I don't get their disgust after Carrie and Big say they don't want children?
shareIt was more the wife who was offended, but I think it was because she idolized Carrie ("we have the same dating life."). The wife seemed to assume that since she wanted a baby so badly, then Carrie would have the same wish.
shareI agree. It seemed like bad writing. I get they needed a plot point to start the r/ship self doubt for Carrie but that scene was SO bad. It was just a bizarre reaction from two seemingly normal people.
I can't believe the actress chose to play it like that. They must have pushed to her to react more OTT. Seriously, her reaction was as if Carrie had just looked at her and said "*beep* you and your IVF baby".
Why not just rewrite and make a more plausible scene?
Some people really can't understand that there are women who do not want kids. They really do take it personally or try to convince the non-kid person that they'll change their mind or if the woman is still young they'll say "oh you're still young, you'll feel different when you're older" or "you will when you meet the right man." Like it is unfathomable that a woman could want more for her life than just being a baby machine. Or that someone might not want to give up their life for children. Or that some people just don't actually like kids. Kids aren't for everyone. But yes, some people are very rude when they can't understand why someone doesn't want the exact same thing they want. Some do take it like you're saying something about their choices.
shareSome couples are so maternal that they may be disgusted if another man and woman don't seem to have the same enthusiasm as them to have children. I think couples should make their own decisions about if they want children or not, and not scrutinise those who have decided the opposite to them. The couple at the wedding appeared to be criticising Big and Carrie: "So it's just going to be you two?" In the movie, it was clear that Big and Carrie didn't want children because they were just happy spending time together and Carrie with the girls (Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte). I think what's important in life is anything that makes you happy. Carrie seemed happy with Big and seeing her friends without the urge to have a child. I liked Carrie and Big in the movie because they're not your typical maternal couple who want children. I think they broke the mould and realised that they didn't have to be the same as everybody else. I respect couples who want children and I respect the ones who don't in the same way.
shareFirst it was the wife and she wasn't really offended just shocked. The man went along with Big's topic change about Carrie's book.
Normally I would agree about some people not understanding this lifestyle, BUT I thought this scene was pretty obvious.
The couple had a surrogate mother! How many do this unless they can't get pregant.
Just like with Charlotte it can *beep* women up. They feel like failures. After suffering for a long time and FINALLY getting their child, this woman could not understand how someone who was able of having kids could refrain from that on purpose. Notice the quick look the husband gives her, he knows how important this was for her and how much she went through.