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she Really misled him

posted 8 years ago by electrictroy
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Watching the movie a third time, I paid close attention the married woman pretending to be single. What a horrible way to treat someone. I can understand the "just having fun" part, but when he invited her to meet his family (at the wedding) she should have come clean: "Look this is getting too serious. I was just looking for casual sex."

Instead she pretended to be interested in solidifying the relationship... a horribly mean thing to do
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[–] bluelollipop 8 years ago

Exactly. That was the point it was obvious he was falling for her. What was she thinking.

[–] mrmoovee 8 years ago

Devil's advocate here.....Maybe she hated her in laws and wanted to see if his family was as lame as her husband's and hopefully just have some fun. Remember she said Ryan was her escape and thought they were in a casual relationship. If he felt that way about her he should have been man enough to say, I don't want to date casually anymore can we take this to another level. Why should she have to make the first step if she wasn't the one falling in love? Selfish, Adulter? Yes! but I wouldn't call her horrible person for him not asking her more about her personal life when it was convenient for him and his emotions to try to pursue a serious relationship.

[–] woodsmith 8 years ago

Nah she misled him whichever way you look at it.

They were both clear at the start that the relationship was casual. She then strongly implied she was single (contextually) with what she said to Anna K's character (Natalie). They subsequently said they liked each other, she went to his sister's wedding together, he showed her round his old school, she met his family, she told him to 'call if he gets lonely'... By that point it was clear that they weren't on the same page anymore and that's where she should have told him.

Her spiel about her 'being clear' was just her guilt speaking / anxiety that her real family would find out.

[–] andrewpi7 8 years ago

Maybe she hated her in laws and wanted to see if his family was as lame as her husband's and hopefully just have some fun.

Then she should have told him that.

Why should she have to make the first step if she wasn't the one falling in love?

Because she knows she is married, but he does not. If she was single your devil's advocate argument would be stronger. Or if she had told him she was married early on & he still pursued her.

Selfish, Adulter? Yes! but I wouldn't call her horrible person for him not asking her more about her personal life when it was convenient for him and his emotions to try to pursue a serious relationship.

Correction, early on in the movie he does ask. She made it clear then that she doesn't like to talk about that (leaving him assuming she had a bad ex-boyfriend or bad divorce or bad parents, etc), so he was respecting her wishes until she was ready. That made it clearly her responsibility & her a horrible person.