Previews of Shannon's MIL insulting her!! - The Real Housewives of Orange County (2006) Discussion

[–] lac925 8 years ago

That was not the place nor the time to say something like that to people you hardly even know (I didn't catch who she was saying it to).

But on another note, David made the CHOICE to have an affair. I don't care how bad you think your wife/husband is treating you, you sit down and work it out. You do NOT seek attention elsewhere. If your marriage/family is worth ANYTHING to you, you man up and do what you can to work it out!

Shannon's MIL is the stuff of nightmares! I feel bad for her :/

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"Could you please get your head out of your ass? It's not a hat!" - Pitch Perfect

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

That was revolting and unfortunately all too common among cheaters. Cheating comes from entitlement and has nothing to do with how good or bad your marriage is and usually that sense of entitlement starts at home.

My MIL is awful too but lucky for me she lives in another country so I hardly see her. I feel awful for Shannon.

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[–] Juliegirlj4 8 years ago

I never really thought about cheating like that, but you're right, Jelly! Adulterers don't think the vows of marriage apply to them because they are special.
Maybe it is unresolved anger at my own MIL, but watching that preview made my blood boil. I hope someone really gives it to that old hag, but good!!!!

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

The whole adultery narrative is really screwed up and there's a whole "reconciliation industrial complex" that is profiting from the theory that if you just find out what are the needs that the faithful person isn't meeting you'll save your marriage. The reality is that people cheat because they want to and have the opportunity to do so, regardless of the state of their marriage. Check out ChumpLady.com.

The scene made my blood boil too for the same reason, but like I said, luckily my MIL lives very, very far away.

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[–] mindthinkr 8 years ago

It can be hard enough making a marriage work with a good MIL. My ex's Mom destroyed our marriage (systematically, bit by bit) and also chose to ignore our child who wondered why she was never good enough for Grandma. Very sad for Shannon.

Be well and be kind

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[–] tearsnhoney 8 years ago

That's messed up. I hope you've moved on...:)

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[–] mindthinkr 8 years ago

Thank you tearsnhoney, I have, but now my child has problems has issues with her MIL, who by coincidence is semi-ignoring her three children. I wish I had been able to provide her with as a better role model or how to handle "the other woman" (MIL) in her husbands life. I work hard at making sure she has a place to vent without fear of reprisal, and all the love and support that I can muster. Since her MIL is ONLY about her own daughters child, I take each of my three grandies for a week in the summer (as well as numerous family times) and give them my undivided attention and let them choose what they want to do (swim, museums, a trip to the book or toy store, movies etc but each gets a limit of $100 that can be spent on them not inc the food that I provide in home). I told her not to worry about the other grandmothers lack...when the kids grow up they will remember who did what and form their own opinions accordingly. Sorry to have vented on you, but I feel better having done so in a safe place. Decades later it still hurts :-(

Be well and be kind

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[–] DonutLover 8 years ago

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when the kids grow up they will remember who did what and form their own opinions accordingly.

In general, yes that's true. And I hope it is for you. The only little twist would be that that grandma (the neglecter) comes into a bunch of money, and starts wining and dining your grown grandchildren who YOU loved and spent time with. That might cause temporary "memory loss", ha ha. I'm kinda dealing with that with my son's girlfriend. I devoted my life to raising my kids for which I am forever grateful and thankful, and have good relationships with, while my ex didn't raise a finger except to try to sabotage everything. But, he is the one with the mega bucks so my son's girlfriend thinks he (the dad who wasn't there) is the cat's pajamas. I'm sure it will blow over in time.

anyway that's just a little projecting on my part, and I'm sure nothing like that will happen to you!! You will be remembered as the loving one :)

A simple mind is a tidy mind.

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[–] mindthinkr 8 years ago

I've seen that happen too DonutLover. Sorry that he's trying to take the wind out of your sails with money. Trouble with a girl like that, who's so easily influenced by money, is that there will never be enough for her. She will always want more and bigger things. Someday she might need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold and you will be there. That will be priceless. It will clue her in. Best wishes.

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[–] tearsnhoney 8 years ago

I can't imagine. Children are innocent and need family, that's a fact.
I admire what you're doing with your grandchildren. They're having fun, I'm sure, and learning things through you. The time you're giving them is precious. It builds memories and feelings of belonging.
I have two young grandsons and my time means the world to them.
It's wonderful!

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[–] Boozy2shoe 8 years ago

I hope it's creative editing too. Upon reviewing the preview several times, it looks as though Tamra opened her big mouth again and told Shannon what the MIL said in front of David. Cause to me, David has that look of "oh sh^+, here comes a bunch of drama with my mom and wife." More than a "I'm in trouble" look. I can't imagine David saying "yeah my mom is right about this one." Especially after all their counseling. That's the way I see it anyway. I hope it's the case as I'm very happy to see their marriage being mended. I may be a sappy fool but i cried watching their vow renewal. There's been a lot of marriages breaking up in my family and it's very painful. To see a marriage being restored is always nice.

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[–] mindthinkr 8 years ago

" To see a marrige being mended is always nice". Amen.

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[–] mindthinkr 8 years ago

Oops "restored" not mended. Sorry.

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

It's hard to feel bad for Shannon when she's relentlessly bitchy. If you're going to talk negativity about other people, expect the same in return.

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] Juliegirlj4 8 years ago

Besides Vicki ( which is warranted), who has Shannon talked about in a negative way?!
Family should stick together- David's mother is ignorant. She should realize that causing drama with Shannon only causes unhappiness for David, and his children.

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

Besides Vicki ( which is warranted), who has Shannon talked about in a negative way?!

Kelly.

EDIT: Brianna.

Family should stick together- David's mother is ignorant.

Seeing as how David's mother personally knows Shannon and you don't, I'd say you're ignorant. David's mother is under no obligation to kiss Shannon's ass.

She should realize that causing drama with Shannon only causes unhappiness for David, and his children.

So should Shannon.

Shannon is not perfect and his mother is allowed to have an opinion. Shannon is an overreacting Drama Queen.

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] MrsTeller 8 years ago

You have a lot of hate for Shannon and anything she does is wrong in your eyes. Shannon can definitely be annoying but she's not responsible for her husbands affair. And yes his mother in law can have an opinion but she shouldn't be saying something so hurtful in front of other people like that.

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

Shannon can definitely be annoying but she's not responsible for her husbands affair. And yes his mother in law can have an opinion but she shouldn't be saying something so hurtful in front of other people like that.

Exactly. Her MIL doesn't have to like her, but MILs would be better off doing their best to create a harmonious relationship with their DILs as it's good for everyone in the family.Even the biggest mama's boys will choose their wife over their mother.

Blaming a DIL for your precious snowflake son's affair in public is despicable and frankly I wouldn't blame anyone in that situation for getting a bit emotional, especially if it's not the first time that something hurtful has come out of her MIL's mouth.

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[–] MrsTeller 8 years ago

Exactly!!!

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[–] fiero-49251 8 years ago

Karma caught up with Shannon! People can say Meghan and Shannon didn't do anything wrong, but it looks bad regardless! It's on video to show what a-holes they were for the whole world to see and hear! It just cracks me up every time it plays! Heather, Kelly, and Tamra will put a guilt trip on them for the rest of the season! Can't wait for the reunion to see how it all is explained away!  

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

Just to be clear, I didn't say Shannon is fully responsible for David's infidelity, but she does bare part of the responsibility. Yes, David is the one who cheated, but Shannon did push him toward an affair. Men who are happily married don't cheat on their wives. We have seen a history of Shannon nagging, yelling and emasculating David. It was pretty obvious their marriage was in trouble. For everyone to jump on Shannon's side is ridiculous.

Based on my research on why men cheat, I have come to the conclusion on why Shannon bares part of the responsibility.

3 reasons why men cheat:

1. They Feel Unappreciated
2. They Feel Emotionally Disconnected
3. They Choose To Cheat

Perhaps you should consider reading the link below. It's pretty interesting.

http://atlantablackstar.com/2012/10/02/3-reasons-men-cheat-on-their-wives/

Shannon is a bitch to David, so it's not surprising he would seek appreciation and emotional support outside his marriage. Sorry the truth hurts.

Furthermore, based on this knowledge, I'm not the least bit shocked, appalled or outraged by his mother's comment. In a way, Shannon did. The truth hurts.

David is an *beep* for not talking to Shannon first or seeking help with their marriage. I don't like the way he handled it and he's a lying cheating POS.

Shannon didn't deserve to be cheated on - this coming from someone who HATES Shannon. However, based on my ability to see the situation with some objectivity, based on the fact I don't have my head stuck up her ass, I can understand why David did and why his mother would say something like that. As much as I can't stand Shannon, I can still sympathize with her, but I'm not going to excuse her from her part. There were two people in that marriage.

By the way, thank you for stating the obvious in regards to me hating Shannon. Everyone already knows that. LOL. 

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] shelbyrichards 8 years ago

No excuse. If he was miserable, he should have left

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

I'll just repeat what I said about David in case you missed it.

David is an *beep* for not talking to Shannon first or seeking help with their marriage. I don't like the way he handled it and he's a lying cheating POS.

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

Yes, David is the one who cheated, but Shannon did push him toward an affair. Men who are happily married don't cheat on their wives.

Bullsh!t

Why Happy Couples Cheat
http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/news/a35914/why-happy-couples-cheat-esther-perel/

Cheating is about entitlement. Tiger Woods' voluptuous Nordic wife and mother of his two kids wasn't good enough with him so had to bang every woman he saw so he could be happy? Cheating is about entitlement and the reasons for cheating originate with the cheater, not the marriage. To quote Esther Perel from that article "It isn't that we want to leave the person we are with, it's the person we have become."

"Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity."
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/divorce-busting/200805/i-wasnt-looking-affair-it-just-happened

Check out Chumplady.com. The site will change your views about infidelity. Cheaters are disordered. If anyone other than David and his mistress are responsible it's his awful mother and her special snowflake treatment of her son.

As for Shannon being awful to David, we've only seen her since the discovery of the affair. We don't know what she was so like before. In any case, David has a choice-- he could leave.

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

It's not "bullsh!t" when it has been documented the way Shannon treats David. It should be apparent he was unhappy in his marriage. Therefore, David was not "happily married".

It is ridiculous to compare Tiger Woods and David Beador as David is not a serial cheater, that we know of.

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

We've only seen Shannon during and after the affair. We don't know what she was like. Have you ever considered that David is just an unhappy person and that he is responsible for his own happiness, not his wife? If he was unhappy, he should've left. Shannon is in no way responsible for his affair.

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

I'm letting it go now because I completely disagree and don't really care.

Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] shelbyrichards 8 years ago

He's not a serial cheater? He carried on a long term affair. These were not one night stands

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[–] Jelly-4 8 years ago

I think she means he had one affair with one woman as opposed to multiple affairs with many women.

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[–] AmericanReject 8 years ago

Wow, I just saw this. Thank you, Jelly-4. That is exactly what I meant.

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Move along: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8

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[–] ABBAcat 8 years ago

Yeah David looks like he grew up entitled and spoiled. Maybe Kelly called it when she said he graduated from the university of spoiled children (sorry to diss USC which is a fine institution)

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