[SPOILER] She suffers from..
...ithyphallophobia
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Would you like a lovely smash?
No. She is the victim of child molestation from her father.
shareYou don't know that.
I knew a woman that had just horrific feelings toward men and was much like this person. Her father never touched her, instead he minimized her, he treated her like she was the most stupid and ineffectual person that ever lived. Every time she needed something, her dad made her feel like an idiot because she was "irresponsible". She was an emotional wreck. When I met him, he told her five times that she was "stupid" and "worthless". When I finally spoke up, he was very angry and said "she knows I'm joking" and she laughed and got mad at me. She said I was wrong to say that to him and that they have a great relationship and her dad was just joking. Said all that right then and there. When we left, she was crying uncontrollably and apologizing to me for doing that and for not appreciating me sticking up for her. She was, a mess because of him, and he'd never laid a hand on her.
She probably was supposed to be a sexual abuse victim, but there are many ways to devastate a person without physically abusing them. That's all I'm saying.
"...nothing is left of me, each time I see her..." - Catullus
Precisely. Mental abuse is as disruptive it just doesnt leave scars so no one takes it as serious.
In the movie the nude photos of her as a child make me think that it was sexual abuse, though the way her father continued to control her into adulthood makes it seem that at some point he stopped and resorted to manipulation to keep her quiet. She was tough with The Guy but was almost instantly reverted by her father into a child.
The short one's gawking at me and the tall one's being very droll.
I honestly think the father never touched her, but tore her to shreds mentally. He was treating her like a child through out that whole office scene. Saying things like "Oh, you got a job, that's cute" than messing with her about he weight. Not only was he cruel to the girl, but he was a smothering parent too. Now, without making too many accusations, I assumed the mother was out of the picture. This caused a balence of hate and overprotection. The overcompansation of protection led her to be a shut-in. The father feels that he has complete control of her, able to vent his hate on her whenever he feels like it.
Another reason is literally RIGHT in the the dialog. When she says, "I'll go to the police" and he says "Sweetheart...the police don't give a *beep* Molestation is not taken lightly EVER, but there's not a whole lot they can do about verbal abuse. Not to mention, she's 24. The pictures, to me, are what she sees herself as. Still a little kid, confused about her body, mentally repressed.
That office scene has more layers than you'd think. Thw whole film was brilliant.
"That's the karma again, I didn't help Kenny so she beat me up with a telephone"
I assumed it was childhood rape, one because of the way she was so sexually defensive and two because of the way her father talked to her. It could have just been emotional abuse but I still think there was probably a sexual aspect to it.
shareI agree with Agentphantom, she was way too sexually defensive for only emotional abuse.
I just went on the movies website (gooddickthefilm.com) and under the links section there were many sites for sex abuse victims. So i am figuring that her father did sexually abuse her, along with other abuse i am sure.
I absolutely loved this film. I unfortunately watched it on megavideo where the audio and video were not matched, which was rather annoying. Plus sitting in front of my computer for and hour and a half at 3 in the morning wasn't very enjoyable. I am definitely going to order this film as soon as i finish this post! I cannot wait to watch it again!
"Molestation is not taken lightly EVER", true... but the abuser saying, "the cops don't give a *beep* about what you have to say, they don't care about what happened" to a victim, sounds like he's lying to her to make her feel helpless.
Plus, what about the fear of sexual intimacy.
-the obsession with pornography.
-the shot of her nude as a child.(movies usually don't show something so random if it wasn't relevant).
-her only being into watching porno without penetration or only with just women.
-her dislike of using the word dick or seeing penises.
and in an interview with Complex.com the Actress/Director/Writer, Marianna Palka says:
Complex: The film is a comedy but it does deal with sexual abuse, which…isn't exactly hilarious. What determined your approach to the subject?
Marianna Palka: I have a few close friends who were sexually abused in their childhood to varying degrees. Each one of them is overcoming it in their own way and I wanted to show that there is hope. It's easy to write off a film if you hear it's about sexual abuse, but the thing is it's actually a very positive film. I didn't wanna show another movie where a kid is getting molested by a pedophile; I think it's much more interesting to explore how boring [sexual abuse] is to deal with when you're 25 and it's already happened to you.
Read more: http://www.complex.com/blogs/2008/10/14/filmmaker-marianna-palka-talks-good-dick/#ixzz0PFhYDhZm
yes...also the scene when he's eating the cereal and she bends him over and simulates a violent sexual act, that was so shocking but pointed to her re-enacting what her father did to her. That scene would be incredibly bizarre if that wasnt the reason.
shareActually no, not at all. She was re-enacting the 1,000s of videos of porn that had been viewed.
Whether molested or not, you've read WAAAAY too much into that little humping/interaction... Not to soften the horrific nature of family incest and molestation, but it typically doesn't take THAT form... That's more up the alley of a Ron Jeremy impersonation.
To PUT AN END TO THIS, go to the official website and read the director's statement. She clearly states "Good Dick is a study on the daily adult life of a girl who has been sexually abused in childhood." She wrote, directed and starred in the film.
I'm sorry, but it really confounds me to read the responses from people who love the movie, and don't get it. It was clearly shown without being stated. Follow the story.
I'll assume your reply is for the "general thread" and not meant to be directed at my post... just given that the point I clarified had absolutely NOTHING to do with what you're saying. I was merely commenting on the suggestion that she was in any way immitating being f-cked from behind, porno-style, by her Dad.
That's just a completely falsified reach. They are seperate incidences... father molested her / and / imitating dominant rear entry
That's NOT what was being "unspoken" during that scene. Way too big of a read-in there...
It was to the general thread. It's so weird that so many love this movie, and then don't get it. I honestly don't understand.
share1. she only watched soft core stuff...nothing with Ron Jeremy, heres a quote from the director
"She's into stuff that's got lots of women, like fluffy niceness, well shot, stuff that's really non-threatening, because it's the opposite of what her experience has been with sex."
2. i once courted a girl who had some abuse in her past, and i was laying on a couch on my stomach reading a book and she did the exact same thing to me,with the same vigor and aggression, it was quite strange. Its about turning the tables being the dominator and not being dominated, about being in charge of a sexual situation and not the victim of it.
so i think your not reading enough into it irishhelden....
there were very few things put into that film by accident...Marianna Palkka is a smart lady.
read this
http://www.complex.com/blogs/2008/10/14/filmmaker-marianna-palka-talks-good-dick/#ixzz0PFhYDhZm
Hmm, good point. Not #1 because that doesn't really matter. Soft core porn shows dominant rear even if no pene, so... yeah. But point #2 about the dominant reversal theme, the "taking back" charge, that actually does make quite a bit of sense.
While I was focusing more on whether this was a simulation act of her father (not necessarily so), her simulating the act of not being the victim, and instead becoming the sexual aggressor makes perfect sense when tied in to the story.
"I agree with Agentphantom, she was way too sexually defensive for only emotional abuse."
You're wrong wrong wrong. And to say "only emotional abuse" borders on insanity, as if there's something better about being emotionally abused. Obviously you have not suffered either kind of abuse so you are completely ignorant of how people will react when having been abused in EITHER way.
I can state as a fact that the woman's reactions were very much on par with either emotional and/OR physical abuse.
The goal of physical abuse is essentially destruction of the person's sense of self worth as is with emotional abuse. Using a person as a masturbatory object demeans them which is in itself emotional abuse as well as physical. The results are the same. You don't end up all happy go lucky when emotionally abused and devastated with physical abuse. BOTH are abuse.
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Anyone else find the dry humping scene strangely erotic? I mean obviously she is acting out due to her abuse. Showing how she's in control. Or perhaps she's re-enacting the scenes from the porns she watches. In any case it was a turn on watching her do that to him.
-Di
I guess that woman was trying to act as if it is ok for her dad to say that coz if it wasn't ok then that means she put up with a lot of sh*t
acting as if it was a joke that she gets and is fine with saves her the feeling of being defeated or mistreated by him so she is trying to prevent him from feeling that conquered her.
"It is never about what happened, it is only how you look at it!"