly suggest you do not watch
Quartet (2012)
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel (2011)
Harold and Maude (1971)
Calendar Girls (2003)
Cocoon (1985)
All the scenes of the love lives of seniors NOT acting like prudish old farts would probably give you heart failure.

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How do you know? Since you don't know me, you obviously don't know every woman int his age group, so how the *beep* do you know how women her age behaves?

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Peter was also well into his 40s when he was screwing around.

If I wanted an avatar, I'd have had one by now.

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Everyone here knows that you are the most judgmental human being in existence. You are horrifying on every level. No one would ever give you a handie or allow you to touch them in an intimate way. The best thing about TGW ending is that you will no longer exist for a handful of others. You are filth. You are repugnant. You are hated. The only thing that I regret about writing this is that I couldn't say it to you face. And then spit in it afterward. The world wishes you were not a part of it.

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Everyone here knows that you are the most judgmental human being in existence. You are horrifying on every level. No one would ever give you a handie or allow you to touch them in an intimate way. The best thing about TGW ending is that you will no longer exist for a handful of others. You are filth. You are repugnant. You are hated. The only thing that I regret about writing this is that I couldn't say it to you face. And then spit in it afterward. The world wishes you were not a part of it.


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When I reach 40, I plan on jerking off all the dongs in the bar!

unless they have a mental issue.

You diagnosing mental issues is like going to Rosie O'Donnell for diet tips. Girl no.

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What happen to having some damn self respect?

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I thoroughly respect myself. You would too if you saw my wrist action.

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I'd finger the fück outta my 50 year old wife under table in a restaurant. Especially if we were having dinner with friends just to see if she can keep a straight face while listening to their mundane drivel.
I don't see why it's wrong for her do return the favour.
I know you agree.

innit

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Silky omg do you watch this show?

Bitches, right?

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I don't, but I wasn't about to let this injustice go unchallenged!

innit

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Advice if you're replying to cardianl42 watch out.

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There I thought you'd join me in my Alicia hatred.

Bitches, right?

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I'd need to see the quality of this handjob before I can pass judgement on her character.

innit

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o7_P2ygkAwU

That's the scene. Judge away.

Bitches, right?

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Awful technique. I'm beginning to understand Cardinal42's gripe with the situation.

innit

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We should rally round her, she's the only one speaking sense.

Bitches, right?

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Stop trolling.

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How dare you. I never stop.

Bitches, right?

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Why would she act any differently than someone in their 30's? You're as young as you feel.

What we got here is... failure to communicate!
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I bet if you are a woman you've never had an orgasim. Or if you're a man you've never given a woman one. Lol.

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Cardinal has obviously never been out to a bar on a busy weekend night and seen women of all ages, having all kinds of fun, and doing all kinds of things that she can only imagine. ;-)

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Holy cow ,You're so clueless how the dating world works and no one going to jail having sex in public place ,So Stop be uptight prude

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I guess you haven't been out in a long time. Shut the television off and take your wife, girlfriend, husband or boyfriend to dinner. It may open a whole new world for you and her or him.

Peter and Alicia are both adults. From the very beginning of this series Peter has been unable to truly commit to her, other than for political reasons. I would have kicked his sorry ass to the curb, but that's her choice to stay and she uses him just as much as he uses her. I guess that's a modern day, very sad love story and I've doubted for a while that there isn't any love there anymore. They just use and abuse each other.

As far as I know having an affair is not a legal crime, otherwise Peter would be in prison a very long time ago. Peter believes in God while Alicia does not.. so which one is the guiltier party in your eyes?

According to your world, Diane married much later in life, she's much older than Alicia, so I guess she's a dried up old prune who shouldn't want or need sex and/or love? Your theories of adult relationships is unusual to say the least.

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It's more than clear than no one has ever enjoyed being intimate with you. This is probably why you hate your life so much, you just destroy happiness for anyone around you. Your existence is completely pointless.

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Dats some brutal truth.

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Cardinal has obviously never been out to a bar on a busy weekend night and seen women of all ages, having all kinds of fun, and doing all kinds of things that she can only imagine. ;-)

Can you imagine Nancy/Cardinal rolling into a bar with her angry, abrasive personality and narrow-minded and antiquated views on relationships and sexuality? Yikes! 
If that ever happens I have one prediction and that is that that particular bar will empty out in record time.
Because if you could get away from Nancy, wouldn't you do it as fast as humanly possible?

🌹~Minnie

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Didn't Nancy play an angry, narrow-minded, abrasive bar patron for one of her acting gigs? I haven't looked at her Imdb profile lately, but I seem to recall her playing an extra that was discribed almost exactly like that!




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Can you imagine Nancy/Cardinal rolling into a bar with her angry, abrasive personality and narrow-minded and antiquated views on relationships and sexuality? Yikes!
If that ever happens I have one prediction and that is that that particular bar will empty out in record time.
Because if you could get away from Nancy, wouldn't you do it as fast as humanly possible?


Nancy rolling into a singles bar?! YIKES is right!!

And thanks, Minnie. Like a train wreck, I can’t turn away – that image is now indelibly etched into my brain. I’ll have to get lobotomized to get it out of there?!

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Nancy rolling into a singles bar?! YIKES is right!!

And thanks, Minnie. Like a train wreck, I can’t turn away – that image is now indelibly etched into my brain. I’ll have to get lobotomized to get it out of there?!

Sorry Dap! It is a scary thought but I would actually find it interesting (in a bizarro kind of way) to see it happen. It would be scary, creepy and fascinating all at the same time.
Don't go for the lobotomy. A cup or two of brain bleach should do the job. 

🌹~Minnie

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I completely agree with the OP, and I am a 40 something housewife.

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Not creepy like you defending a real child molester

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You're living in denial as usual

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That's creepy if you think it is APPROPRIATE for a 40 year old woman to act that way!

Why is it inappropriate for a 40 year old woman to enjoy sex? It's not like her body parts shriveled up and aren't good for anything anymore.

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LMAO Alicia not acting like a prostitute and speaking of class something you don't have.

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Please tell me you're a nun. Did you grow up in the 40's, 50's or early 60's because your comments make a lot more sense? Late 60's to our current era, does not make much sense at all.

No surprise that you don't have a clue that that's not what prostitute's do, especially while at a table. Your thinking or believing that's what a prostitute does, a hand job under a table is hilarious (I have cousins who are in law enforcement and there much more than just that involved). It's usually someplace else like a bathroom, back alley, sleazy motel. Honey, what Alicia was doing is called foreplay. Sexually teasing your partner and/or lover for the things to come, let's call it dessert or a nightcap.  I would say more but I'll stop myself there.

The television censors allowed the scene to air so it cannot be that shocking to most of the audience watching. Every show goes to the censor board, after the network executives reviews the scripts of every show prior to filming, after filming it gets reviewed again and then to goes to the censor board for review, some things get cut and others stay (seen a DVD of a show and you'd know that). So, a lot of eyes see these shows before their aired live on television. The Good Wife is a PG-14 recommendation by the censor board. We've come a long way from Lucy and Desi sleeping in separate beds and making a Little Ricky. 

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Your obsession with other people's sex lives is beyond creepy, but you still insist on sharing it with the world.

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She's a grown a** woman in America...she can do whatever the hell she wants! ;-)

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Exactly,
cardinal42 would understand until one of these days when she has a man in her life

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That'll never happen...

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Your parents failed you so miserably. You have no decorum, and no idea how to act. You are pathetic, and everyone just wants you to go away.

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Your parents failed you so miserably. You have no decorum, and no idea how to act. You are pathetic, and everyone just wants you to go away.


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Aw, you need tone it down

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Exactly, cardinal42 would understand until one of these days when she has a man in her life


Well if she ever did, I know he'd wake up with a hell of a hangover and a boat load of regret. 😩

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Actually he would need drink a keg of beer and do shots before sleeping with cardinal42

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Talking about yourself again

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Says the 42 year old virgin...................

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It would be a real live "coyote ugly" senerio. He would chew his arm off to get away!




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Oh stop being such a prude, good lord, An woman near their 50s being horny is normal and healthy

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Yes it's normal it's call making out and enjoying it.

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There is something in a healthy sex life known as kink. Where both partners acknowledge that there things that turn them on outside of vanilla, missionary sex. I am happily married and by no means a "slut, whore or prostitute", as you've characterized Alicia, and my husband and I enjoy gratuitous PDA (including public groping), sex in cars, light BDSM, role play, and other "taboo" indulgences. Exploring your sexuality isn't wrong or slutty. It's healthy. Maybe if you weren't so repressed Cardinal, you might be less judgmental of an adult woman AT ANY AGE exploring and inhibiting her sexuality.

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Hate to burst your bubbles but people have sex in public places yes it's wrong but it happen every time.

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When has that ever stopped him? The problem with Peter is he only thinks about himself and after years of marriage, scandals and infidelity, Alicia made the decision to do the same. I would prefer them apart and doing whatever they wanted with whomever they wanted then to continue this twisted tango of a relationship that they have together. But, these aren't real people, they are a fictional characters on a television series. So, who really cares?

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The best sex I've ever had was with a woman in her 40's, Better.

RIP Wayne 'Trapper John' Rogers. MASH wasn't the same w/o you. RIP Tony Burton. RIP George Kennedy

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Can we please retire the phrase slut-shaming, please? This is the one place I thought I'd be safe from that idiotic, excuse making, term. I can't stand it.

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TIL Cardinal lives under a rock. And why isnt the finger being pointed at Jason for receiving a handjob? what business of it would be yours anyway? sounds to me like no one has ever wanted to give you one anyway.

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Alicia is in her 40s and yes woman her age act like the in public, It's call life and enjoying it and yes may be wrong to some people ,But end of the day couples who have public sex are enjoying each other company.

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I wouldn't want one if you paid me. That'z disgusting.


Hey, Nancy Pants – Don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it!!!

And it’s “That’s” – with an “s”, NOT a “z”!! YOY?!

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Exactly not only Alicia ,But Jason as well. like the saying goes it takes two to tango.

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To the OP: where's your time machine? Please! I want to go visiting the era you came from to see where you learned your myths......we need to study this behavior to learn how to stop it, people!

Women have been cheerfully having sex their whole lives...and I do not mean lives tragically cut short ag age 29. But they had better not talk about it, because it offends -
- never mind. it's not worth caring about who might be offended. Live on, head up your a$$. I don't even want to know what other things you play pretend about.

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