No ma'am. Absolutely not.
If my daughter talked to me the way Tracy talked to Mel, that little b*tch would be on her hands and knees looking for her teeth.
Noooooo ma'am. Not in this house.
That is called abuse. Even though if your kid talked to you that way, they would be abusing you too. You have the knowledge to know what is right and wrong and they don't. By 13, most kids don't have a fully developed moral inventory. So you just admitted that you would abuse your daughter. Please dont have kids.
shareI'm an intelligent person who knew from a very young age kids weren't for me, so I don't ever plan on having any. Got my bases covered, thanks.
And it is absolutely not abuse if the kid steps way out of line one too may times just like the way Evan's character did in this movie. No wonder she didn't respect her pushover, "victim" of a mother. Why would she? She knows she can get away with anything. You have to show your kids that respect is a must, not an option, and if they step out line one too many times like Tracy did, you put them in their place. You call it abuse. I call it discipline.
And if your kid doesn't have the "knowledge to know" the difference between right and wrong by age 13, there is something detrimentally wrong with your parenting. You might want to reconsider having children if you don't have them already, because by the sounds of it you would let them get away with just about anything and then wonder why the end up on the 6 o'clock news because they were too spoiled and entitled their whole lives to "know any better."
"And it is absolutely not abuse if the kid steps way out of line one too may times just like the way Evan's character did in this movie. No wonder she didn't respect her pushover, "victim" of a mother. Why would she? She knows she can get away with anything. You have to show your kids that respect is a must, not an option, and if they step out line one too many times like Tracy did, you put them in their place. You call it abuse. I call it discipline"
You don't have to resort to violence to make your children respect you. My mother never laid a finger on me or my brother, but we would NEVER step out of line with her. She was an extremely strong character. It was in the tone of her voice, her facial expressions, she made sure we KNEW where the line was. If we crossed it she'd make us feel incredibly guilty and sorry, but with words. Just as effective.
Then when we were teenagers we knew if we treated her with respect, she'd treat us with respect. I don't think you can grow up respecting a parent who beat you. You'd fear them, probably, but fear and respect are not the same thing.
If you can't control your children without physically hurting them you're not a good parent, you're just a bully.
I respect my dad a helluva lot more than my mom, and he never once laid a hand on me. My mom hit me several times when I was younger before she decided she didn't like it...but it was her hitting me that made me lose all respect for her. Mom's hitting, screaming, and tantrums just convinced me she was a hysterical bully. Dad had his way of being firm, and yes, there are times where he was wrong about me and what to do with me, but his treating me with respect is what made me respect him too.
I eventually had to push my mother away because accepting her violent behavior made it harder to see the red flags in abusive relationships. Your definition of discipline will either cause your children to go into violent abusive relationships, or become violent abusers themselves.