Were we, as the viewer, meant to be as disgusted as Andy was about the whole "it's-a-gay-play" outrage?
I had a different take on it (and fwiw, I am far left politically and am an active supporter of/marcher for LGBT rights, amng others).
I think RG was, in a lowkey way, sharing something personal/difficult and shining a light on a difficult truth -- that some guys struggle with feeling masculine enough, because this culture has such narrow and nutty ideas about what is feminine and what is masculine. And even tho I think that women have it much harder than men in most respects, in this respect men have it harder, bc they're not really allowed to talk about these insecurities; for ex., men aren't encouraged to open up to their friends, and men's magazines are a relatively recent phenomenon, plus I don't think they necessarily address this very sensitive topic; and the group in power is *never* supposed to demonstrate anything that can be construed as weakness, such as feeling insecure about the very qualities that are identified with their power (in this case, men/masculinity).
RG -- and I do mean RG, not his characters -- is kind of ... closer to neutral than to what is considered guy-sexy (he's short, his voice is high, he doesn't have the sharper/defined features that are associated with masculinity). I'd be astonished if this (feeling insufficiently masculine) hadn't been an issue from puberty thru his 20s and maybe beyond. And in a still-fairly-homophobic culture, a hetero man who doesn't feel all that masculine doesn't want to be associated with what is viewed as the ultimate in non-masculine. (Not my view of gayness, but society's, I think.)
So a person absolutely can be 100% supportive of gay rights and 100% comfortable with gay friends but still struggle with discomfort at being ID'd as gay. (A woman I'm close with has the female version of that; it's about feeling unattractive bc this culture's definition of "feminine" doesn't fit her.) I don't know whether RG *is* free of all homophobia -- who knows? But I don't think he was trying to let himself or anyone else off the hook; I thought the ep was saying, "It's sad that some people, like Andye's macho acquaintances, are so narrow-minded; it's sad that so many of us feel so uncomfortable in our own bodies that we actually care about whether certain people see us as we want to be seen." Keep in mind that the character Andy was comfortable exploring the role of a gay man -- that's not nothing for someone who feels fairly unsexy (lost his virginity at 28, and to a woman he found unattractive -- that's very sad).
Anyway, I think the ep was ribbing both homophobia and our continued discomfort within these narrow either/or definitions of masculine/feminine, straight/gay.
"All you need to start an asylum is an empty room and the right kind of people."
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