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lily's husband first episode

posted 11 years ago by skizzie72-1
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wow...cmon man....really you just erase her? ever think your daughter wouldnt be there without her? smh

IM RUNNIN THIS MONKEY FARM NOW FRANKENSTEIN! AND I WANNA KNOW WHAT THE F#@$ UR DOIN WITH MY TIME!

[–] Tyler-A-Arse 11 years ago

Yeah, I kinda thought his attitude was a little bit excessive. He seems to forget that Lily wasn't a bad person. She had no control over what happened to her. He acts as if she had some vindictive vendetta against him and their daughter.

[–] mjd_subs2 11 years ago

I heard of a story once (can't remember if it was in a book or someone told me they read it in a book) in which a grandmother moved into her son's home because his wife was dying of cancer in a hospital. To prepare the three young children, their grandmother told them that their mother was very sick and would probably die soon (I'd like to think she was gentler than this). Well, the mother ended up responding to the cancer treatments and was discharged from the hospital. One would have expected the children to be happy to see their mother again, but the children were mostly confused and angry. In their minds, their mother was "never coming home" and now here she is ready to take over her role in the household after they had learned to adjust to the grandmother running things. It was said that one child said something to the effect of "What are you doing here? We thought you were going to die."

In this sense, I really feel Lily's husband just wanted to be "in the present" and deal with life the way he had been for many years. Her return was a contingency he didn't know how to handle and sadly that created stress for both the daughter and Lily. He didn't think he could just erase her. He was just trying to "move on" with his life with no reasonable expectation that Lily would ever return or what that would mean to their lives when it happened.

[–] susanemccool 11 years ago

Still, he could have shown up for her when they were all released, if only to explain what a jerk he planned on being! She deserves to know her own daughter; introduce her as his long-lost sister, or his new wife's niece, whatever! A restraining order?! That was sloppy writing.

[–] xxxCHRISxxx 11 years ago

No it wasn't bad writting. I kinda get where he was coming from. I lost my mom when I was 14. it was a hard time (I'm now 22) but I moved on. I couldn't handle her being alive again from one day to another.

[–] susanemccool 11 years ago

I'm sorry to hear that. Did Brian tell their daughter that Lily had died, though? Actually, I guess he simply led her to believe his second wife was her (birth) mother. If your mother had "disappeared" then returned - even given such circumstances - might things have been different for you?

Sorry if this is too personal.

[–] minyuette 10 years ago

It's interesting to see how different everyone reacts to death. It's also been about 8 years for me since my father died and I was thinking to myself that even though my entire life changed and I went through the whole grieving process I would be ecstatic to have him back. We all process it differently.

In this case though I believe the husband was more about saving face in front of his current wife and the daughter he'd lied to her entire life. I completely get it why the girl would want to see Lily once she found out. I'm glad he came around though and made an attempt to make amends.

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[–] christeline1 10 years ago

His treatment of her, especially in Epy 2 made me want to throw stuff at the t.v. What a bloody jerk!!!

God loves you as if you were the only person on this earth.

[–] venusthrow 10 years ago

To me it doesn't matter whether or not he expected lily to ever come back. A child should know who her mom is. I know it may be confusing as she had disappeared but yeah I don't care, still the child's mom.

[–] macgirl66 10 years ago

I agree, a child should know who their mother is, it's disrespectful to Lily to deny that she was the biological birth mother, without her their daughter would not exist. If he had any integrity, he should have told his daughter that her mother was believed to be dead, loved her very much and then when he married again, he can explain that his second wife grew to love her as a mother should.

I also agree this was lazy and sloppy writing. If this story was "real", there would be legal recourse for Lily. They were legally married, they possessed a birth certificate with her name on it as the mother, she disappeared for no reason of her own. I can't imagine the court wouldn't allow her at least supervised visitation. Yes, it would be very odd for her daughter to spend time with a woman she doesn't know, but she is getting to an age where she is old enough to understand these types of things and with family counseling, she would have a good chance of eventually develop some kind of relationship, even if it is not a very close one, with her birth mother.

To each their own...opinion

[–] vbel 10 years ago

I almost fell off the couch when she went to visit Lily at the 4400. For some reason it caught me by surprise and I was so happy for Lily.