inner beauty is very important, but...

I think well-to-do, success oriented males are looking for a mate who is socially presentable, although they'll claim they're looking for someone who is intelligent, compatible, etc. But socially presentable is probably a must-have quality that they won't want to talk about.

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The story is king.

It ain't the beauty.....it's the bootie.



Whose idea was it for the word "Lisp" to have an "S" in it?

And that is why there are so many failed marriages because people look at the package and not what is inside the package and when those two don't match there becomes problems.

True.

The movie takes a nice concept and takes it to the extreme. In actuality everyone would prefer to be with someone they found physically attractive but that isn't the only thing, you have to like the person themselves and their heart and personality. You have to have things in common.

The movie kind of goes to the extreme and in actuality is false by going so far as to imply that ONLY the inner heart and personality count and that physical attractiveness should not matter at ALL.

They imply a relationship should be 100% inner beauty and 0% looks.

In reality it is probably more like 50% inner beauty and 50% looks.

Maybe that just proves how shallow people are.

Partially true.

The thing is, 'inner beauty' (whatever that means, actually - that you look skinny, though you are really fat? What? Shouldn't it be something like 'kindness', instead?) is not important for attraction, mating, sex, hugging, kissing, passion, or even romance.

It's only important when it comes to long-term-relationships, and even then you'll probably notice that women mostly don't have it - no matter if they are ugly or pretty on the outside.

It's almost opposite to this movie's message anyway - when women are young, fertile, bubbly and happy, they are more pleasant and joyful to be around. But when they hit the wall, lose their beauty, radiance and become just another wrinkly-faced tub of lard-aunt with a bulldog-face in the crowd, they become vicious, spiteful, resentful, hateful and completely impossible to be with.

I wouldn't even say there is any 'inner beauty', because it's too vague a concept (and this movie says that 'inner beauty' looks a lot like 'outer beauty' anyway), and is not clearly defined. It's basically what ugly people say.

There's beauty - and there's kindness. An ugly man can be kind, and beautiful woman can be nasty. But I wouldn't say that the man has 'inner beauty' or that the woman has 'inner ugliness'. That's just muddying the waters.

Let's call beauty just beauty, and then use appropriate words for the other qualities (that have nothing to do with any visuals), and keep things simple and clear - instead of gimmicky and confusing.

So, there is no inner beauty, so it can't be important.

Kindness, empathy, sympathy, caring, friendliness, respect and warmth towards others are important, especially in long-term-relationships, and not only intimate ones, but other kinds as well. But let's not call it 'beauty' - let's leave THAT word for the VISUAL things - which is what the word is supposed to refer to anyway (otherwise it wouldn't need a qualification word preceding it).

Do you date women without talking to them first? I dated an obese girl I met at a party for a couple years on and off. We started talking and got along great, that's really all that is important to me, besides hygiene, and she was on top of that and worked at an STD clinic.

I don't want to read too much into the movie but all the girls that were attractive in the movie were ugly on the inside, as if no good looking girls were nice people lol. To me looks are important but not the most important, I still feel I need to feel attracted to them and able to have an active sex life with them. There has to be feelings involved and at the same time a physical attraction IMO.

Y'know, I could eat a peach for hours