That was a ridiculous piece of plot. Be happy in public.
Turn it down in private, at least.
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What is wrong with your parents giving you a house? Wow,what a great gift,wish someone would buy me a house lol
You appear to have missed the joke...
As the camera pans back from their driveway at the end, it's right next door to her parents' house!
um,no I realize that,if they didnt want to live there,they could have sold it.I would have loved to had lived beside my parents,.
The OP didnt allude to what you are saying,they just said they shouldnt have bought them a house so please dont act like I am clueless here...
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If you check the 'threaded view', you'll notice that my post is replying to the one above your one, not necessarily yours.
Anyway, fact remains, it was a plot device... a joke in a comedy film.
Don't overanalyse it so much.
that's actually how it goes in Greece my neighbours own a block of apartments and both daughters have an apartment each with their husbands plus their parents in the top one
shareno polite thing to sell a wedding present either huh.
shareObviously the OP is Canadian or American. Europeans, Africans, Asians, etc. don't have issues with living with or so close to their parents.
My aunt and uncle gave their mansion to their daughter and her hubby when they got married. Now my uncle and aunt live in the basement of their daughters house.
I know plenty of adult married children that live with their parents.
For some reasons, it's only Americans and Canadians that don't do this. They're also (usually) the ones that stuff their elderly parents into old folks homes and never visit them.
My mum and dad have three houses including our family home. He bought the house on the left side of his house and the one behind intending for them to go to his children. His parents also live on the right side of his house and my maternal grandparents live behind mum and dad, and my Aunty previously owned the left house. That's just how my family roles. Were new zealand Maori which is the native culture of new zealand. Its really a cultural thing too to have the whole family gather around and be together and support each other as much as we can. I can't imagine life any other way than to have those you love with you. We also love in a community which is filled primarily with relatives. Lol. It's like no matter where we go, we find someone connected to us somehow.
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I wish my parents had bought me a house! It was wonderful they paid for my wedding but I didn't even know 80% of the guests (their guests). A down payment on a house would have been wonderful!
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The whole point of this movie is to explain another culture, and the Greek culture is one in which the family buys the newlyweds a house. From what I have observed, it is primarily -- if only -- in American culture that young people are left to fend for themselves. Any American youth who is helped by family is considered spoiled, indulged, unable to make his own way in the world.
Not all Americans are like this. I know a lot of people, myself included, who wouldn't be where they are today if it weren't for the help and support of their families.
It may be true for a small percentage of Americans that they are expected to make it on their own without any help whatsoever, but a majority of young Americans are helped in one way or another. In fact, a lot of the kids I went to college with had their apartments, tuition, cars and car insurance paid for by their parents. AND they gave them spending money for clothes, food, etc. My parents weren't able to help me all that much, but I was grateful for what they could help me with.
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You make a valid point because many young Americans are subsidized by parents these days. However, there still are some who expect adult children to be totally on their own when they come of age. Unfortunately, this hard-nosed idea extends to the realm of inheriting property in the Midwest, where I live. Would you believe people who are SUPPOSED to be heirs have to BUY what they want from an estate? If they cannot come up with the cash, the property goes to strangers who do have the money. I still believe heirs should be given the property or have it deeded over to them, but that no longer is the norm around here. Personally, I think it is terrible and tragic that older people in the Midwest no longer want to keep their families and property together any more. Selling the property to strangers is pointless because the older people will not take the money with them when they die anyway.
The point the movie made was how the extended families of Greeks (and probably other Mediterranean groups) stick together and help each other. The white bread people of the Midwest would get further in life if they would stick together in the same way.
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annakins - that's a bit of a bigoted remark, don't you think? I know if my mom was well-off enough she would help me buy a house for the first time, and I'd do the same for her. I also would love her to be close by when I have children so she can spend time with them!
Trust me, while it may seem with our "totally unscripted" reality television shows nowadays that American kids are spoiled rotten brats, there are some parent/children teams out there that really have similar views to you.
Just speaking from a personal perspective, I wouldn't want my parents to buy me a house nor would I ever want to live next door to them. I'm American, and I grew up in a physically/emotionally abusive home. If my parents bought me a house, I'd never hear the end of it..
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It all depends on the situation. Ian said his life was boring and really seemed to enjoy being apart of Toula's family and the closeness, so I don't see what the big deal was in their particular situation. Would I want to live next door to my in-laws or my parents? Hell no, but that's just me.
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My inlaws (well my FiL, my MiL had already passed) gave my husband and I a down payment for a house, which helped us out especially when we were just starting out.
We ended up buying the house right next to my FiL, so our kids could play with their grandfather and due to his bad health we wanted to be there. It might not be what a lot of people do, but I know many who do live close to their parents or on the same property.
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I think it's more ridiculous to turn down the gift to be honest with you. Don't hate simply because YOUR mortgage payments are strangling you financially. Jealous much. No offense, I'm just saying.
shareTwo of my three children were more than glad to accept my help in buying their homes. And they chose to live within walking distance of my home, the house they grew up in. My third, moved half way across the country and with the help of his father in law, bought a house two blocks away from him. It's what family does for family. It's not for everybody. But if a family is close, remaining close is important from generation to generation. Four of my five grandchildren ride their bikes to see grandma and granddad (even the oldest who is 16 and is at the age where they don't like to be associated with their families) all the time. The fifth lives far away and is only six months old. But I'm sure she too will feel as at home in her other grandfather's house as she is in her own.
shareI'm with you, doowop14. Without my family, my brothers and I wouldn't be where we are today. What's the big deal with accepting people's help? It in no way makes you weak, or whatever. Personally, I think to turn something like this down makes you stupid and much too prideful. There's a gal I know who is like this. While her sister and brother were grateful for her parents' help when buying a home, she thumbed her nose at them, left home, and decided to do things on her own (with her husband), and is so prideful of what she accomplished that she looks down on anyone who doesn't do the same. OK, so she wanted to do things on her own, that's great FOR HER. That doesn't mean that her sister and brother are weak or stupid for accepting their parents' help, nor does it make ANYONE who accepts their family's help, weak.
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while I should be grateful, I might be uncomfortable with my in-laws buying me a house. maybe less if it were my own parents? not sure. but the reason I wouldn't care for it is not pride as much as that I think it needs to be up to my spouse and I WHERE and WHAT type of house we live in.
shareIt's the tradition, and it symbolized Toula's parents coming to accept her marriage to Ian. If they didn't want it, they could have sold it.
shareExcuse me but it is NOT tradition! Not every new couple of Greeks, in Greece or abroad, must receive a house as a wedding gift! T's parents WANTED to do this for them, were in a position where they could AFFORD it and they went ahead and did it! Simple as that. Other are much more "modest" in their gifts (a car may seem too out of reach for most Greeks today) so please, don't say it's tradition! It is NOT!
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While the house was a lovely gift (and the bride's parents didn't see anything wrong with doing this), if I had been Ian's parents, I believe I would have been somewhat annoyed and probably a whole lot jealous! How do you top the gift of A House??? And it was kind of a chintzy house, too, next door to Dad's palatial home, don't you think?
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It is a tradition in Greece though that the bride has some sort of "dowry". Some people can afford to give away their daughter with a house, some with less...back in our middle ages we used to give our daughters away with a flock of sheep.
It is also a tradition in Greece that the father of the bride pays for the wedding, the groom pays for the bride's dress, and the best man/maid of honor (we don't have exactly that) pays for the glass used for the couple to drink communion for the first time as a married couple.
Anyway, the gift thing, usually if there's a house involved, it's already passed down to the bride before the wedding for "when you get married and want to start a family".
you obviously didn't get the movie if you say this.
and did you see where and what the house was?
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