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'If they don't like it, I don't like it'


So you suddenly don't like a dress after everyone in your entourage says they don't? Uhh....you LOVED that dress a few seconds ago. So you're saying you can't think for yourself? You're a grown-ass woman!!

This was the episode that aired 5/8/15.

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too much influence making them doubt themselves. they should just take the one they want in the end. parade around in all of the options but they need to stand up for themselves and pick the one they feel best in, never mind the others. they aren't wearing the dress

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Exactly! Like, I'm always like "This is YOUR day, not THEIR day."

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I just don't get the entourages that come with them. Who would be that mean? It doesn't matter if someone doesn't like it. The only one who matters is the bride. I don't get the entourages who think that their opinions are the most important.

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added to that, i don't know why they need so many people in their entourage. 2 people is enough


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I just assumed that to be on the show you had to have someone there who would not like whatever dress the bride liked or wanted to cause drama. Is that not the case? If not then I agree it's completely ridiculous. I brought one person with me when looking for my dress but if she would have behaved like some of the people on this show I'd have gone alone.

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Have any of you ever shipped for a wedding dress? Or had families whose opinions mattered to you? Contrary to popular belief, a wedding has very little to do with a couple and is mostly about the families.

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Maybe if you're a complete pushover or too dependent on your parents as a grown adult.

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Consider the daffodil. And while you're doing that I'll be over here looking through your stuff.

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That's what I don't care for. What does it matter if the family doesn't like the dress? I don't see why half of these relatives need to come to the appointment. I feel the families sometimes manipulate the bride to choose what THEY want because THEY want to be excited and thrilled, even at the expense of the bride sacrificing her greatest excitement. I think when it comes to weddings in general - whether it be the dress, the decor, or anything else - I think the bride puts too much emphasis on pleasing everyone except herself and her husband. And I think that is where most of the wedding planning stress comes from. People want to make choices they think will "WOW" or impress instead of just having a casual fun time picking out stuff THEY like. In the end, some of the guests will have silent (or unsilent) criticisms anyway. It's unavoidable.

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Do you not have a family or friend you love and would want involved in the most important day of your life? Having been there the day my best friend picked out her wedding dress I can tell you it is a memory we will both cherish forever and was a day that brought us closer. Just because YOU don't care about that experience or what the people you love think doesn't mean other people don't. You want other people to love it because honestly, the last thing you want people saying behind your back on your wedding day is "what was she thinking? What a hideous wedding dress!" Women rarely see themselves as everyone else does, and so having a few opinions can be helpful so you can get a clear picture. It's when those voices drown your opinion out that you have an issue.

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I totally agree. When my daughters shopped for their wedding gowns, their sisters & I went with them. For my youngest daughter her 14-year-old niece also went with us. The only problem we had was when we took my mother-in-law with us to see the gown my oldest had chosen, and she totally went ballistic. She said it was too plain. It was a simple and elegant Priscilla of Boston. She ended up getting married in another gown, which was unique and beautiful and her grandmother (who had worked in the top dress shops back home and owned her own boutique, so she did know fashion and also clothing construction and quality, to be fair) loved it.

The rest of us were totally supportive of all three girls and their choices, even though I didn't care at all for second daughter's gown, which overwhelmed her small frame, but I wouldn't rain on her parade.

Boo Hoo! Let me wipe away the tears with my PLASTIC hand!--Lindsey McDonald (Angel)

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Yes but I don't give a rat's patootie what they think of what I wear. So we will find other ways to bond, thanks. It wouldn't be touching for me to have someone criticizing a dress I love. Just the salesgirl is all I need. She is unbiased and will give her true opinion of what really flatters me based on what I like. She is getting commission no matter what I pick. ;)

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I am watching an episode where the bride to be is listening to her 15 year old sister. I am like this stuff have to be staged NO WAY I would be listening to a "know it all" 15 year old. It's the brides day! Not the mothers, friends, sisters, fathers and now brothers and fiancee.

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I just watched that episode and I was just screaming at the TV.
The 15 year old absolutely DOES NOT know it all.
And I can't believe a grown woman would even allow a teenager dictate what to wear.

The bride ended up loving this one dress along with everyone else EXCEPT the snotty 15 year old.
So she tries on a gown that is $10,000 that the sister loved but was way over the brides budget.
The mom even said "oh but D loves it!"
Wth? Why are these people putting so much emphasis on a kids opinion??

The bride ended up leaving with nothing and never returned.

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