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Anyone else felt sorry for the husband?

posted 18 years ago by rommelsen
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Don't know if it's normal, but I was very sorry for him.
In my opinion, the character of the husband represents in an exceptional way our personality of modern men and women, oppressed by works and by the looking for a person that love us, who can help us in the most difficult moments.
The husband wasn't an evil character at all. We can see how much he's in love with his wife.
He's only very weak.
In fact he made the mistake to pretend too many comforts and too much love from her, that has been the reason for their quarrelings that made his wife escape with the protagonist.
In that evening his wife disappeared, and he was humiliated in front of her: he saw his whole life destroyed.
So he began to hate the protagonist,
In a way very common to us.

I felt that this unique movie wasn't just the beautiful and surreal love story between the 2 main "unreal" characters, but also a concrete metaphor of our weakness, that we can beat by remaining in silence thinking to be good men with people that surround us, and don't complaining for the hardness of our problems.

[–] patronus89013 17 years ago

I can't say I feel sorry for him.

One of my favorite parts is when Min-Gyu gets smacked...and those glasses go flying! Perfect.

[–] ratttona 8 years ago

A man who beats up, and intimidates a woman, who cannot protect herself is NOT a man and is not worth my sympathy. Yes, the abusers too, are just trying to look for happiness.. in the wrong places.. by expecting perfection from another human being and getting frustrated and not being able to control themselves. But, you know what? Let them figure out their own mental issues, they are not worth my sympathy. And, yes,he is evil - controlling, hurting, isolating another human beings is not love.

[–] princesschaos-748-777596 8 years ago

Are you mad. He beat and raped her. He was an animal.

[–] Mynvosa (117) 9 months ago

Short Answer: No.

Don't know if it's normal, but I was very sorry for him.

Normal? Maybe. Sympathy for shitty men is unfortunately really common.

In my opinion, the character of the husband represents in an exceptional way our personality of modern men and women, oppressed by works and by the looking for a person that love us, who can help us in the most difficult moments.

In your opinion, where in the film was this conveyed? He wanted to completely dominate her life, her style, her body. That was shown very explicitly. What about that signifies to you that he was looking for love and tenderness?

We can see how much he's in love with his wife.

When? Where? How? He was horrible to her in almost every scene they were in together.

In fact he made the mistake to pretend too many comforts and too much love from her, that has been the reason for their quarrelings that made his wife escape with the protagonist.

"Quarreling" is a mutual argument between 2 persons. Abuse is when you beat and attempt to rape your wife because she's wearing a dress you don't like. This is abuse.

In that evening his wife disappeared, and he was humiliated in front of her: he saw his whole life destroyed.
So he began to hate the protagonist,
In a way very common to us.

You left out the part where her leaving was entirely a result of his abuse. You really feel sorry for the husband because he was humiliated in front of his wife after someone had to save her from him? Really?