I understand the ending all of it...
But what do you think would have happened down the line? Do you think he would have resented her?
I think it would have worked. Even with ups and downs and him still growing.
Yes I think it would have been worked too. He liked her and she liked him. Both loved each other and were in love and both knew what they wanted I mean it was not a superficial relationship it was true love but it looks like society can't accept happy things happening not even in movies they want things to be a failure and people not being happy and not being succesful. Sad but true but what is good is that some people don't fail for those prejudices and keep living their lives and ejoying it and it doesn't happen like in the movie.
Also her friends were totally crap always telling her oh it will not work o he is not good for you, no it wasn't good for her because it wasn't happening to them, they wish! Also she is old enough to know what she is doing, what they are doing, for God sake, it looks like nowadays everybody thinks the others are inmature or crazy for doing what they just want.
Anyway *beep* movie because of the end but I like it deep down I enjoy watching it until the moment when they make him starting to play videogames and being untidy and being at home all day, so stereotipical, who is like that? only stupid people and you don't date stupid people. anyway I had to say it:)
She would have more than likely died before him leaving him alone for many many years. Whereas if he found someone his own age there's a chance they won't be alone for long at the end of their lives.
shareShe'll be menopausal when he hits him 'prime' of desirability from women.
That equals disaster.
It may be un PC to say, but I believe its a biological fact that the older male/younger female works far better than the opposite, given our evolutionary biology. Its human nature.
The cougar thing may be empowering to middle age women, but its really sort of a myth. Sure younger guys have flings with older women, but I doubt long term, life relationships are very common.
I'll take Punctuality
I have to agree 100% with this. Especially the biological part.
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It has worked many times, but possibly it would have been hard for her to feel she was "equally yoked" when trying to raise a child or children. She probably could find someone closer to her own age who was willing to throw in on raising children.
However, I agree with ilar2 ... I felt it was a bit out of character for him to be portrayed as lounging around a messy house. I can possibly see the problem with the Nintendo, but he didn't seem like a slob, his family weren't slobs so he probably would have been taught to put things away. That was probably put in there for her to begin to question the age difference but it seemed unfair. But back to your question, all in all I think she just needed to feel secure in a love because she wanted to start a family.
they wanted different things with life because of their age difference, i guess after some time that would have gotten more clear and built resentment and regret
i agree with ending. thats how it was supposed to end and its very realistic ending but at the same time it wasnt explained how they got there. they were kissing each other and after that they just broke up? thats not how it works in real life. people dont break up on that note. usually there has to be fight or something to initiate eventual breakup
She wasn't Jewish. That's the main reason why it would not have worked for him -- not so much for her.
It works, if the couple wants it to. My husband was 25 when I met him, and I was 38. We've been together for 11 years. We're also an interracial couple, so we also had that to contend with.
He is my second marriage. My first marriage, my husband was six months younger than me. That marriage was horrible. So far, no resentments from my husband, and I have none for him. We decided at the get go, what the "rules" for our marriage would be- We are not condescending about our ages. No relationship is easy. The hardest part of our relationship was deciding we were in love and wanted to be together. Everything after that has been logistics and decisions we have made together. We've had ups and downs, but- at no point do I feel my husband is going to give up on me because we aren't the same age, color, religion, etc.
You can have a happy, devoted marriage to anyone if you want to. All it takes is a commitment to make it work.
He's only 23. He hasn't figured his life out yet. He is interested in painting, but that's not a career for 99% of people interested in it. And it's definitely playing against the stereotype of the hard-working professional Jew, which is the culture he was born into, given his mother's profession. He's going to change.
Source: been there, done that.