was TOM justified

Stepping out of line, to me, is like breaking a vow. I don't mean a petty matter. If I broke a vow/promise to someone, I would expect some type of retribution, be it a good smack or something else. I don't break promises though, so I don't need to worry about it.




Vote, bitches.

I think you missed the point.

That Neil wound up manhandling Judy was not supposed to be equivalent to Tom punching her in the face; Tom wanted to show his cheating wife that, in the end, family matters more, and that, if put in the position to make a choice, her lover was willing to kill her to save his own family. Which is what happened: Neil pulled the trigger.

No, Tom did not just want to punch Judy, but had Neil do it instead. That's just moronic and brutish thinking (so no, I, for one, would not be "cool with it"). The message was psychological.

Also, in terms of plot, I think Tom's revenge was the most inspired, morally speaking. The revenge Abby and Tom pulled on Neil was too far-fetched (so much could have gone wrong), and they should not have involved the child. The cheating husband's main victim was the wife, though he did also tear up the family for the child, true. Anyway, too far-fetched, cruel, and not to the point.

Of course, Judy could also have had a heart-attack and died from shock as Neil pulled the trigger...

Anyway, it's just a movie.
In real life, just leave. You can't force someone to love you, and if the person "cheats" he/she hasn't loved you for some time.